To go for compensation

This sounds familiar. Have you posted about this before on here OP?

Fair enough, but the one I know does employ a man, useful for deterring unwanted (male) visitors.

There is so much poor advice legal and otherwise on this thread. Please go and see a solicitor. An employer can be held vicariously liable for the actions of their employee and you do not need to show financial loss in this type of action. However a solicitor will go through the full details of what happened, when and how and be able to advise whether there is any cause of action. Don't be put off by people saying not to take money from a charity. They will have insurance that covers such issues.

I personally wouldn’t seek compensation from a charity but I would expect him to be nowhere near vulnerable women in future, hopefully he has lost his job.

They employed a man in a women's refuge. I have worked in many, men aren't even allowed to visit for education classes (the reason I was there). I couldn't have got a lift from my DH, no man gets the address.

Basic safety. Most people don't know what men will do to gain access. Count yourselves lucky if you don't.

Did you lend him or give him money during this relationship ? I think that when you “go for compensation” you need to prove a financial loss like medical fees but I am not a lawyer.

Also why are you suing the refuge who sounds like they acted quickly rather than the man?

It sounds like he did take advantage of his position but it also sounds like The Refuge behaved appropriately when it cam to light so I am not sure why you would be eligible for compensation
Also, would you really want to take money away from an organisation set up to help vunerable women?

If your relationship was consensual as it sounds it was as you said he gaslighted you into a sexual relationship then you are being highly unreasonable. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions and move forwards and learn from it.

What did he do to you?

Of course he blocked you on everything. Once you told his employer, he’d have been in trouble with them and told to have no more contact with any of the women in the refuge.

The refuge will have rules for all staff to follow regarding relationships with the women staying there. The guys will no doubt be fired for breaching his contract. It only really becomes criminal if he abused you in some way though; did he?

It sounds like a consensual relationship; you went along with it so would they pay compensation? Or did he attack you?

Why do you think you should get compensation? What did the refuge, the organisation, do wrong? Presumably they didn’t know what the man was like. He is obviously a swine, and it shouldn’t have happened, but you getting compensation won’t change that. It would just make the refuge, or whoever funds it, poorer.

Did you report to the police?

See a solicitor.