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Please critique my first ever bbq menu

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Liud · 14/04/2025 11:58

Hosting my first bbq this weekend in my first home.
Sadly the weather looks a little iffy but we’ll have a laugh regardless.

This is my menu. We have a few vegetarians. I think it’s a very easy menu as I can give dh the skewers I’ve premarinated. And the rest can be prepared in advance.

The only thing that really requires effort is the focaccia (I don’t love making bread but I love the recipe).

Its probably a bit carb heavy but I’ve done it that way with the vegetarians in mind.

Pasta salad
Homemade focaccia
Greek salad
Bombay new potatoes (dishoom recipe)
Butter herb new potatoes (for ppl who don’t like coriander)
Halloumi skewers
Veg skewers
Tandoori style chicken skewers (tastes better than takeaways imo)
Mint lamb kofte
Corn on the cob

Homemade mint chutney
tamarind sauce
Mango chutney

Crisps and shop bought dips
Nuts

Key lime pie
Profiteroles

Wine
Beer

OP posts:
Abenny · 14/04/2025 19:11

Sounds lush. I wouldn't personally bother doing the other potatoes- just do the ones you like, there are plenty of other options if someone doesn't like coriander.

OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 14/04/2025 19:05

It looks lovely OP.

But I'd secretly cry at the mint in the lamb.

Lamb is my favourite meat by far but I absolutely hate mint 😭🐑

Arancia · 14/04/2025 19:05

Liud · 14/04/2025 14:46

I think it’s strange how people think there’s only one way to do a barbecue - ie sausages, burgers, coleslaw, jackets

The world is a big place with lots of different ideas!

I'm not knocking that kind of barbecue I do that regularly

You are not very accepting of criticism for someone who has created a thread ASKING for criticism.

It's not that there's only one way to do a barbecue, but a barbecue = grilling meats over a fire...and you plan on providing your guests with only two meat options, and 500 sides with very clashing flavours that don't go together at all. By all means do you, but I can't quite understand the point of this thread when the only feedback you are willing to take on board is to reduce the carbs.

kitchenplans · 14/04/2025 19:02

Op, I think your menu sounds nice, and I'd actively enjoy eating it. I don't enjoy BBQs that are just cheap burgers and sausages served in pappy white bread. I'm quite surprised how many on here want UPF muck rather than a properly seasoned variety of delicious home made foods.

Charlotte120221 · 14/04/2025 18:40

Love that you ask people to critique it and then reject 99% of the criticism!

honestly? It’s just a bit fancy. Cooking salmon and skewers on a bbq is much harder work than sausages or steaks.

if your veggie friends are strict they don’t want their stuff cooked with salmon or chicken anyway…

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 14/04/2025 18:36

Omg! After replying to 1st PP, I've noted the entire carbs/potato, police are out in force.!

ShrinkingAndEmerging · 14/04/2025 18:35

Oh wow! Can I come? That sounds great.

If I was preparing a BBQ I’d make it much simpler, but if you are happy to put all the work in then that sounds really good.

TheCountofMountingCrispBags · 14/04/2025 18:34

SpaceOP · 14/04/2025 12:02

I think that sounds lovely but like a lot of work and definitely too many carbs/potato options. I would have just 1 type of potato but really, if doing bread as well, I'd go with one either pasta or potato salad. If you want more variety, Id' go for a different type of salad - I am always amazed at BBQs how good salads do go down well vs in normal life. Ilike a tomato/red onion/parsley salad with sherry vinegar and olive oil, or a watermelon, cucumber, feta, lime and chilli salad is nice. Or just a nice traditional green salad that you can make more interesting with things like chargrilled veg etc. '

Are you the potato police?!! There can never be too many potato/carb options!
If you don't want more than one choice, great. But those of us who like a potato or 6, leave us with a choice

TheIceBear · 14/04/2025 18:32

That sounds absolutely delish to me, I like a bit of variety.

CountryQueen · 14/04/2025 18:31

Sorry, I’m with the burger people and I’m not a fussy eater. Wouldn’t touch pasta salad or cous cous or anything like that and the potatoes don’t go either.

Too many skewers (fiddly and annoying to eat) especially with sloppy potatoes and olives and feta and pasta rolling round on the plate whilst trying to balance a slab of focaccia on the side.

Salmon really doesn’t go so I wouldn’t add that at all

WimbyAce · 14/04/2025 18:27

You do need some normal meat, the salmon has not helped the menu. People will be looking for a more plain meat. I know few of my family would enjoy this bbq sorry.

godmum56 · 14/04/2025 18:25

ChangeisntalwaysfortheBetter · 14/04/2025 15:44

I think that the meat op has on offer has quite strong flavours. If you know the taste of those attending, that is fine, if you don't I feel you need not as many specific dishes, and a couple of none specific.
Maybe a plainer meat to suit more palettes? Pulled chicken or something?

Edited

yes I agree.....not bothered about only lamb or chicken but there is nothing plain. I think it depends if you know your guests...if you do and you know what they will enjoy then no need for a critique....but if there are people you don't know well, then I'd make sure there is something plain and run of the mill.

TheChosenTwo · 14/04/2025 18:22

Would be delighted to not be presented by a sausage and burger at a bbq, fucking hate the things and we almost never do them 😂
your menu sounds nice, I wouldn’t eat the pasta salad and would prefer a big thick juicy steak as an addition but it’s a nice menu with plenty of choice.

Wilfrida1 · 14/04/2025 18:19

Ignore the negative Nancys! What time do you want me?

WimbyAce · 14/04/2025 18:18

I guess it depends who you are inviting. If I was coming I'd think even though I'm fussy would be safe at a bbq for options but there's not much I would eat there. You need to offer some kind of burger or sausage for any fussy eaters.

CosyNavyLeader · 14/04/2025 18:18

Id swap the pasta salad for a roasted veg cous cous. It would compliment the rest far better in my opinion.

FortyNineAndABit · 14/04/2025 18:13

I'm veggie and I would be delighted. I would have a bit of everything apart from the meat and would think you had done a great job with the catering.

Hoppinggreen · 14/04/2025 18:13

RedToothBrush · 14/04/2025 16:08

Also. A bag of frozen sausage rolls at a BBQ NEVER are unappreciated!

Seriously?
Buffet maybe at a pinch but not a BBQ

Enrichetta · 14/04/2025 18:08

Liud · 14/04/2025 17:27

I’ve never hosted a bbq. I’ve made tandoori chicken on a barbecue for dh and I before. Never had a bbq as a party

Edited

I'm flabbergasted that so many here think your menu doesn't include enough meat and would choose burgers and sausages - presumably shop bought and thus UPF? - over homemade chicken and kofte.

Seriously, you know your friends and I guess you'll know a little about their food preferences, so just go with what you feel comfortable with. I'd aim for equal thirds of meat, carbs and salad (maybe extra non-meat options, depending on the number of vegetarians), plus fruit and ice cream for dessert.

PS: is there room for me..... can I come 😁

ChangeisntalwaysfortheBetter · 14/04/2025 18:04

RampantIvy · 14/04/2025 18:00

and is very rigid on her idea of what constitutes a good bbq

So, not at all like all the posters on this thread with very conservative tastes who will only eat burgers and sausages @ChangeisntalwaysfortheBetter ?

Oh the irony.

It strikes me that most of the posters on here either eat children's diets or just don't like "forrin muck".

@Liud you know your guests better than the posters on here do. If you know they will enjoy your menu then ignore the posters who eat boring diets and who are unable to think of anything more imaginative than burgers and sausages.

Although, I must admit that while I would enjoy every bit your menu tremendously, I do like an overdone barbecued sausage 😁

I agree that being rigid isn't the way no matter of your tastes yes. The issue is that op created the thread asking for critique, they didn't. Taste is subjective imo, and one size doesn't fit all unless you know your crowd.

SunnieShine · 14/04/2025 18:03

Looks gorgeous. Veggies usually get rubbish food at BBQs but I would be delighted with this menu.😛

RampantIvy · 14/04/2025 18:00

and is very rigid on her idea of what constitutes a good bbq

So, not at all like all the posters on this thread with very conservative tastes who will only eat burgers and sausages @ChangeisntalwaysfortheBetter ?

Oh the irony.

It strikes me that most of the posters on here either eat children's diets or just don't like "forrin muck".

@Liud you know your guests better than the posters on here do. If you know they will enjoy your menu then ignore the posters who eat boring diets and who are unable to think of anything more imaginative than burgers and sausages.

Although, I must admit that while I would enjoy every bit your menu tremendously, I do like an overdone barbecued sausage 😁

AprilBunny · 14/04/2025 17:57

Adding salmon is a good shout, when I read your menu I did think there was a salmon gap there but I want sure if that was just because that’s what I love. I’m all about veggie and chicken skewers, salmon, potato and salads. I always avoid the burgers and sausages.

hididdlyho · 14/04/2025 17:54

Sounds great and you've got much better veggie options than your standard fake meat. I would expect a BBQ to be a carb heavy event, a bit like a roast dinner. I'm sure the potato dishes will get eaten up once people have had a few drinks.

doodleschnoodle · 14/04/2025 17:53

You might find you end up with extra meat anyway as people often bring stuff to barbecues. Whenever we have one, everyone brings stuff and we end up with loads!