If you work full time, would you do your 17/18 year old's washing and ironing?

I did while mine were at school, but not after that. We only have one at home now and no-one seems to wear anything that needs ironing. I’m not be ironing 10 shirts a week anymore, but it didn’t bother me. I’d do it in front of the tv.

You actually separated your own washing from your 13/14 year olds and just did your own??

I wash whatever is in the basket as does everyone else in the house but I don’t iron any for anybody.

In our house everyone is responsible for doing (or choosing not to do) their own ironing if they are secondary school age or older.

But, if it's stuff that has to be ironed for school, I would be cutting an almost at A Levels DC some slack at this point and doing it for them. If it's a top for an evening out, not a chance :)

Washing - yes
Ironing - absolutely not.
I try to avoid ironing for myself so certainly wouldn’t be doing it for anyone else. Possibly in a crisis like they had a job interview and were running out of time to iron the shirt, but likely to just remind them earlier to do their shirt so avoid the crisis situation.

At that age my kids helped out doing the family laundry. If they washed their jeans they would also chuck in some other darks from the laundry basket too. It was a family chore and we all took responsibility for keeping on top of it. I had 4 kids and a full time job. No way could I have treated them as if they were still primary age. We had the attitude of the family is a team that worked together so everyone had leisure time and helped out to get stuff done.

I am very lucky with my mum, she done all my ironing until I moved out at 25 haha! She’d do my work uniforms for me on a Sunday because she would be ironing my younger sister’s school uniform (big age gap) so she done mine as well.

No, not at that age. Washing, yes, because the load is going on anyway. But ironing no.

I do iron all the uniform, and my own work clothes and t shirts - I like looking smart. I wouldn’t iron anything for other people other than the DC’s uniforms

my 14yo changes his own sheets, brings his washing down, puts the clean stuff away, hoovers his own room and empties the dishwasher. That’s enough for me at the moment tbh.

It's a life skill, teaching your children how to do these things IS inconvenient but that's a large part of parenting imo.
Just the same as teaching them how to cook, it takes time, sure I could do it all quicker but then they'd leave home not knowing how to make their own food.

What needs hours of ironing? Just stop doing it.

The only stuff that really needs ironing is shirts.

@bookworm8500 my brother’s kids have a chores rota. My Mum was a SAHM although later did Dad’s self-employed accounts. As a teen I changed my bedlinen and did washloads as and when needed. And my own ironing. So did my brothers. All able to cook, rustle up decent meals and so on. Brothers are both better cooks than me. We are all quite handy as Dad encouraged us. As a parent our job is to turn small people we have to do everything for, into adults who can do it all themselves. So I think your DD should step up,
especially with you working.

I can’t think when I last ironed anything!

My rule with my teenagers is that if they bring their laundry basket down, I'll put it in the washer and hang on line/airer, then fold (I can get a couple of loads done by putting in before work, swapping over at lunchtime, etc cos I wfh). They have to take it upstairs and put away.

I don't iron anything 😂

I don’t do anybody’s ironing, even my own. I would do the washing as everything goes in the same basket here. I wouldn’t do ironing for a capable 17 year old.

I don't iron anything at all. But my 18 year old son offered to do his own laundry and I refused as he is the oldest of 4 and I'd personally rather know the machine was available when I wanted to use it. If he wanted his clothes ironed he would do it himself. I was doing all the families ironing when I was a young teenager.

I just cannot fathom why anyone would spent time separating washing to ensure DC are doing their own. Absolutely bonkers.

Ironing gets done when needed here. Usually before being worn. Again, not sure why ironing for hours is necessary.

She's old enough to decide for herself whether ironing is worth the effort. She can wear unironed clothes or do her own ironing, either choice is valid.

I don't iron at all and haven't for years and years. Dy flat, hang shirts.
I do DD (19) washing but she's perfectly capable of bunging a load in and will do. I just happen to do the washing when she is at work usually. She will do ours if she's home. It's just a shared chore.

I do my 17yr olds washing, as it goes in with everyone else’s, but once washed and dried it gets out on her bed to iron and put away

Given we are on this topic. How do you know whose pants belong to what?

No to the ironing. She gets to decide if she's bothered about it being ironed and do it or not as she sees fit.
Washing would be only as and when it suits if there's space for it, up to her to make sure anything specifically required is sorted. Shouldn't be your job to make sure there's a clean shirt for work.

My 17 does his own washing and he has been shown how to iron but doesn't.

We washed everyone's together but by that age I was putting on the washing machine with whatever was in the basket. It was just one of those household jobs everyone did.