To refuse to take responsibility for DP's dog walk before work

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As a current dog owner, in my view it’s down to the individual dog and owner. If your dog won’t go in the garden then of course you need to take them out first thing but with most dogs this is not the case. As long as they get walked properly it doesn’t matter if they go morning, lunchtime or evening there’s no rule and to say it’s neglectful taking them a few hours later is just daft. You do realise that some paid dog walkers do arrive at the homes until lunchtime or afternoon?! Should the owners be reported to the rspca for cruelty because that dog gets properly walked later in the day?? Jeez the huffers and puffers on this site are getting more and more ridiculous every day 🙄

I agree. Particularly if a dog is used to being walked first thing, it can be stressful to them if this suddenly stops.

We’ve always taken ours our first thing in the morning and then again at tea time. They have access to the garden during the day and they have a toilet area at the side of our garden to use.

As a former owner of dogs, they do need to go for a morning walk, they may end up constipated etc or messing on floor if not. Some dogs don’t like to toilet in their gardens.
In my view it’s a bit neglectful not to take your dog for a walk at least a couple times a day, morning & evening .

YANBU unless it was your idea to get the dog in the first place, rather than a shared one as I would hate to have to work until 6pm just because my DP was apparently unable to walk a dog before they leave the house at 9.15 am.

DH leaves the house at 8 ish and cycles in and walks rookiedog before then. I will do it if I am wfh and he is desperate or unwell, but I find if I do it in the morning as well as lunchtime, I get resentful as he is the one who wanted a dog and he is the one who cut back on the paid dog walking.

I do find it funny that apparently unless you relish every single walk, you can’t be a good dog owner. Mostly it’s just like having DCs with a lot of repetitive slog and the occasional bright spot at the beach.

Yes, “may” but this person was stating it was cruel not to walk a dog first thing which is frankly ridiculous

Some dogs won’t toilet in their own garden, so yes, a dog may well need to be walked first thing.

I would like to think that if a dog walker isn't coming until the afternoon, that the dog's owners are caring enough to give it an early morning walk.

Even if the dog walker is coming late morning, it still needs a short walk or would you expect it to sit with it's legs crossed.

Oh don’t be so ridiculous and dramatic as long as the dog is walked during the day at some point there is no issue. Dog walkers don’t show up till later in the morning or afternoon, is that cruel?! 🙄

It’s a shared dog. She’s talking about OP’s dog walk, as in her share of the dog walking. The title is DP’s dog walk, not DP’s dog’s walk.

Don’t either of you like the dog? It should be a great thing to do with him!! Go together and enjoy the experience rather than making it a chore and battle of wills

No, it says DPs dog walk, that's not saying its her dog.

It's not confusing? It literally says in the title it's DPs dog. IDK what world you all live in but in my world a pet is basically the owners hobby. Nobody gets to buy a pet then tell me I'm responsible for 50% of its care just because I live in the same house. I like dogs, but in this scenario I'd only be offering to walk the dog occasionally, when I felt like it. There'd already be more housework to suck up because of muddy paws, wet noses, shedding hair and coat grease. All of which gets everywhere. It's not like there's no compromise involved in living with a dog.

I am at work by 7, have a 30 minute commute, and I have already walked the dog before I leave home. It's very doable. All you need is an alarm clock, a dog, suitable clothing and a front door. Your DP needs to get a grip.

Good lord, DH and I fight over who gets to do the dog walk. It's a precious bit of peace, quiet and exercise in the fresh air. Walking the dog will make you live a longer, healthier life 🤣 Maybe a change of perspective is needed.

She gets up earlier to do her share of the dog walk. It’s not rocket science.

I have a yard of horses to do before work everyday. If I have to be in work earlier, then I get up earlier to ensure the horses are all fed, turned out and mucked out beforehand. If that means it’s a 5am start, so be it.

Also, why do you get only 3 days, 2 of which are the weekend? Sounds like you need to re-split the days and make it a bit more fair.

why don't you compromise
you do one extra morning

Why can't she get up earlier?

I am in work for 8:30am every day, have a 30-40 minute commute.. I get up at 6am, out the door for 6:15am to take the dog on a 40 minute walk each morning. Get back, have a coffee, quick shower, put makeup on, get dressed. It never feels particularly rushed either.

If she takes food to work, she just needs to get her stuff sorted the night before.

It can be done! If you do it once, it'll turn into twice and then before you know it you'll be doing it all week.

I'd like to know if there are kids involved and who deals with that in the mornings.

Who does the dog belong to? If it’s partner’s dog, then partner needs to take responsibility and get up earlier.

If it’s a shared/ family dog, then you figure out a fair arrangement following a change in circumstances.

If it’s your dog, you sort it.

Why can't she get up earlier?

Why does the DP work part time?

Of course the dog needs to be walked before the OP and her partner go to work in the morning. To not walk it is cruel.

I start work at 6am. I have an hours commute. My dogs are still walked for minimum half an hour before I go to work.