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What threads do you always hide?

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Acc0untant · 13/04/2025 17:00

If any!

If I scroll through and see anyone ask about accountancy help, HMRC advice, tax return, accounts etc I just hide them. I can't stand seeing 90% of the "advice" on those threads being absolute bollocks.

I used to hide the divorce ones when I was going through mine, I didn't want extra headspace going into it.

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AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/04/2025 08:21

ilovesooty · 17/04/2025 08:17

It's poor manners to spam a thread with half a dozen consecutive posts while saying I'll post what I want where I want It's the online equivalent of being a pub bore who sits at someone's table and tries to dictate the conversation.

It’s a public discussion forum and people can reply to posts as they see fit. Especially what they see as nonsensical posts. Which is what’s happening here. It’s not a difficult concept to understand. How about you stick to the thread topic if you’re so bothered about it.

ilovesooty · 17/04/2025 08:19

SonoPazziQuestiRomani · 17/04/2025 08:18

And the ones that have suspiciously regular "updates" as the story unfolds, and then move on to multiple threads 🙄

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Oh I agree. I don't think I'd bother hiding them though.

SonoPazziQuestiRomani · 17/04/2025 08:18

user109876543 · 17/04/2025 08:16

Yes, tell yourself that's what I meant.

@Acc0untant I hide the ones where the author is trying too hard for an authorial voice, very stylised re-tellings of improbably scenarios that go on and on, getting more and more embellished, with people clamouring for every detail and responding with texts they would send, things they would say, letters they would write.

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And the ones that have suspiciously regular "updates" as the story unfolds, and then move on to multiple threads 🙄

ilovesooty · 17/04/2025 08:17

It's poor manners to spam a thread with half a dozen consecutive posts while saying I'll post what I want where I want It's the online equivalent of being a pub bore who sits at someone's table and tries to dictate the conversation.

SonoPazziQuestiRomani · 17/04/2025 08:17

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/04/2025 08:13

Not so much poor manners but the utter naivety to think you can persistently call posters of a board ‘anti-trans’ without so much of a decent example (or any example) despite being given evidence to the contrary and expect no push back. Mental.

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It's not naivety, it's deliberate so as to help perpetuate the myth (to people who aren't familiar with the actual issues) that GC = anti-trans.

user109876543 · 17/04/2025 08:16

DoddlesMcDoddle · 17/04/2025 08:09

Oh, I forgot. Women are supposed to speak in a soft voice and never get angry. If we do, we are like some right wing male.

That's misogyny.

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Yes, tell yourself that's what I meant.

@Acc0untant I hide the ones where the author is trying too hard for an authorial voice, very stylised re-tellings of improbably scenarios that go on and on, getting more and more embellished, with people clamouring for every detail and responding with texts they would send, things they would say, letters they would write.

SonoPazziQuestiRomani · 17/04/2025 08:15

Acc0untant · 17/04/2025 08:07

It just takes someone to be the bigger person and say "we have a difference of opinion and aren't going to resolve it here so let's just call it a day."

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That assumes that both posters are posting in good faith, which the TRAs often aren't, but why people keep arguing with them, especially on unrelated threads, I don't understand!

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 17/04/2025 08:13

ilovesooty · 17/04/2025 08:05

I'm sorry your thread has been persistently derailed by some posters exhibiting such poor manners.

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Not so much poor manners but the utter naivety to think you can persistently call posters of a board ‘anti-trans’ without so much of a decent example (or any example) despite being given evidence to the contrary and expect no push back. Mental.

SonoPazziQuestiRomani · 17/04/2025 08:12

Yaaaassssssqueeeeeennnnnslay · 17/04/2025 08:03

None! I just don’t read ones that do t interest me! Don’t know hiding them was a thing…

I only discovered recently that you can hide entire topics from appearing in your Active feed!

SonoPazziQuestiRomani · 17/04/2025 08:11

Threads where people keep going trip-trapping over the bridge...

DoddlesMcDoddle · 17/04/2025 08:11

ilovesooty · 17/04/2025 08:05

I'm sorry your thread has been persistently derailed by some posters exhibiting such poor manners.

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OP can blame the misogynists who call womens rights 'anti trans'. If they didn't do that, they wouldn't need to be corrected.

But I'm out of this thread.

DoddlesMcDoddle · 17/04/2025 08:09

user109876543 · 17/04/2025 07:51

You have a Donald-Trump-like posting style. It's like reading one of his 'truths', the random capitalisation, the breathlessness, the accusations, the scare quotes, the bolding. Not difficult to understand why so many of us are naming these threads.

@whatwaytoturn I'm sorry. I think that's very understandable. Please don't feel bad.

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Oh, I forgot. Women are supposed to speak in a soft voice and never get angry. If we do, we are like some right wing male.

That's misogyny.

ilovesooty · 17/04/2025 08:08

WheresTheLambSauce · 17/04/2025 04:59

  • Parking threads - I'm terrible at reading diagrams, and they're never as dramatic as I hope they'll be 😅
  • Transvestigation/Single sex spaces/Any threads about transgender topics in general, due to them inevitably spiraling into unpleasantness.
  • Threads about competitive under/overeating
  • Stepchild/Stepparent fallout threads
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I don't actively hide these but I'm with you on being terrible with diagrams!

I disengage pretty quickly when I read an OP and see "let's call her xxx". I know I'm not going to want to follow the story.

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Acc0untant · 17/04/2025 08:07

ilovesooty · 17/04/2025 08:05

I'm sorry your thread has been persistently derailed by some posters exhibiting such poor manners.

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It just takes someone to be the bigger person and say "we have a difference of opinion and aren't going to resolve it here so let's just call it a day."

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ilovesooty · 17/04/2025 08:05

Acc0untant · 17/04/2025 08:00

Can we take the trans and feminism stuff elsewhere?

Just because you can technically post wherever and whatever you want doesn't mean you should.

I'm sorry your thread has been persistently derailed by some posters exhibiting such poor manners.

Yaaaassssssqueeeeeennnnnslay · 17/04/2025 08:03

None! I just don’t read ones that do t interest me! Don’t know hiding them was a thing…

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Acc0untant · 17/04/2025 08:00

Can we take the trans and feminism stuff elsewhere?

Just because you can technically post wherever and whatever you want doesn't mean you should.

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user109876543 · 17/04/2025 07:51

DoddlesMcDoddle · 17/04/2025 03:36

As has been explained to you ad nauseam, biology is VERY BASIC, straightforward, and unmoveable and unchangeable. If you care to actually educate yourself and listen to actual Biologists. You have had this explained to you over and over again, so why you persist in lying, only you know. But you're making a fool of yourself and I am cringing in secondhand embarrassment for you.

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You have a Donald-Trump-like posting style. It's like reading one of his 'truths', the random capitalisation, the breathlessness, the accusations, the scare quotes, the bolding. Not difficult to understand why so many of us are naming these threads.

@whatwaytoturn I'm sorry. I think that's very understandable. Please don't feel bad.

JHound · 17/04/2025 07:41

DoddlesMcDoddle · 17/04/2025 03:32

Here we go again! It's not about 'trans'. It never has been. It's about men. But since you see everything is about trans, the 'trans obsessive' is you. I wonder if you dream about 'trans'.

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Ok.

WheresTheLambSauce · 17/04/2025 05:11

whatwaytoturn · 13/04/2025 20:53

Babyloss threads. And I feel awful admitting that as I have experienced baby loss multiple times myself, and I know how lucky I am now to have children who are here with me. But I find reading the pain and anguish that these people are experiencing to be heart wrenching and I relate so much, that when I read them it takes me back to a time I don’t want to think about now. But when I see them, I might quick skim before hiding and do a silent prayer for them.

I don't think there's any shame in admitting that ❤It's important to curate your feed for the betterment of your mental health, it does no good to anyone to transport yourself back to such a tragic time whilst reading through those threads. I'm so sorry for your loss 💐

WheresTheLambSauce · 17/04/2025 04:59
  • Parking threads - I'm terrible at reading diagrams, and they're never as dramatic as I hope they'll be 😅
  • Transvestigation/Single sex spaces/Any threads about transgender topics in general, due to them inevitably spiraling into unpleasantness.
  • Threads about competitive under/overeating
  • Stepchild/Stepparent fallout threads
Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 17/04/2025 03:55
  • one poster comes on late in the piece and decides to take issue with everything that's been said so far by spamming the thread with new quote posts

^^I posted that (in response to the OP) a couple of days ago and look where we are now Grin

DoddlesMcDoddle · 17/04/2025 03:43

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DoddlesMcDoddle · 17/04/2025 03:36

Tandora · 16/04/2025 14:15

As has been explained to you ad nauseam - biology is not “basic”. Like most things to do with the actual, empirical world, there is nothing remotely basic about it if you care to educate yourself.

Annnnnyyyyyyywayyyyy

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As has been explained to you ad nauseam, biology is VERY BASIC, straightforward, and unmoveable and unchangeable. If you care to actually educate yourself and listen to actual Biologists. You have had this explained to you over and over again, so why you persist in lying, only you know. But you're making a fool of yourself and I am cringing in secondhand embarrassment for you.

DoddlesMcDoddle · 17/04/2025 03:34

Tandora · 16/04/2025 14:09

Or how about y’all take this back to your anti trans “FWR” corner and we can continue the discussion as posed in the OP?

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No, we will post where we want, how about you anti-women go post elsewhere. Why even be on Mumsnet if you hate females so much? Perhaps find a nice Mens Rights Activist site where you can bang on about how even the female sex are and how we hurt men in the courts.