My son has just turned 5 , I have always suspected something may be wrong since he was younger around 1.5 years when he started to have tantrums. At age 5 , he is really hard to manage at home , he hits his siblings including a baby , attacks me , and every single day has meltdowns over the slightest thing. My health visitor has referred him to the NHS neurodevelopment services to be assessed although this will take around 4 years , at nursery they say he is great , and has no problems , although they pull me to the side weekly to tell me he has attacked his sister, tried to stab her with objects and punched her , they haven't even noted anything down as they didnt think it was serious enough ...even though they have been asked numerous times about his behaviour and even showed videos of him so they would listen to me. I feel invisible to nursery , they just can't see what I'm going through and I want help for him. One teacher told me she disagreed with anything I was saying . He masks his behaviour well at nursery , although they have seen his aggression.
I was advised to apply for cdp for him as although he is my son , I an caring for him twice as much as my other 3 children. I applied and a friend said she would help me fill the form in , when I went to get help she them told me , I'm over reacting, he's just wanting attention , all kids run on roads , hit , have no sense of danger etc...I literally felt deflated and left.
I have since sent this form away but am I right to apply ?
He has to be supervised at night , to the point he now sleeps in my bed as he gets up during the night ,one time taking his younger sister downstairs and climbing up high for scissors and cut her full head of long hair off completely...
He doesn't eat at dinner times etc , I struggle to get him to eat , he talks in a high pitched voice when speaking to siblings which isn't his natural voice , he lashes out and screams every day , he often makes random pig snorting noises when doing things like watching tablet or playing , he has no sense of danger when outside on walks or days out , runs out on road , runs away and doesn't stop when I call him often hysterically as he is in danger and I'm pushing my baby in pram , he likes to climb on kitchen worktops etc , on the cooker , often has aggression that would put himself or my kids in danger when he lashes out or throws things , he can have tantrums that last over an hour ....please can someone tell me I'm not imagining that I think my child is autistic? He is so intelligent, scored 100/100 when health visitor came out to assess him for starting school in August , I did notice he was talking the full time in the voice he puts on though to her. I feel like I am caring for my son as if he has additional needs , a friend telling me I am overreacting has really upset me ..she hardly ever sees him , I manage to video so many of these episodes without him knowing so I have some sort of proof to show doctors etc as nursery think he is great ..any advice