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To stop going to a yoga class because they’re proposing changing the time? (With backstory)

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ZanyWriter · 13/04/2025 14:44

Posting here for some perspective. Since March, I’ve been going to a Monday evening yoga class at 6:30pm. I’ve been consistent and found it helpful to wind down after the start of the week.

However, I recently got an email from the studio saying they’re thinking of moving the class to 7:30pm and asking for thoughts. On its own, it’s not a massive shift but it got me thinking.

Here’s the backstory (bear with me):
Last year, I used to go to a Tuesday class with a teacher I really liked. After a few months, another teacher (B) took over without any clear announcement. I reached out politely to ask if the change was permanent and got a vague reply. I then emailed again to ask about possible private sessions with the original teacher (A) and B never replied. I followed up once, still no reply. So eventually I sent a short, respectful message calling it out as discourteous and marked it as done - I wasn’t interested in any further interaction.

Fast-forward three months, A reached out of the blue to say hi and let me know she was teaching a new class. I didn’t reply because I’d already decided to move on. I’ve since been going to a Monday class with a completely different teacher (C), who I have no issue with.

Now they’re thinking of changing the class time, I’m wondering if it’s just time to let it go entirely. I’ve been questioning whether I’m going out of routine more than real desire and the whole studio has lingering associations that feel a bit off - even if the class itself is fine.

So… AIBU to just bow out now, even though the class hasn’t officially changed yet? Or does that seem overly dramatic/petty? I’m not upset - just unsure if I’m walking away from something that’s still fine or making the call at the right time.

OP posts:
Longleggedlinda · 13/04/2025 16:04

Oh dear I’m crapping my pants waiting for the decision

pearbottomjeans · 13/04/2025 16:02

No one cares but you OP, do whatever you want.

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 13/04/2025 16:00

Good grief.
Emailing B to ask for private lessons with A was insensitive. It's like me emailing my hairdressing and asking her to find out if someone else would do my hair. I'm not surprised she didn't reply. And then you messaged her again and then sent her a self important message about her not responding?
And now A has reached out but you've not replied as you have 'moved on'?
The hypocrisy is real with this one.
Also, the 'lingering associations' of the studio? What association? Lack of attention? They just aren't in to you.

SpringIsSpringing25 · 13/04/2025 16:00

I have a feeling you might not be coming back to this thread, but on the off chance you are a real human and that you do come back

You were unnecessary with teacher B. Liaising for you with teacher A was not her responsibility..

You are very rude to teacher A when she contacted you. It would've been far more polite to reply, even if you told her you were happy with your new teacher now, even though you weren't really. It would've made far more bloody sense to have asked what classes she was doing now and seeing if you could attend those. Talk about cut off your nose despite your face.

You have already replied to teacher C, so just see what happens or if you're not enjoying it, just don't go back. It's a yoga class, not a degree in astrophysics, do what makes you feel good that's kind of the point of yoga.

My goddaughter loves 'hot yoga' personally I'd be passing out just entering the trying to do anything...

In all seriousness, if you are a real human & you are really debating this so much, you should see about therapy because it isn't reasonable behaviour & It's not good for you.

ArtTheClown · 13/04/2025 15:58

So if someone doesn't get back to you, it's discourteous, but it's super fine for you to do because you've "moved on". Not hypocritical at all there.

Frauhubert · 13/04/2025 15:57

Back story🤔

Poppins2016 · 13/04/2025 15:56

You're massively overthinking it. The only person who cares whether you go (or not) is you... so as long as you're happy with your decision and reasoning, it's ok! You don't need to justify or explain it to anyone else.

Edit to add, if you enjoyed classes with teacher A, I'd consider going back to A... no point in cutting off your nose to spite your face.

VanillaVein · 13/04/2025 15:55

Blimey they've merely asked for feedback not adoption of your first born child. What a fuss over nothing.

WhereYouLeftIt · 13/04/2025 15:54

I would assume that instructor B didn't respond because she felt you'd drop her class and go to A instead. When A contacted you, I'd have responded if I preferred her.

I know what you mean about "lingering associations" ; you just feel as if you don't quite 'plug in' any more. If that's what you're feeling about this studio, I'd just look for somewhere else. Maybe contact A?

SunnyViper · 13/04/2025 15:54

There are some batshit people on here😂

nomas · 13/04/2025 15:53

I then emailed again to ask about possible private sessions with the original teacher (A) and B never replied. I followed up once, still no reply. So eventually I sent a short, respectful message calling it out as discourteous and marked it as done - I wasn’t interested in any further interaction.

Why were you emailing teacher B when you wanted sessions with teacher A? She probably thought that wasn’t very nice.

Flamingoknees · 13/04/2025 15:47

You're being very intense and weird about this OP.
I don't understand why you didn't respond to A. Or, why you felt the need to have a go at B.
None of the instructors have done anything wrong.
Do you struggle with change?
Have you decided that you actually don't like yoga? Just stop if that's the case.

ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 13/04/2025 15:44

Is this AI generated? Very few real humans are this out of kilter with normal interactions.

nothingagainstyourrightleg · 13/04/2025 15:41

It would be a shame if you stopped practising yoga, as you sound in great need of it.

ItGhoul · 13/04/2025 15:41

Jesus, it’s a yoga class, not a gamble with the lives of your children. Why the angst? Nobody is going to give a shit what your reasons are for going or not going. Just do what you want. No need to explain it.

CarpetKnees · 13/04/2025 15:38

I agree with almost everyone else. You are completely overthinking this.

You've been asked about the change in time, all you have to do is say

'Yes, I could make new time'
or
'No, I couldn't make it is the time changes'
or
'I could probably still make it, but it suits me better at the current time'.

They will see which is best for most people and that's the end of that.

All the stuff about previous teachers is irrelevant.

HellDorado · 13/04/2025 15:37

So… AIBU to just bow out now, even though the class hasn’t officially changed yet? Or does that seem overly dramatic/petty?

It all seems overly dramatic and petty. It’s a yoga class, not a battle of suitors in a Jane Austen novel.

None of A, B or C give a crap, to be blunt.

CautiousLurker01 · 13/04/2025 15:33

Everystripesays · 13/04/2025 14:46

You're massively overthinking this surely? If you want to keep going then go, if the time change wouldn't work for you then go up to the point it changes or stop now- that's completely up to you.

This. Either you want to go and 730 works, or you don’t and it doesn’t.

Breadcat24 · 13/04/2025 15:32

i really do not think they care if one member stops going to the yoga class

SansaStark90 · 13/04/2025 15:29

Do you think going over something so insignificant signifies you are troubled and need help? To be this heavily invested is not normal

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/04/2025 15:28

AdeptEagle · 13/04/2025 15:16

Did you read the post? She’s not been going there for 1 month. She’s been going to her current class since March, and has been going to the same studio at least since last year. Where did you get one month from?

She has been going to this yoga class on a Monday since march, which was one month ago. Last year she attended with different people on a different day for a few months. So that isn’t all one long habit is it….

Cherrytree86 · 13/04/2025 15:26

Could you invite the yoga teachers out for a meal or something to discuss these issues?

fuzzybrains · 13/04/2025 15:25

My perspective is you don't have enough in your life to really worry about!

Your backstory seems to show you're obsessive and your contact with Teacher B was bordering on harassment.
You contacted her twice with no response so you felt the need to call her out 'respectfully' for being 'discourteous'.
99% of people would not have done that- they'd have realised the teacher wasn't going to reply and left it at that.

The truth is that either of them could have not known what their plans were, maybe due to personal issues that weren't your business.

Teacher C is testing the new time to see how many existing clients can come.
If you can- say so- if not, don't go.

You sound like very hard work.

Laura36TTC · 13/04/2025 15:23

Bit of a non issue 🤦‍♀️

WallaceinAnderland · 13/04/2025 15:22

I think you are asking us to tell you whether or not you still want to do yoga, regardless of the time or the teacher?

I don't think anyone here can answer that for you.