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To stop going to a yoga class because they’re proposing changing the time? (With backstory)

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ZanyWriter · 13/04/2025 14:44

Posting here for some perspective. Since March, I’ve been going to a Monday evening yoga class at 6:30pm. I’ve been consistent and found it helpful to wind down after the start of the week.

However, I recently got an email from the studio saying they’re thinking of moving the class to 7:30pm and asking for thoughts. On its own, it’s not a massive shift but it got me thinking.

Here’s the backstory (bear with me):
Last year, I used to go to a Tuesday class with a teacher I really liked. After a few months, another teacher (B) took over without any clear announcement. I reached out politely to ask if the change was permanent and got a vague reply. I then emailed again to ask about possible private sessions with the original teacher (A) and B never replied. I followed up once, still no reply. So eventually I sent a short, respectful message calling it out as discourteous and marked it as done - I wasn’t interested in any further interaction.

Fast-forward three months, A reached out of the blue to say hi and let me know she was teaching a new class. I didn’t reply because I’d already decided to move on. I’ve since been going to a Monday class with a completely different teacher (C), who I have no issue with.

Now they’re thinking of changing the class time, I’m wondering if it’s just time to let it go entirely. I’ve been questioning whether I’m going out of routine more than real desire and the whole studio has lingering associations that feel a bit off - even if the class itself is fine.

So… AIBU to just bow out now, even though the class hasn’t officially changed yet? Or does that seem overly dramatic/petty? I’m not upset - just unsure if I’m walking away from something that’s still fine or making the call at the right time.

OP posts:
ANiceBigCupOfTea · 13/04/2025 16:36

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 13/04/2025 15:02

What's wrong with wanting a bit of consistency and clear communication? I can understand why you're fed up. Is there a suitable alternative if you decide not to go back?

There is nothing unclear or inconsistent. A teacher needed time off and another stepped which wasn't good enough and now a time change isn't good enough either.
We won't have people doing things like yoga classes with all this bloody main character syndrome going on.

Coconutter24 · 13/04/2025 16:36

The back story doesn’t even seem relevant tbh, your current instructor is asking for opinions on a time change so just give your opinion to them 🤷‍♀️

You probably got a vague response from B because you asking about private classes with A is implying you’re not happy with B. You should have gone straight to A with that question. You call B rude for not replying to you, why would you not just leave it and move on but then you go do the exact same thing to A and be rude and ignore her message.

Why would you walk away from an activity that you enjoy before it’s even changed? So to answer your question yes you’re being dramatic and petty

Blondeshavemorefun · 13/04/2025 16:35

jeez

if you prefer 630. Fair enough so would over 730 start

but not replying to A was rude - now sounds like she has a time and venue and contacting possible clients

TankFlyBossW4lk · 13/04/2025 16:32

Honestly OP, you're taking this ridiculously personally.

FWIW, if I wanted private lessons with A I would have emailed A and not B. If she didn't answer, who cares...she's not your friend. I wouldn't have bothered with the email saying it was discourteous....if they'd even registered it, they would have thought you were difficult.

It's a gym class. Go if you want to go or do another one.

rosemarble · 13/04/2025 16:30

The backstory is not at all relevant to the current issue.

If you're fed up of things you enjoy changing then either ditch them or find something else. As long as there is a teacher taking a class at a certain time, then there is a risk it will change.

The way to avoid this is to be the master of your time! It's likely you know enough yoga to not need a teacher now, though I understand the benefits of going to class.

You could join a club rather than going to a class e.g. cycling or running club.
Or whatever sport you like.

MolluscMonday · 13/04/2025 16:28

My mind is blown by how hard work you seem to be.

Riaanna · 13/04/2025 16:26

You sent an email to teacher B asking for private lessons with A? That’s rude!

BethDuttonYeHaw · 13/04/2025 16:26

You are being a bit of a drama llama. If the time suits then go. If it doesn’t then find something else.

katepilar · 13/04/2025 16:24

OP, is it you feel you are being messed about with too many changes? Is that why you are thinking of leaving?

You should have answered when teacher A emailed you, it was ok to say things are now sorted and you are happily settled into a different class.

Bumblebeestiltskin · 13/04/2025 16:24

Another one wondering what on the earth the back story was all about, and why it's relevant.

ohyesido · 13/04/2025 16:22

You sound kind of like Liz Jones

SaladSandwichesForTea · 13/04/2025 16:21

I can't belive you repeatedly asked B for As info, huffed off when you didn't get it, and are now mad at someone else for a potential time change.

None of those things were about you and you've turned it into a whole "is it a sign" thing just because they might change the time by an hour.

Its yoga, there are always staff changed, so the only real thing that's happened is a potential time change.

Fiery30 · 13/04/2025 16:19

Not sure what the backstory has anything to do with things. It's understandable if you don't like the change in teachers but that is common in studios. If you are so fussed about being taught by the same person at a specific time, hire a private teacher.

Hwi · 13/04/2025 16:18

Wind down after the start of the week. Priceless. I must try and use it from now on....

Feathers72829292 · 13/04/2025 16:17

Regular yoga/fitness studio attendee here… Yoga teachers are almost all self employed and paid a percentage per attendee for the studios they teach at. Emailing a yoga teacher to ask for details of a different yoga teacher is cheeky. Why would she direct someone elsewhere? She wants attendees for her own class. It’s like going into a cafe and asking if they can let you know what the one across the road sells.

If you enjoy the class and the new time works for you then continue going. By not going it’s only you who suffers as you’re missing out, someone else will just take your place in the class and none of the teachers will give it a second thought.

MonaLisaDoesntSmile · 13/04/2025 16:16

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 13/04/2025 15:02

What's wrong with wanting a bit of consistency and clear communication? I can understand why you're fed up. Is there a suitable alternative if you decide not to go back?

I thinkOPs comms were a bit weird. Sometimes trainers/teachers change, have stuff going on, go away, they may not have known when they would be back so there was no point in replying and maybe they were busy doing other things.
OP looks like they feel very self-important. It's probably best for the studio if she stops attending.

AndImBrit · 13/04/2025 16:16

Just so you know, nothing changed about my yoga class and I just saw another one I liked the look of, so I stopped going to one and started going to another. I didn’t even tell anyone.

So yes, you can stop going for any reason.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 13/04/2025 16:15

March - this year ?

my goodness

all this ' reaching out ' and emails

we are not even at the middle of April yet

CissOff · 13/04/2025 16:15

It’s not that deep. Honestly.

SwanOfThoseThings · 13/04/2025 16:15

The Monday 6:30 classes are with C. so nothing whatsoever to do with your previous interactions with A & B.

The sensible thing to do would be to leave if the time does change in the future; or, if you're not enjoying the classes for any reason, leave now.

viques · 13/04/2025 16:14

Have you thought of doing an online yoga class OP? Yoga with Adrienne is free 🙂and very soothing, and you can watch her at a time that suits you.

sandrapinchedmysandwich · 13/04/2025 16:13

Jojimoji · 13/04/2025 15:01

You messaged B to say they were
" discourteous" for not getting back to you after a query about classes with A .
A then gets back in touch with you about classes....... and you don't reply, because you've " moved on".

OK.

This. B was discourteous but you were also very rude for ignoring A. Why is it one rule for you and one for B?

Continuewithfacebook · 13/04/2025 16:13

You're attaching far too much emotion to a yoga class.

InWithThePlums · 13/04/2025 16:09

Jojimoji · 13/04/2025 15:01

You messaged B to say they were
" discourteous" for not getting back to you after a query about classes with A .
A then gets back in touch with you about classes....... and you don't reply, because you've " moved on".

OK.

I thought that! Unnecessary.

katepilar · 13/04/2025 16:08

I understand you were not happy because they didnt reply when you asked about teacher change A to B. As a result you changed to another class with teacher C - why? Why does them asking how you feel about timing of the current class make you think about leaving?