Dd finishes uni soon. Has plans to move to a particular city with her boyfriend (i won't go into details but it does make sense). Dd and boyfriend have been together 3.5yrs and lived together in student accom while they completed thier degrees. His family live about 90mins on the bus from us (rural area, neither dd or boyfriend drive).
Dd has asked if they can both move in with us when they have to leave their student accomodation this summer. Having spent time thinking about it neither her dad or i feel we could have both of them live here full time without any plan going forward. I've friends where their relationships with dc have been ruined by the stress of that set up.
So not to dripfeed, both dd and boyfriend are ND, myself and dd do clash sometimes, and she really struggles with other peoples rules - i know she will find it difficult living back with her parents.
Myself and her dad have now sat down with her and explained that she's very welcome to move home (we wouldnt ask any rent from her), and that her boyfriend can spend a couple nights a week here, but not move in. We'll help in anyway we can when they are in a position to get a place together.
Dd is really unhappy with us and feels we should support them to stay together (by letting them both move in) until they can "get on their feet". Trouble is the job market is tough and I can see it would be a long stressful road, esp as i work from home.
AiBU? I hate seeing her upset and I do know this is hard for her.