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Ignoring whatsapp messages

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Funkybananabread · 13/04/2025 13:36

This is just really annoying me so thought I’d see if anyone else is in the same boat.

In a WhatsApp friends group (about 6 of us) and if I suggest doing something (like going out for a meal, going to a gig / event) sometimes people just don’t respond at all. Sometimes they do (presumably if they are interested in going/are free!) but other times just completely ignore. It’s not just me btw - although I do suggest things the most often just because I like going out and about. We do meet up regularly but tends to be at someone’s house (we all have youngish children). It’s not a money issue either -5m they all seem to have an equal or a lot more disposable income than we do.
My view is that this is so rude! If you don’t want to go /can’t go then surely you should just respond saying so? I always do (and am quite honest - for example will say something like sorry that’s not my cup of tea but have a great time).
i am very tempted to just ask them why they don’t respond when we next meet up but worried how this will come across? WIBU to just ask why they don’t reply?

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MesmerisingMuon · 13/04/2025 13:48

ScrewedByFunding · 13/04/2025 13:45

Yes it's rude to just blank people who have asked you a direct question. A simple no thank you, to someone you call a friend is really bottom of the floor level manners.

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Yes. If someone put an @ sign and a direct question to me then obviously I'd reply, as that would be rude not to.

But this is a group message asking several people at the same time. Not asking directly. So no direct response is required.

ScrewedByFunding · 13/04/2025 13:45

MesmerisingMuon · 13/04/2025 13:40

Why should people HAVE to respond?
If they don't reply they're clearly not interested.

Rude would be saying yes please then not turning up.

Yes it's rude to just blank people who have asked you a direct question. A simple no thank you, to someone you call a friend is really bottom of the floor level manners.

MesmerisingMuon · 13/04/2025 13:40

Why should people HAVE to respond?
If they don't reply they're clearly not interested.

Rude would be saying yes please then not turning up.

Didimum · 13/04/2025 13:39

I wouldn’t get bent out of shape about it and I’d give friends some grace during the young-children-years. Sometimes the brain is just way too full and not everyone is the same as you. Assume no answer is a thanks but no thanks.