To think this should be considered harassment?

Have you told him to desist from contacting you, that you consider his behaviour harassment and if it continues you will contact the police?

if youve blocked him off all social media accounts and he’s still managing to send constant friend requests then doesn’t that mean he’s constantly setting up new accounts for that purpose? If so that sounds serious enough to constitute harassment surely?

This might be helpful. I sent a “cease and desist” when I was a similar situation and it helped draw a very clear line in the sand - I heard nothing more.

https://www.rocketlawyer.com/business-and-contracts/intellectual-property/copyrights/legal-guide/what-can-a-cease-and-desist-letter-do#:~:text=Stop%20harassment.,-You%20can%20also&text=A%20Cease%20and%20Desist%20Letter%20effectively%20operates%20as%20a%20warning,police%20cannot%20enforce%20your%20letter.

I would also do this, every time as it builds a profile of what he's doing. I'd also send that final message someone wrote abivextobmsjecit very clear about your future plans should he try to keep making contact
Good luck, it's not acceptable behaviour so don't let him get into you otherwise you'll be living on eggshells

He's playing a game with you and its nothing more than an ego boost for him to see if he can get you to say you have always liked him etc. The reality is he would run a mile if you said you wanted to give it another go and have a serious relationship with him.

But the above is irrelevant. I'm interested to know if you have ever said very clearly and bluntly to him that you don't find him attractive, that he makes your skin crawl and you pity him and whatever woman he's now with because you are thankful each and every day that you didn't end up with him?

I'm guessing that initially (all those years ago) you were more into this man than he was into you? So whenever this man needs an ego boost he will go looking for it?

Semantics. The police officer has said the police will make a record of an allegation. They’ll log it, in other words.

OP definitely make a complaint to the police about his harassment.

Love the way that some posters on this thread are telling the police officer on the thread what the law is 😂😂

Why are you seemingly reluctant to see it as serious? Behaviour is a language and he's been telling you for years he's not listening to your boundaries so why do you think it's going to change? He's disrespecting you, your husband and the family unit you've created together so if I were you, I'd send the message other posters suggested and tell him ANY future attempts (directly or indirectly through friends) will result in you contacting the police. And then follow through. Best of luck.

Wow that was on overreaction and I don’t think you read my post.

The police do put a log on if a person reports something. Telling people that they don’t log crimes could put someone off reporting and the consequences could be devastating

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I said tell him she has contacted the police AND then to call 101 and report him. I did not say to lie in any way shape of form. It is all very clear in my post. Not sure why you have got so confused

He police will issue him with a Harassment Information Notice and it prevents him from contacting you or anyone associated with you, for 12 months. If he still contacts you after that, he’ll be arrested.

Yes it’s harassment. Next time he contacts you, make it very clear you will be contacting police if he ever tries to contact you again. Then make sure you actually report it.

In my 20+ years doing the very job, the “log” means nothing other than to say yes this person called and made an allegation. That’s all it is, an unsubstantiated allegation

Yes they do.

Ffs police don’t “log” things. Don’t waste their time “logging” things and don’t lie and say you’ve contacted police when you haven’t, that nullifies any evidence

The fact you've been talking to him and met him would mean it'd be a struggle to prove it as Harassment. It's not Harassment if it's a back and forth otherwise happy conversation. But the fact he's creating new accounts etc is concerning and might tip the balance.

I agree with PP to tell him once and for all that anymore contact in anyway and you will report him. Then COMPLETELY IGNORE any further attempts from him, screenshot them but do not respond.

Then go to police.

You have responded in the past, even if it took many friend requests/messages/getting your friends involved - you responded. Then to top it off you agreed to meet with him, in the hope a face-to-face meeting would deter him. The fact is, nothing will deter him. He knows that eventually you will get so fed up with the friend requests/messages, that you will give in. What you need to do is send him one absolutely final message: Dear Stalker. Please do not contact me by any means or in any form again. Your attention is unwanted and you have repeatedly been told of this, therefore it's harassment. Your harassment is stalking, which are both illegal. Your behaviour has been reported to the police.
You need to take screenshots of messages/friend requests etc going forward. I don't expect for one minute he will stop, because he's arrogant, and also will believe you are bluffing. You do need to report his behaviour, even if you no longer have any evidence, so it can be logged. His behaviour is persistent and unwanted, and therefore is harassment. The reasons behind his actions are irrelevant, and it's not worth frying your brain to try and figure out his motives. His behaviour is obsessional and unhealthy, that's all you need to know!

if it was just a block and no response then the interpretation can be puzzling if they have previously been given permission to chat via x, etc

however if they had been told specifically to stop then as soon as you said that then they should of respected your wishes

I don't think you should have met with him or you should have taken your partner along when you did and been very clear that you would be reporting the unwanted contact to the police if it continued. In the meantime, go to the police, change your number and either remove yourself from social media or update your security settings. Be clear also with mutual friends what the situation is. You've let this go on for far too long.

You should definitely take the advice of one last message and then follow through on contacting the police if he continues. The utter arrogance of the man is astounding and you would be under-reacting to do nothing.

Can you message him and say something along the lines of "Will you just F off, you were vile when we were in a relationship and now I am happy in a relationship I realise just how awful a human you were. I am getting to the point of reporting you to the police for stalking so will you stop this by just leaving me alone"

The message Hatty upthread posted is great, but I would also amend to you have contacted the police.

And the police do take this seriously. My friend had similar and the police contacted him and told him he had been told to stop and they were now following that up with the message to stop. She never heard from him again (thankfully). Ring 101 and tell them. Message him once more the message above and then report any more comms to the police.

This but say you HAVE contacted the police.

then call 101 and report it so they have it on file. Any further friend request or messages screen shot them and report to 101 who will log it on the file