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Most shops are just landfill waiting to happen.

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SummerDaytoNight · 13/04/2025 10:47

I mean, all are to a point, but I’m talking about the non essential ones.

Our society is engineering its own collapse. We only need food, health, house basics and clothing. And I suppose, technology.

Fast fashion could go. Housing should just be the essentials.

My friend took me into a shop called sostrene grene. It was lovely, but nothing was essential. Most shops are like that.

The horse has bolted, but I wish we could limit the unnecessarily stuff and just have the basics. Im not talking Amish level, but there’s no need for all this waste. It would be so much better if only the essentials were produced.

At the point of production, it’s already basically landfill.

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Superhansrantowindsor · 13/04/2025 17:15

Didn’t clothes shops in the past change their lines once every 16 weeks and now it’s every 4 or something like that.

Superhansrantowindsor · 13/04/2025 17:13

ThisFluentBiscuit · 13/04/2025 17:09

Is it? I didn't know that - not that I've ever used it. Isn't it just a web thing? How's it bad for the environment?

It’s really bad. The electricity it uses. BBC had a very good article on their news site about it yesterday.

BeyondMyWits · 13/04/2025 17:12

SlightlyJaded · 13/04/2025 17:05

Agree. Especially regarding the seasonal stuff. I often go to our local TK Maxx for nice hand soap. Their 'homeware' section always has literally tons of seasonal shite in it. Who the fuck wants a Halloween Doormat? Are people switching mats with the seasons? Or an Easter Egg Mirror? At the moment they have a full pink and white china plates/mugs/bowls/jug set covered in easter bunnies. FOR WHAT? FOR WHEN? Easter Sunday?

And the reduced for quick sale is loads of unsold Valentine shite. Dog bows with love hearts/toothbrush holders with 'Be Mine' stamped on them, Happy Valentine's Day duvet set. What? WHAT?

Utterly soul destroying.

I buy soap from tk maxx too.

I like the shop's concept of selling off good stuff cheap(ish). Got my good quality frying pan for 60% off because it was no longer a fashionable colour. I think it might be back in vogue again (sage green), or maybe back in and then back out again... its a pan, lives in a cupboard, who cares...

SonoPazziQuestiRomani · 13/04/2025 17:12

Isittimeformynapyet · 13/04/2025 16:32

Oh I totally agree!

I only meant I also have "eclectic" taste and scour second hand/vintage places for anything I need to get a unique-ish piece. The rest of that post I disagreed with completely, iirc.

Oh sorry! Yes I agree with that bit too!

babyproblems · 13/04/2025 17:12

I agree with you @SummerDaytoNight

The seasonal stuff should go - things should be more expensive. I was in one of these shops last week and they had kids playsets that were 99p. I couldn’t believe how it could be only 99p!! It had come from china. Surely even the shipping would cost more per item let alone the manufacture. All plastic tat.
I think there is a place for fashion but agree it should all be more expensive and made to last. The lifetime of white goods also infuriates me- it’s getting less and less!

ThisFluentBiscuit · 13/04/2025 17:12

SlightlyJaded · 13/04/2025 17:05

Agree. Especially regarding the seasonal stuff. I often go to our local TK Maxx for nice hand soap. Their 'homeware' section always has literally tons of seasonal shite in it. Who the fuck wants a Halloween Doormat? Are people switching mats with the seasons? Or an Easter Egg Mirror? At the moment they have a full pink and white china plates/mugs/bowls/jug set covered in easter bunnies. FOR WHAT? FOR WHEN? Easter Sunday?

And the reduced for quick sale is loads of unsold Valentine shite. Dog bows with love hearts/toothbrush holders with 'Be Mine' stamped on them, Happy Valentine's Day duvet set. What? WHAT?

Utterly soul destroying.

That's definitely a bit much! I decorate for Christmas, and I do have a small number of Halloween tings like a clay pumpkin lantern that you put a candle in, but I wouldn't decorate for Easter or V Day too!

Superhansrantowindsor · 13/04/2025 17:11

Charity shops depress me so much. I like to buy what I can second hand but every charity shop has shelf after shelf of utter shite that nobody wants. An ornamental kitten holding a love heart saying ‘nan’. A massive canvas of some random skyline all faded at the edges. A ‘live, laugh, love ‘ cushion in some god awful fabric. You get the idea.
I don’t have a problem with seasonal stuff if reused. My Christmas decorations are put away and reused. Every year I add a few new bits but considering I also use my grandmas ornaments from the 70’s I don’t think that’s so bad.

AreMyEyesGreen · 13/04/2025 17:11

We certainly didn't have much spare cash - that's why we cared for & reused our stuff- including the poundshop decorations.

And I'm sorry, I simply don't believe that the majority of people buying seasonal stuff & redecorating annually are doing so because it all needs to be replaced!

they're doing it because it's a trend they see on SM & because they don't think critically about it & for a host of other reasons - not because they're so poor they buy in b&m and that means it disintegrated (because that's simply not true)

Stop making excuses for all the people who want the latest mirrored side tables & crushed velvet furniture to replace last seasons black leatherette because it's 'trendy' to them.

Katypp · 13/04/2025 17:10

SnoozingFox · 13/04/2025 17:09

Telling people to spend less money is virtue-signalling? OK then. Or to keep their clothes until they are falling apart rather than replacing every 5 minutes?

Changing your decor every year or filling your home with plastic tat bought for every "celebration" is EXPENSIVE! It is a CHOICE to buy all this nonsense. You cannot simultaneously complain about cost of living and buy those plastic dancing santa ornaments and seasonal bedding.

I don't.
But I don't look down my nose at people who do, unlike most pps on this thread.

PriOn1 · 13/04/2025 17:09

minipie · 13/04/2025 10:57

Completely agree about the seasonal stuff and most decorative items. Plastic plants are especially sad.

I also get depressed by collectibles like jellycats or squishmallows … what are they FOR?? Future landfill for sure.

Then there’s all the stuff that is useful but has a really short shelf life. Built to a cheap price point and not intended to last. Electronic items like automatic pet feeder or headphones that last a year or two before breaking or mysteriously dying. I’d happily pay extra for a phone charging cable that lasts 5+ years but it doesn’t seem to exist.

I bought myself some plastic plants back in 2019, when I left my husband. I got them to cheer up the very bare flat I’d moves into and I still have them.

I later had them scattered around a house I was selling (and added some larger fake plants I borrowed from my office) and they functioned well in breaking up areas that looked a bit empty. Obviously they weren’t the only thing that sold the house, but it definitely looked better with them than without.

I could have had (and indeed did have) some real plants, but I moved country and they had to stay behind, while I still have the plastic ones. I’m fairly rubbish with real plants, so plastic plants serve me well. I’m not sure why you would single those out as particularly bad.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 13/04/2025 17:09

ColourlessGreenIdeasSleepFuriously · 13/04/2025 16:44

ChatGPT is terrible for the environment too

Is it? I didn't know that - not that I've ever used it. Isn't it just a web thing? How's it bad for the environment?

SnoozingFox · 13/04/2025 17:09

Katypp · 13/04/2025 17:03

Agree with this. Page after page of virtue signalling, all coming from a place of having the privilege to afford choices.
How MN posters love looking down their noses at those who shop in B&M and HB, and if it can be incorporated with performance environmental concern, so much better.
'Plastic tat', 'seasonal tat' over and over again.
Such rampant snobbery.

Telling people to spend less money is virtue-signalling? OK then. Or to keep their clothes until they are falling apart rather than replacing every 5 minutes?

Changing your decor every year or filling your home with plastic tat bought for every "celebration" is EXPENSIVE! It is a CHOICE to buy all this nonsense. You cannot simultaneously complain about cost of living and buy those plastic dancing santa ornaments and seasonal bedding.

Isittimeformynapyet · 13/04/2025 17:09

Acinonyx2 · 13/04/2025 15:20

I had no idea people really bought new Xmas decorations ever year. Is that really a thing? I don't think I know anyone who does that. We usually buy one new decoration for the tree when we get the tree.

Sadly I know two people who do. Neither of them in my circle of friends. One was an ex-colleague who I knew I didn't like years before she (very defensively) told me she spends about £200 every year on entirely new decorations. She's not rich.

I said I thought that was a waste of money - she disagreed.

FlourandFlowers · 13/04/2025 17:07

Lourdes12 · 13/04/2025 17:03

I do think it's cheaper to buy good quality items as they last so much longer

I absolutely agree.

But this is only feasible (as mentioned earlier in the thread) if you have the capital to buy the good, quality items in the first place.

ThisFluentBiscuit · 13/04/2025 17:07

polkaloca · 13/04/2025 16:48

There is just so much stuff everywhere

Hundred of toiletries, make up products, cleaning products. health supplements, clothes & then food, so much choice in supermarkets & constant newness.

Yeah, but you know WHY there's so much stuff everywhere? It's because people keep having multiple babies! There's a lot of stuff but there are a lot of people to buy that stuff, which is why there's so much stuff....and so on.

Everyone wants to save the planet but no one wants to give up having cars, children, or holidays!

SlightlyJaded · 13/04/2025 17:05

Agree. Especially regarding the seasonal stuff. I often go to our local TK Maxx for nice hand soap. Their 'homeware' section always has literally tons of seasonal shite in it. Who the fuck wants a Halloween Doormat? Are people switching mats with the seasons? Or an Easter Egg Mirror? At the moment they have a full pink and white china plates/mugs/bowls/jug set covered in easter bunnies. FOR WHAT? FOR WHEN? Easter Sunday?

And the reduced for quick sale is loads of unsold Valentine shite. Dog bows with love hearts/toothbrush holders with 'Be Mine' stamped on them, Happy Valentine's Day duvet set. What? WHAT?

Utterly soul destroying.

Lourdes12 · 13/04/2025 17:03

Coali · 13/04/2025 10:57

I’m lucky that I can afford to buy good quality items that last. Many aren’t and people need an alternative. I’ve actually been pleasantly surprised by some supermarket clothes.

I do think it's cheaper to buy good quality items as they last so much longer

Katypp · 13/04/2025 17:03

Navigo · 13/04/2025 15:22

Agree. I think there is often some inverted snobbery around this issue.

I have the time and money to make ‘good’ choices. Many others don’t.

Agree with this. Page after page of virtue signalling, all coming from a place of having the privilege to afford choices.
How MN posters love looking down their noses at those who shop in B&M and HB, and if it can be incorporated with performance environmental concern, so much better.
'Plastic tat', 'seasonal tat' over and over again.
Such rampant snobbery.

Gatekeeper · 13/04/2025 17:03

GloriaHeart · 13/04/2025 12:25

If I opened a shop called:

’Rat A Tat Tat’

which was full of ‘tat’ from every season imaginable - so bat masks for Halloween, ‘baby I’m a Firework’ T shirts to celebrate bonfire night, big plastic Santas.

but this shop would essentially be a parody of the concept of tat currently produced for every season - and that would be the appeal.

If I opened on your local high street - do you think my shop would be a commercial success based on the novelty value?

@GloriaHeart

in the 1970's series The Fall and Rise of Reggie Perrin- Reggie (Leonard Rossiter) opens up a shop selling all kinds of shite called "Grot" but to his dismay it proves wildly successful!

ThisFluentBiscuit · 13/04/2025 17:01

samarrange · 13/04/2025 16:52

I wonder where people get the idea that they need all this stuff?

I mean, that's a bit negative and judgemental. You don't know that the people buying that stuff don't need it. Maybe their dress or shoes are wearing out and they need new. Maybe they don't have very much and this is a special purchase. 🤷‍♀️ It's slightly odd to assume that everyone who buys things is being irresponsible with no eye to consumerism or careful spending, because you really don't know.

Isittimeformynapyet · 13/04/2025 17:01

Unpaidviewer · 13/04/2025 15:16

I love "seasonal tat". I keep it and it comes back out each year. Really most stuff is unnecessary but I refuse to live my life like a puritan in a barren home.

Literally nobody is saying you have to. You know very well that we're talking about those who throw it all away and buy new tat every year.

doreeen · 13/04/2025 16:59

The seasonal stuff is the worst. Going into the range or Poundland or wherever and the mountains of tat for Easter/valentines/halloween/Christmas is out of control

ThisFluentBiscuit · 13/04/2025 16:57

@NursieBernard It's very easy to be 'holier than though' but, how many of the people saying about plastic tat and the like don't own a car or don't fly abroad for a holiday? I do what I can but I certainly wouldn't want to preach about anything when I'm not perfect myself.

Exactly! I think middle-class lifestyles are some of the worst offenders, with big houses, big families (more than 2 kids), big cars (often Chelsea tractors), and multiple foreign holidays each year. But as long as they don't shop at B&M, it's OK!!

It's like I always say: Everybody wants to save the planet but nobody wants to give up having cars or children. 🤷‍♀️

I've never owned a car at age 50 and have never had kids, and I don't really like travelling, so I'm 😇. Haha! I do have a lot of possessions, but I keep them and use them forever.

This is probably going to shock some people, but I have over 100 Gotz and American Girl dolls. They're made of vinyl. About half were bought second-hand and half new. They also have a lot of clothes and accessories, some of which are new but many bought secondhand (or thirdhand, who knows) on Facebook Marketplace and eBay. The dolls are all in good condition and very much in-demand over here in the US. I aim to keep them for many years and then, when I'm old and doing Swedish death cleaning, donate them to a toy library.

I suppose eventually they will end up in landfill, but not until they've given decades of enjoyment. I can't work out if a collection like this is good or bad. Good, because they're being used (and remember half are secondhand already), but ultimately all this stuff ends up in landfill even if it takes decades to get there. In my defence, some of the dolls were already twenty years old by the time they came to me! (I know which dolls were made in which years.)

Or maybe it doesn't end up in landfill. Maybe it gets recycled. I should read those books I linked above.

I mean, just to take a doll as an example - but you could extrapolate this to anything - the doll exists, and whether I take care of it or someone else does is immaterial really. If you imagine its journey, it goes from factory to store to someone's house, stays for a while, and is then either sold, donated, or thrown away. These days, I think it has a much better chance of being passed on than thrown away, thanks to the circular economy. Some doll collectors buy really beaten-up dolls cheaply, restore them, and then sell them. They are given new life, haha!

It's true that we have lots of plastic tat from places like Temu, but it's also true that people restore, donate, and re-sell more than ever before.

Londonwaiting · 13/04/2025 16:53

So, if most products are unnecessary, then an awful lot of jobs will go, and an awful lot of tax will go with it.

So you want a future with really high unemployment and a government with even less money for things like the NHS and social care?

KateShugakIsALegend · 13/04/2025 16:53

TheJollyMoose · 13/04/2025 12:21

Honestly, this really isn’t an issue. I’m going to enjoy life, so yes I’m going to be buying (and throwing away to get new next year) all the Easter, Halloween, valentines decor going.

If you don’t like it, don’t buy it, but don’t try and make everyone miserable with you.

Can you help me understand how you see this working?

What are the consequences on nature, emissions, waste, pollution as you see them?

Because as I (and frankly all published science) see it, we literally cannot continue as we are.

Keen to hear your perspective on this.

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