to think grandparents do not have to ttoreat their step grandchildren exactly the same way as their blood grandchildren? Part 2

Certainly after they’re married, as IMO those two families have absolutely merged/blended at the point.

Personally, our family has always done it before. Mainly because neither my sister nor myself are married, she’s been with her partner for 17 years and I’ve been with mine 4 - both men with pre-existing children.

We generally treat the children the same from when the relationship becomes evidently serious and it’s clear that we’ve accepted responsibility for those kids. Been together a year or so, living together - that sort of rough ballpark.

That may sound vague, as there’s no set thing in our family, however we don’t separate kids into shared or step once a relationship is obviously serious/committed.

We would say for example that my sister and her partner have 5 kids - because they do, between them. I wouldn’t say my sister has 2 and he has 5, they have 5. None of them are treated any differently than the others in her home or by our family.

Excellent question.

I’m going to ask on this thread as my post only got in at the end and I’d be really interested in an answer:

Can I ask those saying OP IBU? At what point should wider family start treating kids of new partners like their own? After a year? When they’re married? Immediately? Some people are very chaotic (my brother) and feel the need to introduce a new girlfriend every other month and being their new “stepchild” round too. Sometimes at Christmas. My mum will spend £200 on my nephew at Christmas. Should new girlfriend of 3 month’s kids also have £200 each spent on them even though we all know we will never see them again after that?