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To want to cry at the cost

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Charltonstrek · 13/04/2025 10:29

Dp has gone to his home country for his sons wedding which was arranged against my at this time against dp wishes dp wanted more time to arrange the money but the brides parent would not listen. It's a pakistani wedding so numerous events celebrations plus airline tickets and normal spending money.
I'm not well off I'm only working a few hours due to mental health etc and dp isn't on loads and we have ended up in some debt for this and to be honest I'm so depressed about it all he's there has another week and is almost out of money again I'm so fed up as I'm currently living on my overdraft and my dp won't have a wage for 2 weeks whrn he gets back.
I'm not sure what I wish to gain by posting here I really don't but I guess I just need some support to air it out so please go easy on me but I'm completely buggered up.

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TomatoSandwiches · 13/04/2025 10:38

Stop sending him money, stop getting in debt for this man, say no.

PonyPatter44 · 13/04/2025 10:37

I'm guessing this isn't your son, just your DPs. Seems a bit mean of him not to take you with him, but if money is tight, it makes sense. Is he expecting you to send him more money?

Charltonstrek · 13/04/2025 10:35

I've only met his family over video call

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Charltonstrek · 13/04/2025 10:34

CharSiu · 13/04/2025 10:33

Are you the same culture, I’m in a marriage where DH is white and my family are Chinese and culturally there are some big differences as to how family stuff is viewed.

Have you met his family? I’m just trying to also ascertain how serious your relationship is

No we aren't I'm white British dp is pakistani.
We have been together 9 years.

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CharSiu · 13/04/2025 10:33

Are you the same culture, I’m in a marriage where DH is white and my family are Chinese and culturally there are some big differences as to how family stuff is viewed.

Have you met his family? I’m just trying to also ascertain how serious your relationship is

Charltonstrek · 13/04/2025 10:30

Sorry about the mistype dp kept requesting for more time to arrange money but brides parents didn't want to know.

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