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daisychainsandsummerdays · 13/04/2025 08:50

I’ve been planning a trip to see in-laws who live in Scotland, we live in London.

The plans were loosely made over a couple of weeks ago- but the plan being we would drive up to them - it’s a 7/8 hour drive with our two little ones, 3 and 6.

Yesterday I got a message asking what time would we be arriving …I said not sure exactly.
the next morning I got a message saying need to know when EXACTLY and can we be at there’s by midday!!!
Brother in law had Boole a family photographer and a day off work, other siblings may not be available other days - need to know out plans ASAP!

I replied saying sorry we can’t make it for 12 noon and sorry had no idea BIL had taken day or even if there was a photographer!!!
after a 7 hour drive with two little children - last thing I want to do is get photo’s done. Also wasnt planning on bringing best outfits and haven’t even had my hair done.

so frustrated - feeling like not going at all.

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TwentyTwentyFive · 13/04/2025 08:56

How bloody weird? I don't think anyone would be in the mood for a photoshoot after 7 hours of travelling even without the two small children. Realistically you'd have to set off before 5am to account for traffic, stops or roadworks etc.

If they wanted a photoshoot then it seems really strange to not have mentioned this beforehand and why the need to do it on the day you travel, why not do it during your visit?

It all sounds very stressful and like your family are an afterthought despite the fact you're the ones making the effort to visit.

Purpleturtle43 · 13/04/2025 08:54

That's ridiculous, is she expecting you to leave at 5am?! The last thing any of you will feel like doing is a photo shoot after being in the car all day.

daisychainsandsummerdays · 13/04/2025 08:51

Sorry - booked a photographer

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