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Hen party brunch - is it normal for women to over-share like this?

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HeidiHiBye · 13/04/2025 08:35

I’m genuinely intrigued as to whether I’m just a bit blinkered or if I’m in the minority with this sort of thing.

For my friends hen yesterday, I joined her and about 20 others for brunch and other activities. I didn’t know everyone there, with a mix of old school friends, Uni, work colleagues etc.

The drinks were flowing as expected and some of the women sat close to me turned the conversation onto more sexual matters. In no particular order, they covered - penis sizes of their other halves, favourite positions, oral preferences/techniques, their best former ‘shags’. One even complained their current partner is too passive and she’s considering leaving him as she just needs a ‘good f’ing’.

There was also topless waiters and two of the girls were speculating who’d have the biggest penis and be the best in bed.

I’m no prude but the line has to be drawn somewhere, and hearing how a certain position makes someone ‘squirt’ is beyond the pale for me.

Is this normal behaviour?!

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Evaka · 13/04/2025 08:47

Nah, I'd be really grossed out. I have private conversations about sex with one or two very good friends but this kind of forced hen party bawdy shite would make my skin crawl.

BlueEyedBogWitch · 13/04/2025 08:47

Performative Hen Party chat. Yuk.

Hen do? Hen don’t, more like.

Empress13 · 13/04/2025 08:46

I’d choose your friends more carefully

Janedoe82 · 13/04/2025 08:45

I don’t even talk about stuff like this with my best friends of 30 years

AnimalLover25 · 13/04/2025 08:45

Yuk yuk yuk

If men spoke like this with each other there’d be uproar and rightly so.

I don’t know why people think hen/stags are an excuse to throw all standards out of the window.

Sounds like some of them probably cheated later in the night too.

BelfastBard · 13/04/2025 08:44

I don’t like this either. I’d be heartbroken to think my partner spoke about me like this to his male friends and I don’t think it’s right for women to do it either. It’s not exactly the same thing as a private conversation with a close friend.

Kittykat9070 · 13/04/2025 08:43

TariffPenguin · 13/04/2025 08:36

Not another thread like this? This is like the swearing one yesterday.

maybe not everyone is on here daily and knows every single thread?? Honestly, there’s so many of you that want to police who posts what in case you’ve seen it before. Not interested ? Scroll on!! Or even better, ask for a job at mum’s net and you can email people what you think is appropriate for your viewing needs

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 13/04/2025 08:38

YANBU. Sounds grim. I would hate this! Topless waiters?

TariffPenguin · 13/04/2025 08:36

Not another thread like this? This is like the swearing one yesterday.

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