Hen party brunch - is it normal for women to over-share like this?

I've experienced explicit conversations twice, but both times it was more about what the girls themselves liked in general, how many lovers they'd had, most risqué location, top fantasy, kinky books they liked reading etc.

It didn't involve eyeing up waiters or other men, or talking about their partner's preferences or bodies. I still didn't really enjoy the conversation though.

I do remember having conversations about our respective sexual experiences, in quite a serious vein, with close friends when we were in our early 20s and sex was quite new to us. I've never had that kind of conversation at a hen party, but I've been to very few hen parties because I'm boring and not a person people think of inviting to that kind of event. I wouldn't discuss my sex life nowadays, but if others want to talk about theirs, it wouldn't be a problem with me.

A lot of men do talk like this! I work with a LOT of men and they can be rank. A complete eye opener when they don't think you're listening

They are cheap trashy people who drag society down.
There seem to be ever more of them around.
Most relevant for MN is that someone raised them to be this way.

Incredible. This is like saying if men were in a strip club they could discuss which of their partners is the best shag and who likes it up the arse.

The double standards are baffling!!

Absolutely agree. Me and my close friends have very deep and personal conversations but I can’t say we’ve ever discussed cock size and what makes us squirt.

Tbh I find the whole topless waiters/male strippers thing tacky and cringey anyway so this hen party would be my idea of hell on earth

I’d find it distasteful, too. If that makes me a prude then so be it.

I really dislike the double standards of this kind of thing. My friends and I do occasionally discuss sex in general terms, but not in that leery, desperate way.

Topless men/how big d'you reckon his cock is?/phwoar I'd do him - anything like that pisses me off. We wouldn't tolerate men talking about women like that, so why is it okay to objectify men and belittle their bodies and performance. I think of my lovely 18 year old DS and get really fucked off with it all. And don't even get me started on Loose Women...

Right. So female strippers are there to sexually gratify men, and female clients of male strippers sexually gratify men?

Uuurgh, that just sounds sleazy and awful. Wouldn’t enjoy it either.

Agreed.

Sounds like the group were a bunch of scutters. Hate to tell you...

Is the brunch element relevant? Would have you had a different class of conversation if it was an afternoon tea?

It's not something I would join in with but meh, different strokes, its not a surprise that people talk like that after a few drinks is it?

My friends and I wouldn’t do this but I expect a fair few women do - horses for courses.
I wouldn’t be shocked to be honest, more fascinated by it all and have a good laugh about it afterward.
Btw I once sat next to an A&E nurse at a social gathering and her stories of what’s removed from various orifices had me laughing and reaching for the sick bag in equal measure.

@IrritatedEarthling

I agree. There seems to be a discrepancy between the women posting advice on here and what I have experienced in real life.
I saw that thread too and was brought to mind of the conversations between women I have been privvy to. That thread was stridently LTB but, I think, unrealistic and full of bluster. People do talk. Friends will talk. Things will be said. It doesn't always signal something sinister.

Yeah and that was not real.

I have one friend I might talk about sex to. Otherwise, no.

this hasn’t happened on any hen do I’ve been on.

Have you actually read the OP?

I don't understand how women have been sucked into this idea that equality with men means embracing all the disgusting behaviours that some men indulge in. Sadly a lot of women have joined the race to the bottom and think it's cool to behave like men at their worst.

Agree. There was a thread a while back in which the OP found out her fiancé was engaging in WhatsApp ‘bants’ with work colleagues about other women. Most posters were adamant that she should leave him because what he considered ‘just bants’ indicated that he was a misogynistic twat and that he would make her miserable. Which makes some of the comments here quite surprising, to say the least. Double standard anyone ?

There was recently a thread where the op was describing how her DH had been talking with other people about his sex life with her.

The concensus on the thread was pretty much LTB.

So what do we have here? Should all of these women's partners leave them?

My husband AFAIK would be unlikely to do that, and so would I. I wouldn't want to hear about it from friends, well maybe when I was 16....??

I'm not sure why it happens and I'm not sure why people do it but I don't like the double standards between the sexes.

This wouldn’t bother me at all. They’re grown women who can talk about what they want. I can see a topless waiter, ponder the size of his cock with friends and still be a professional person and good wife and mother. Saying ‘His will be massive’ doesn’t mean those women were cheating on their partners later that night.

Scroll on by then, it's easy to do. Proof if needed the world is full of imbeciles.

Definitely not normal! Occasionally my close friends and I have joked about a guy's dick or weird sex (pre having long term partners). We don't talk about long-term partners like that at all. Obviously we have a moan but that's different.

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Actual lolz 😜

Alcohol consumption has a lot to answer for.

We're all sitting here on a sober Sunday morning. When people drink together inhibitions drop away and tongues loosen.
They wouldn't have behaved that way if they hadn't been drinking.

I'm not even being judgemental in saying that. Have a drink and let your hair down if you like...I do. Just so happens I'm not interested in the smut. I will talk other types of shit.

So yeah...alcohol. It makes people drunk.