Hen party brunch - is it normal for women to over-share like this?

Not just at a hen do - at work years ago, my all woman department organised a glass or two at the end of the day as someone was leaving. I didn't drink, and the others didn't have that much, but they were going on about penis size, telling stories about how they'd anticipated a one night stand. but when they saw the size of it, they'd decided not to bother, called a cab and went home. This had happened to four of them. Apparently. I'm sitting there watching my hitherto professional colleagues cackling and spilling all sorts, and vowing never, ever to drink on an empty stomach.

They sound like grubby try hards, wannabe edgy types. I've met women like this from time to time, but not regularly, and I just avoid them.

I don't have a big frame or reference. Only had the joy with two men. Very diffrent sizes. After a few drinks I spoke about this at a hen night.

I havnt measured but when getting grilled for details. Two or the women start showing pics of there other half. It was useful for the convo but I was a bit shocked. How common is this? And is it a big deal? I guess it was for informative reasons and dis give us a bit of a giggle. Bit I wld be livid if my OH were comparing pics of my bits

Not always!
But I think it's usually to make fun of them. As I've said in previous posts, the great thing about us against men (or hens against stags) is our ability to joke about the opposite sex. And there's no better way to joke about men than to take the pi§ (sorry) out of their danglers. Partly because THEY take them so seriously.
But WE'RE concentrating on dicks here I've been to hen parties (or GNOs) where the only mention of a willy is when the stripper has failed to show us his!

Why are hen parties so obsessed with penises anyway? If it's not talking about them for the entire weekend, it's walking around every town and city carrying a veritable paraphernalia of plastic or inflatable dicks.

As I said I sat there unsure as to when to come out. So, yes, I was in there a while. But no-one bothered me. I knew from home and school that boys and men sit on the toilet for ages so it wasn't "odd". And it was quite busy - boys pop in and out talking to each other while using urinals.

They sound crass and immature. People of couth don’t discuss such things in groups.

Same it's so gross to do this

If they thought about it at all, they probably thought "he" was having a wank about one of the girls.

It must have been an incredibly long poo for you to get all that detail to enable you to construct an entire worldview from a conversation overheard when you were 17.

When I was 17 I went to a Fancy Dress party as a boy. Considering the comments I get as a girl, I was amazed at how I pulled it off.
Now, whether I should have done or not, I used the men's/boys' toilets. Sat there wondering when it would be safe to emerge and wipe my hands (thinking "will I be giving myself away IF I wash my hands?").
Anyway I sat there and I learnt something. I learnt that boys and men talk about us in THE most disgusting, degrading, disillusioning ways possible.
They don't consider us to even be bodies, just sex objects for them to stick their massive* missiles in. What I heard that day just told me once and for all that the basic difference between the sexes when it came to one discussing the other is that whereas we JOKE about their bodies and their inability to use them as they should, they SERIOUSLY run us down as people, as sex objects and - most importantly - as unnecessary "items" that they see as irrelevant to their lives and their positions as "running the world".
Ever since that evening, I've seen nothing in the slightest wrong in getting hysterical with my mates over a tiny todger or a petty pee-pee, or in eating a banana suggestively in front of a boy.
Believe me, however horrible we are, men are ten times worse!
*their word, not mine!

I wouldn't speak like that with anyone. Never have and never will.

I agree on the whole that it isn't very exciting but sometimes you see/experience one that you can't keep quiet about, not to your close friends anyway. My 6th one was an ons, but I wished he hadn't have been... OK you're not my closest friends, so I'll shut up...

Haha, I think you’re very naive if you think men don’t talk about this stuff too.

This.
Some hens are raucous and boozy.
Some hens are active events or a cottage somewhere with a hot tub.
It's whatever the bride likes and moh/hens arrange. Not everyone likes all the same thing.

Personally I'm a sexual person and quite enjoy a natter on the subject

Yes, I and my besties swap such details all the time. It's certainly normal for me and tbh I'm surprised to learn here that some women find it really unacceptable. Ppl go on about hen party participants not bring close friends, but I would have thgt that was a good thing. If A tells B her partner is little finger size, then B isn't likely to ever meet that partner and laugh!

Dick size isn't very interesting. The outliers at either end are quite rare (hence being outliers) and most dicks I've had have just been within a spectrum of normal. I couldn't tell you more about the sizes (curvature maybe...) because I wasn't exactly getting the measuring tape out. There was no correlation to the quality of the sex!

So that's why this whole "hen party bonding over dick sizes" comes across as a little performative, and ultimately a bit boring.

Generally I don't want to know about the sex lives of my friends. It's perfectly possible to talk about sex in a somewhat abstract way without conjuring images of people in bed. I had to stop a friend dead in her tracks once when she started telling me about how her boyfriend - who was MY friend first! - was a bit too boring in bed for her. That was about seven years ago, I'm still friends with them both and it's just not information I want in my brain! They split up shortly afterwards and people often ask me if I know why (as I lived with her and had been friends with him for years before that). I wish I didn't!

Anyway in comparison to that a nice topless waiter would feel like balm to the soul.

(Sex talk bonding is infinitely preferable to those other female bonding cliches of performative calorie-counting, ooh I'm so naughty I had a biscuit, or moaning about your husbands for hours on end. EAT THE CAKE. DIVORCE HIM IF YOU HATE HIM. STOP TALKING ABOUT IT)

Vile. Maybe they watch too many' reality shows' My guilty secret is watching MAFSA.
I'm amazed at what they disclose in a room full of pretty much strangers! Yet most of them disclose to the point of graphic!! Even the so called "Experts," Don't bat an eyelid! I have clearly had a sheltered life!

Just thought I’d quote. Cos I can…

I think it’s fairly normal to talk about things that wouldn’t be the usual topic of conversation when alcohol is flowing in abundance. Lowers inhibitions and all that. Were some people quite drunk and you less so? I had a friend when I was younger who wouldn’t stop talking about her sex life in absolutely graphic detail and that got on my nerves. It was too much of an overshare and too much of a frequent conversation that I distanced myself from the friendship in the end. I wouldn’t be bothered by a hen party with conversations like that IF I knew the people. If a woman I’d met that day was talking to me about the size of her husbands penis I’d be a bit WTF, although I guess it depends on how drunk we all were. The topless waiter thing is totally cringe and naff and wouldn’t be something anyone I know would have a a hen do, or strippers or anything like that. Yuk.

Yeah , fair enough..
I’d say I went off the topic , you didn’t ..
I turned it into , “ it’s wrong to discuss your sex life like that at a hen do with a bunch of strangers “, when OP asked, “ is this what goes on at hen parties “ ..
The simple answer is , yes, it does tend to go on at some , it doesn’t at more 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wouldn’t do this about my current long term partner, but I would and have swap stories of sex and penis size about random men I’ve slept with from my past- more likely with friends, but potentially in this sort of setting as well.

Thats gross!!

I'm pretty open minded but that is just grim.
No way would I want to talk about that with strangers.