To expect coffee?!?!

A few years ago, staying with a relative, they only had decaf. I didn't think it would be a problem, I mean, sure, I have 3 coffees in the morning to get me out the door, but hey, I can live without the caffeine, right? God, I felt so tired in the mornings. It was day 3 before I realised I was missing the caffeine.

This exactly. And if I had an addiction to coffee or anything else for that matter, I’d ask the hosts if they had any or not before I went.

If they say they don’t, I’d be like no worries I’ll bring some myself.

It’s not that difficult to bring a bag or sachet of coffee.

Exactly. I just take what I’m offered or drink water if I don’t feel like any of the hot drink options available.

Tbh I don’t even realise I’m out of coffee sometimes and I drink it most days 😂 so it’s definitely no big deal for me to visit someone’s house and find out they don’t have coffee. It’s not a necessity for me.

Reading this thread it’s surprising to see how many people normalise what I see as extreme caffeine dependency/addiction.

Worse things to be addicted to but even then - they should realise it’s a them issue and there’s nothing wrong with people not making sure there’s coffee in the house for visitors.

I’m glad OP agrees she is BU and will take her own coffee everywhere with her from now on seeing as she gets that desperate for it. Problem solved.

To "fornwarn" someone you don't have coffee??

A tad dramatic.
Is it that big of a deal? coffee is expensive, and only keeps a few months.
Can't we just accept what we are offered? A tea, herbal infusion, cold drink etc.
I know many people that don't keep tea or coffee in their homes.

It must be difficult/inconvenient to purchase coffee especially when you don't consume coffee yourself
The decent difference is you most considerately & kindly inform folk that you don't behold coffee, so they're forewarned & have opportunities to bring some of their own 😇

As I am elderly,there are very few people other than family who visit me now. Those who do visit know that coffee is not something I keep in my cupboard.

You're not being unreasonable
You're Immensely sensible to begin bringing your own coffee from now on God Bless You
I also think when folks have someone they care about, come to stay with them, it's compassionately considerate, caring & thoughtful to simply just make sure they have some items which are suitable for their visitors requirements & needs
To be honest I wouldn't dream of not checking with my guests that I have groceries to their liking & I would feel completely self absorbed & selfish if I just presumed, they were ok with whatever I just happen to have!

Anything but Pepsi max
even crack is better than that

Bless you thank you for your compassionate enlightenments I didn't know there's coffee bags until seeing your comment
I've known of the granulated tea but don't like it much's proper tea bags
Thank you God Bless You&Yours Blissfully Forevermore

As you can guess from my name I drink tea.

Saying that I tend to have coffee when out because most people don't make tea the way I like it. I dispair when someone pops a teabag in a mug.

I am a bit of a tea snob and am becoming a coffee snob too.

Luckily I have 4 independent coffee shops and a Costa within 10 minute walk. I never buy tea at any of them.

I would expect people to be able to offer some tea or coffee to guests. I also. keep hot chocolate and decaf coffee for guests.i don't like either.

We don't have coffee in the house either, neither of us drink it and all my friends are happy with a tea!

YANBU

I think it is really off not to be able to offer guests a choice of coffee or tea. I don't know anyone who couldn't offer at least an instant, and the vast majority could do better.

I have no coffee in the house. Guests are told in advance though.

YANBU and I would expect people to have something as basic as coffee available for guests. I don’t drink tea because the mere smell of it makes me gag but I always have tea bags in the house for visitors.

I recently stayed at my DP’s house and forgot to bring my coffee (he’s an absolute ‘tea and nothing else’ drinker). I can’t function without three cups in the morning, however after my first day horrors, I conceded and had tea on the second morning. And water. WATER. It was actually ok… (however, made mental note to stock up for this weekend!!)

My other half doesn't like coffee, taste or smell so before we moved in together I either took coffee with me or just didn't drink it. My youngest son is nearly 18 and doesn't like tea or coffee so I know when he moves I'll be taking provisions with me.

Soft drinks? What sort of drinks? I'm picturing you offering diet coke or lemonade with breakfast! 😂

Thank you for this thread @ReplacementBusService , it has brightened my day. 🙂

Surely it's just normal to offer tea or coffee to visitors? Same as you would with builders.
I always have tea in even though I find it disgusting in case someone wants it (not like tea or coffee goes off much, is it?).
Although I do warn them I only have plant milk in and they might have to bring their own milk!

This is what I use, a portable espresso maker. I take it to work if I'm outside, to hotels, to my BF's house since he doesn't drink it...
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Wacaco-Nanopresso-Portable-Minipresso-Operated/dp/B0797T2FYL/ref=sr_1_5?crid=2VZRC4QY00Y70&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.gMxYbx3qXMxu8cJFObilP28CPMFKyuSj0qsitu1itW-IsWbOy4CyeD872M0wGqKVn-T2jNY_1NnY-VQe-z_hvXYh1fmrSIARmOXqDUEz3BdaABSVtXOW3HG2708sr-So_FayLapiLJ3YJ6aswx-OVIBEI5FlL0jxkHBW5CW4P586tnBTY98_nINs73ZPDkr5T1Q354O-SfvnilEnHMFZ-VrO0Qo8SN5Vg1sNN_xRJVNIsGqprY4lCDRufDq3jDiwrmcEWE4-9NsmKvilDdgQ3sLWKGN1xVKl1mSMmQXMcJk.cvuNYXtK6rkYOSM0rpzMU9ZAD9sXHNkP8EpzIWluoQU&dib_tag=se&keywords=wacaco&qid=1744808224&s=kitchen&sprefix=wacaco%2Ckitchen%2C169&sr=1-5&th=1

OP YANBU.

Also, you need a cafetiere mug. Perfect for travelling. Just add a scoop of ground coffee. Pour your hot water in and the mug itself is the French press if you see what I mean....

www.hartsofstur.com/zyliss-hot-mug-cafetiere-blue-e990003.html

I like coffee, but it's a bit weird to be unable to manage without it for a day. The same applies to everything really, except air.

@RampantIvy i wouldn’t give heads up- I expect if someone has strong preferences for something, to bring their own. For example, we are not tea drinkers- we have some (mostly herbal) tea bags rolling around but I wouldn’t go stock up all sorts for just in case and then few years later throw them out; if someone drinks English breakfast tea daily they’ll be out of luck in my house.

I drink decaf coffee and take it with oat milk. Imo it's the best way, apart from the decaf because it makes me feel like Im being robbed lol

I carry a couple of instant coffee sachets around for situations like this as I can’t function without coffee. It’s surprising how often I’ve had to use them. I also always have a protein bar to hand as people host differently.