To expect coffee?!?!

I’m guessing they’ve moved somewhere scenic, hence the expected hordes of visitors. I think this thread is a cautionary tale for those doing similar to never, ever let your friends know where you’ve moved to unless you’re prepared to have a spare room on permanent standby with a wide range of beverages available on demand !!

On a previous thread I was complaining about a friend popping round unexpectedly because I don’t have tea, milk or sugar in the house ( nor any cold drinks).
Other posters assured me that no one cared. Knew I was right.

We don't drink coffee. I buy some in for guests .... and have to buy a new one every time. I now have Azera, the one in a tin, which I am assured won't got to one rock solid lump.

But the only thing I think you can REALLY expect your hosts to provide is loo roll. Everything else is a matter of personal preference.

PS. I never go anywhere without my EG teabags.

Then you aren’t as caffeine dependent as you thought so that’s something. You’ve already had a nice big caffeine fix, you just want the taste of coffee, hopefully it will come soon! But YABU, tea is superior and they have that. I’m totally tea dependant and take tea bags with me when staying elsewhere.

I mean I’d always have it available for guests, so bit unusual. But all the people I know who feel like you do about coffee, come equipped with an aero press, a bialetti (is that right?) and all the necessary equipment to service their addiction. YABU not to prepare if it’s this important!

I don’t drink instant coffee but I still always have a jar in for visitors! Who are these people??

YANBA

I'm allergic to tea so you could say I'm biased but actually more than that if I know I have tea drinking guests I don some gloves, buy some tea and get out the special tea stirring spoon.

No excuse for not having both - even if it's the cheapest nastiest stuff (under the guise of not drinking it and not knowing any better) it's better than not having it at all.

You should have been warned.

“By the way, we don’t have any coffee in the house, not even decaf instant. We understand if this is a dealbreaker and you no longer wish to come.”

Hope you have one by now OP !

But there is caffeine in tea though, and OP reckons she’s had 3 cups so that would be equivalent or more than a coffee.

I enjoyed this post a lot! My husband looks forward to nothing more than his coffee in the morning. He goes to bed at night excited about it. He’s also considering a switch to decaf at the minute so it’s not even necessarily the caffeine hit, he just loves it! I also enjoy my coffee. When there is no coffee available it physically pains us. So I do always know that if I stay somewhere the coffee won’t be the kind I want (we have filter coffee at home) and I will have already pre planned where to get coffee! So I have been burnt in the past and learnt from my mistakes. I do have people stay a lot though and I will always stock what they want! For example I don’t take milk at all (use alternatives, never liked it) but will always buy a carton if I have guests because they take it. I’m not really a tea drinker but I will get tea in for people staying. It’s just being considerate!

You know now going forward. You won’t be faced with this level of horror again. I’m so sorry you had to experience this. But you’ve made it through! 😂

Have you tried the freezer? I once couldn't find any coffee at a relatives house because they kept it in the freezer.

I don't drink tea or coffee, but I always have it in the house for guests. YABU to expect it though. If it's so crucial to you, bring your own next time.

I would laugh if really good longstanding friends went out to get coffee while staying at my house.

Being relaxed and accommodating is what makes both good hosts and guests.

I’m not sure I’d be thrilled if I had weekend guests to stay who were clattering around my kitchen at 7:30 on a Sunday morning.

I might have hidden my coffee stocks so they don’t want to come again.

Caffeine is addictive. Op is clucking.

Don’t go out for coffee your friends will feel horrible - just have tea and OD on coffee when you get home. They are fab friends having you stay with them, it’s always my worse nightmare haha.

I can’t function without a cup of tea first thing so I always go places prepared.

We are mainly tea drinkers but we always have coffee in for visitors. Happily we have enough coffee drinking friends that we always finish it before it goes off. Don't get me started on trying to get a decent cup tea abroad though. The horrors.

OP, are you ok?

It is really inhospitable. I don't drink coffee but always have some in for guests.

I’m sorry but being beside yourself for not having a coffee is a bit OTT. Just go out and get one

YABU. Lots of people avoid coffee for health reasons. Just drink something else, as you have: tea, water.

I’m sure, once they’re up (it’s still early on a Sunday), they’ll pop to get coffee once they find out you usually drink that. Or you can buy some once a shop’s open.

I don’t eat meat. If I’m staying with people who do, I wouldn’t expect them to cater specifically for me. I’d just eat what I could. And if there was very little I could eat and I was hungry, I’d pop out and get myself something.

Having said that, a good host anticipates their guests’ needs, e.g. asks what time they usually get up on a Sunday and what they usually drink and eat in the morning if they get up much earlier than the hosts. Because a good host wants people to feel at home and comfortable.

I don’t get out of bed until at least 10 on a Sunday. But if I knew my guests were early risers, I’d probably get up around 08:30, even if still in my pyjamas, and offer breakfast.

YANBU
I take a moka pot and milk fluffier whenever I go to stay with someone. Happy to make flat whites for all who need one… and it is a need - caffeine withdrawal causes headaches, so ´just have a cup of tea’ is not the answer!

I do think having tea and coffee is part of hosting. I don't drink coffee but I still have a coffee maker and coffee in the house. My non tea drinking friends still have some tea bags.

It's the same in my house tbh. My husband doesn't drink hot drinks at all, and I only drink tea, so it's tea, juice, water or nothing here I'm afraid