Nervous about giving in my resignation at work

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ML5 · 12/04/2025 22:38

Hello after some advice. Been at my current job for 6 years and I recently applied for another job and have been offered the new job. Have to give in my resignation on Monday as new job are awaiting references which is fine no problem there.
However I’m not sure how my boss will take it as they are short of staff there so not sure how to answer her questions on why I am leaving and also not sure how my work colleague that I work with directly will handle this either.
I do have annual leave leftover which I may ask if I can use it on top of my notice period (1 month) but I guess what I am really anxious about is my boss being awkward with me and so many questions off other work colleagues.
AIBU to be overthinking this?

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Aussiebear · 12/04/2025 23:44

It is a bit horrible doing it, she'll probably be pissed off, even good people internally will jump in their heads to all the things they need to do when someone leaves and gaps that have immediately presented themselves, not least the idea that everyone else might jump ship! But probably she'll just give you the cold shoulder and you just get on with your last month. They'll have to pay you the leave they don't have to give it to you to take the time off

Flamingo68 · 12/04/2025 23:41

ML5 · 12/04/2025 23:37

Would it be unreasonable to ask my boss if I can have my annual leave taken as part of my notice period of 1 month? I have 21 days left and originally booked 1 week off next month (so it falls down to 16 days) which is the week I start at new job.

It probably depends when your leave year ends and whether or not you remain entitled to them.

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ML5 · 12/04/2025 23:37

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DelphiniumBlue · 12/04/2025 22:55

Presumably you are moving for more of a challenge, better pay or conditions, or more suitable working arrangements or career development. It's fine, you are allowed to move on without it being an argument or anything being wrong.
Just tell your manager clearly, and let them know what your last working day will be. Put something in writing immediately after you've told the manager so that there is no doubt or ambivalence. You could state how many days leave you are entitled to and whether you will be taking them during the notice period.
Then you can tell colleagues.

DoNoTakeNo · 12/04/2025 22:50

Definitely talk to your boss first.
Everyone has the right to resign, and this is your time, so go for it!

BIWI · 12/04/2025 22:50

You are quite entitled to leave your job - for whatever reason!

Pussert · 12/04/2025 22:46

Speak to your manager first.

Chocolate85 · 12/04/2025 22:46

It’s really not your problem. Say as little or as much as you’re comfortable with, how they take it is on them. If you like them offer to facilitate the transition to whoever replaces you but don’t overthink it.

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ML5 · 12/04/2025 22:44

My boss is in after I get in on Monday so should I mention to my work colleague that I work with directly first or wait to speak to my boss first

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HateThese4Leggedbeasts · 12/04/2025 22:43

Keep it simple. Something like "I saw a new job that offered me new opportunities. I wish you all the best. I am happy to help train up any replacement if you would like me to during my notice period" or whatever would be appropriate for you.

You can't control how your boss reacts so just stay polite and professional and remember in a few weeks you will be out of there either way!

Poppyseeds79 · 12/04/2025 22:40

It's your life you're entitled to move on to pastures new. Congrats on the new job!

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