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Nervous about giving in my resignation at work

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ML5 · 12/04/2025 22:38

Hello after some advice. Been at my current job for 6 years and I recently applied for another job and have been offered the new job. Have to give in my resignation on Monday as new job are awaiting references which is fine no problem there.
However I’m not sure how my boss will take it as they are short of staff there so not sure how to answer her questions on why I am leaving and also not sure how my work colleague that I work with directly will handle this either.
I do have annual leave leftover which I may ask if I can use it on top of my notice period (1 month) but I guess what I am really anxious about is my boss being awkward with me and so many questions off other work colleagues.
AIBU to be overthinking this?

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SpanThatWorld · 13/04/2025 15:40

When I left my last job, my vile line manager was fine about it but the overall boss - who I'd been really friendly with - was horrible and didn't talk to me for my 2 month notice period. Which hurt a bit but in the grand scheme of things was just silly. I was going anyway.

Brainstorm23 · 13/04/2025 15:36

ML5 · 13/04/2025 15:00

Yes job is confirmed, job offer is signed (email) they just waiting for references then they will send over my contract

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DO NOT under any circumstances give notice to your current job without a signed job offer! You've been offered the job but without a signed contract that means absolutely nothing.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/04/2025 15:36

PoundlandColumbo · 13/04/2025 15:35

To be fair, they can change their mind even after you've signed the contract. Plenty of threads on here about people whose job offers were withdrawn at the last minute. The general consensus is that the most you'd be entitled to is paid notice. So whether you've signed a contract or not is by the by really.

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It’s obvious it’s more secure after being given a contract and signing it though.

PoundlandColumbo · 13/04/2025 15:35

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/04/2025 15:13

Absolutely nothing is guaranteed though, they can change their mind any time before you sign that contract

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To be fair, they can change their mind even after you've signed the contract. Plenty of threads on here about people whose job offers were withdrawn at the last minute. The general consensus is that the most you'd be entitled to is paid notice. So whether you've signed a contract or not is by the by really.

Poppyseeds79 · 13/04/2025 15:17

Stop stressing OP. Inform your manager, then send the formal email with your end date on. Also ask about AL to get payroll to figure out any entitlement left.

That's literally all you need to do.

burntoutnurse · 13/04/2025 15:16

Just hand notice in. I did this last week. Worked there for 7 years. Manager didn’t ask why I was leaving. Just told me she would calculate my annual leave which I’ve taken as part of my four weeks notice. Made me feel undervalued tbh and confirmed why I’m better off in new job :)

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/04/2025 15:13

ML5 · 13/04/2025 15:12

Just to say when I hand over my resignation and references are in, they will send over my contract to read and sign electronically the email said

Absolutely nothing is guaranteed though, they can change their mind any time before you sign that contract

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ML5 · 13/04/2025 15:12

Just to say when I hand over my resignation and references are in, they will send over my contract to read and sign electronically the email said

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FartfulCodger · 13/04/2025 15:07

ML5 · 13/04/2025 14:54

I have 21 days left of annual leave for the rest of the year but was unsure how or if they could let me use some of this annual leave

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My annual leave renews in April and I left my last job in May which meant that I got to use about 2 days of AL. Obviously you can’t use all of it as AL is part of your pay.

Brort · 13/04/2025 15:04

You don't need to be nervous about handing in your notice from the point of view of what they'll think. The thing to care about is if you have a firm offer and it's the right time to resign. If your references haven't been called for and you don't have an offer letter / contract, you're not ready to say anything other than please will you be my referee.

StringersBell · 13/04/2025 15:02

Yes annual leave they’ll pro rata what you have left v how long left in annual leave year. Then usually leavers are given choice whether to take it or be paid for it. Though if they’re really short staffed may not get option to take (you’ll still be paid for it though, can see it as a nice little extra bonus)

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ML5 · 13/04/2025 15:00

Mumof1andacat · 13/04/2025 14:54

Do you have the job confirmed? In my sector you have an informal offer then once references are OK and you receive your formal offer, that's the point your hand your notice in.

Yes job is confirmed, job offer is signed (email) they just waiting for references then they will send over my contract

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Dueanamechange2025 · 13/04/2025 14:57

You won’t get a full years leave if leaving in April / May. How much you get will depend on you holiday year (whether calendar year or tax year).

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/04/2025 14:57

ML5 · 13/04/2025 14:54

I have 21 days left of annual leave for the rest of the year but was unsure how or if they could let me use some of this annual leave

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It’s really unlikely you will get your full entitlement as you are leaving so won’t be entitled to it…

StringersBell · 13/04/2025 14:55

I get why you’re nervous but as another poster has said, you’re overthinking it. You are entitled to leave and the concern about leaving them short staffed or how your colleagues will cope is, TBH, not your problem. Do it in person if practical, if your boss isn’t available and you have to do it asap to start references/notice period then I think it’s acceptable to email, offering to discuss in person when they’re available but make clear your notice takes effect from sending of the email. Cc HR too. Good luck and well done on getting new job!

rubyslippers · 13/04/2025 14:55

ML5 · 13/04/2025 14:54

I have 21 days left of annual leave for the rest of the year but was unsure how or if they could let me use some of this annual leave

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Your leave will be pro rated as you’re leaving part way through the year

rubyslippers · 13/04/2025 14:54

ML5 · 13/04/2025 14:44

Just wondering if it’s better to resign in person or by email seeing as I have another job lined up and I won’t be there for that long anyway also if I resign by email would I be given a not as good reference if I resigned in person

Resign in person
follow up with an email confirming your last day according to your contract and copy in HR
just say you’re moving jobs for a diff challenge and you’ve enjoyed the last six years
of course you’ll leave a handover for your replacement
keep it brief and professional

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ML5 · 13/04/2025 14:54

FartfulCodger · 13/04/2025 14:52

You should tell them in person and then follow that up with written notice. And how can you have 21 days of annual leave left to squeeze in?

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I have 21 days left of annual leave for the rest of the year but was unsure how or if they could let me use some of this annual leave

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Mumof1andacat · 13/04/2025 14:54

Do you have the job confirmed? In my sector you have an informal offer then once references are OK and you receive your formal offer, that's the point your hand your notice in.

FartfulCodger · 13/04/2025 14:52

ML5 · 13/04/2025 14:44

Just wondering if it’s better to resign in person or by email seeing as I have another job lined up and I won’t be there for that long anyway also if I resign by email would I be given a not as good reference if I resigned in person

You should tell them in person and then follow that up with written notice. And how can you have 21 days of annual leave left to squeeze in?

PoundlandColumbo · 13/04/2025 14:52

You're overthinking this. Just speak to your manager on Monday morning, tell him/her you'll be handing in your notice as you've accepted another job offer. Then follow it up by email to your manager and HR.

Darkclothes · 13/04/2025 14:52

I wrote out a letter and booked a brief, face to face meeting with my manager and handed it to her. I vaguely put something like, 'I've really enjoyed working here blah blah, but this is my notice of leaving (or something like that). As per my contract, I am providing 30days notice of my resignation and my last working day will be Tue 8th May.'

That was pre-covid, when alot less was online. Maybe an email is suitable nowadays, but others can advise.

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ML5 · 13/04/2025 14:44

Just wondering if it’s better to resign in person or by email seeing as I have another job lined up and I won’t be there for that long anyway also if I resign by email would I be given a not as good reference if I resigned in person

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lactofree · 13/04/2025 00:25

Why do you care so much? You’re just a number, if they needed to get rid of you they wouldn’t think twice about it. It’s just a job. They have to deal with it, people come and go. Everybody leaves eventually

Aussiebear · 12/04/2025 23:46

Don't forget you have to pro-rata your leave, so if the year just reset and you have 24 days that's 2 days pro rata a month you're not entitled to 24 unless you work the whole year so could end up out of pocket as they'd claim any extra back unpaid

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