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To call the police regarding neighbour's loud music?

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TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 19:38

Hi all. AIBU to want / call the police for neighbour blasting music? I could probably tolerate but DD9 is getting very upset.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/04/2025 20:02

NeilDiamondsBlowDry · 12/04/2025 20:01

It’s easy for people to say go and ask them to turn it down, but that can be very intimidating, I tried that once and was verbally abused and they also did it more so it’s not always that simple

Yeah but that doesn’t mean she can just phone the police instead, it would obviously make it worse too.

Overthebow · 12/04/2025 20:01

I have a young child and a baby and I don’t think 8 pm on a Saturday night is a problem for music. You have neighbors, you need to put up with some noise. If it were 11pm that would be different. If it is really loud you could go and ask them politely to turn it down a bit, but the police aren’t going to do anything about a bit of garden music at 8pm.

NeilDiamondsBlowDry · 12/04/2025 20:01

It’s easy for people to say go and ask them to turn it down, but that can be very intimidating, I tried that once and was verbally abused and they also did it more so it’s not always that simple

ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/04/2025 20:00

TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 19:57

I shouldn't have to. Should be common sense and respect.

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It’s also common sense to ask them to turn it down before thinking of calling the police. It’s 8pm on a sunny Saturday… you need to move away from people by the sound of it

Bootskates · 12/04/2025 19:59

Is your DD distressed because she's feeding off you? You sound really wound up and you've said it's only been an hour and you're making vague threats about smashing their speakers or whatever...try and calm down and maybe DD will follow suit? You never know it might just be a BBQ or whatever and they'll take it inside in the next hour, it might be warm but evenings are still pretty chilly.

Nicknacky · 12/04/2025 19:58

TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 19:57

I shouldn't have to. Should be common sense and respect.

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Do you not think the police are a bit too busy to do what you could go and ask them yourself? To turn it down?

ChickenBananas · 12/04/2025 19:58

You sound psychotic. You haven't even asked, it's been 1 hour before 8pm and you're gonna take a hammer and cause a crime scene?!

sciaticafanatica · 12/04/2025 19:57

You haven’t even asked if they will turn it down and it’s still early but you want to phone the police??
wow!

NC28 · 12/04/2025 19:57

It’s a pain in the arse but it’s been going on for an hour and it’s before 8pm on a Saturday where we’ve had nice weather recently.

Think it’s unreasonable to think of calling the police for this. They’ll not be interested and it’s a total waste of their time.

Put some headphones on your kid, her being very upset seems a bit of an excessive reaction, based on what you’ve said.

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TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 19:57

LittleCharlotte · 12/04/2025 19:55

At least ask them to turn it down first. I agree that people don't have the right to blast music out whenever they want to but give them the chance to be a bit more reasonable first and turn it down.

I shouldn't have to. Should be common sense and respect.

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TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 19:56

Ilovemyshed · 12/04/2025 19:54

Well it rather depends if it is a regular event or a one off. Maybe they are having a party? If it happens all the time and late into the night then raise a noise complaint with the council.

please don't waste valuable police time on this.

New neighbour and start of warm weather. It will be crime prevention as it may be a crime scene soon.

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LittleCharlotte · 12/04/2025 19:55

At least ask them to turn it down first. I agree that people don't have the right to blast music out whenever they want to but give them the chance to be a bit more reasonable first and turn it down.

Ddakji · 12/04/2025 19:54

BlueIsTheSea · 12/04/2025 19:50

They are allowed to play music at 7pm on a Saturday night. Why is it upsetting your 9 year old so much? I can understand why it's annoying, that's not a reason to be upset. Why not go out if it's that bad? I'm guessing this is a one off.

It’s upsetting when you have no idea if it’ll be switched off in 10 minutes or carry on for another 5 hours. The mental impact of other people’s noise is draining.

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TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 19:54

BlueIsTheSea · 12/04/2025 19:50

They are allowed to play music at 7pm on a Saturday night. Why is it upsetting your 9 year old so much? I can understand why it's annoying, that's not a reason to be upset. Why not go out if it's that bad? I'm guessing this is a one off.

I don't think they are. Had discussion with council a while ago regarding a previous neighbour and they stated any time which is causing an issue.

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Ilovemyshed · 12/04/2025 19:54

Well it rather depends if it is a regular event or a one off. Maybe they are having a party? If it happens all the time and late into the night then raise a noise complaint with the council.

please don't waste valuable police time on this.

Carclubcomplainer · 12/04/2025 19:52

BlueIsTheSea · 12/04/2025 19:50

They are allowed to play music at 7pm on a Saturday night. Why is it upsetting your 9 year old so much? I can understand why it's annoying, that's not a reason to be upset. Why not go out if it's that bad? I'm guessing this is a one off.

Outside? Seriously? No one around here would do that as it would be deemed massively inconsiderate to make others listen to your taste in music.

Bootskates · 12/04/2025 19:51

Bit early yet

Can she play in a room on the side of the house not adjoined? With headphones or ear defenders on? Maybe an audiobook?

Or if it was my DD10 I'd take her out for a little walk/out on a bike ride whilst it's still light. Then if I saw anyone from the offending house on our way back in i'd just politely say "hey we're just heading in now to get settled for bed please could you turn it down a touch shortly? Thanks"

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TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 19:51

MrsRuthFisher · 12/04/2025 19:44

It's not even 8pm on a spring weekend evening 🤣

Yes but it's been going on relentless for over an hour and it's like someone drumming in your ear.

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BlueIsTheSea · 12/04/2025 19:50

They are allowed to play music at 7pm on a Saturday night. Why is it upsetting your 9 year old so much? I can understand why it's annoying, that's not a reason to be upset. Why not go out if it's that bad? I'm guessing this is a one off.

LittleCharlotte · 12/04/2025 19:49

Ask them nicely to turn it down first, explaining that you appreciate they want to enjoy the weather, etc. but it's upsetting your child. I don't think you will get far with the police at this time of night.

IntheSpaghetti · 12/04/2025 19:49

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It's not even 8pm. It sounds like you need the police calling on you 🥴

PonyPatter44 · 12/04/2025 19:47

Do you know which neighbours it is? Could you go round and ask them to turn it down a bit? Stress that it's upsetting your child, and they might be reasonable. Unfortunately, if they aren't willing to be reasonable, you're probably out of luck. Its not even 8pm.

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MrsRuthFisher · 12/04/2025 19:44

It's not even 8pm on a spring weekend evening 🤣

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TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 19:44

cestlavielife · 12/04/2025 19:41

Put some headphones on

If I put headphones on, this will help DD9?

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