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To call the police regarding neighbour's loud music?

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TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 19:38

Hi all. AIBU to want / call the police for neighbour blasting music? I could probably tolerate but DD9 is getting very upset.

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JorgyPorgy · 13/04/2025 11:16

OldCottageGreenhouse · 12/04/2025 23:02

@TalkToTheHand123 I think you need to understand the difference between acceptable neighbour noise with occasional louder annoyances that goes with living in close proximity and ACTUAL noise nuisance.

If it goes on until after 11pm then by all means call 101. But before, they won’t even let you finish your sentence before telling you it’s not a police matter.

How is blasting music so loud at any time of day classed as acceptable?

JorgyPorgy · 13/04/2025 11:15

Sugarfish · 12/04/2025 22:35

From bitter experience of living next door to arseholes who’d often play loud music at 2 in the morning. The police will not care. The only time they ever come out was when one of their gatherings spilled out onto the street. Apparently you can’t do anything about people making noise in their own homes at unsocial times.

They sound like utter scumbags!

JorgyPorgy · 13/04/2025 11:13

Ddakji · 13/04/2025 08:21

Of course it’s unreasonable to “enjoy music in your garden” if that means imposing your music on others. Of course, you enjoying your music in your garden only happens because your own neighbours aren’t so inconsiderate as to play their music in their garden and drown out yours.

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JorgyPorgy · 13/04/2025 11:11

TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 10:52

Blasting music from a car is a no no for me anywhere. If I'm walking past I often stop next to the car and stare with a "you for real?" smirk.

I wouldn’t do it either but if it’s just in passing it wouldn’t bother me as its just a second .
if they want to damage their own hearing then that’s up to them !!

Holidaysun2025 · 13/04/2025 11:09

TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 10:09

It may have been coincidental they turned it off at that time. I have mental health issues with sounds. The hammer and gun were a lst resort. It would take me a few nights of this to get to this stage I believe though.

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You said it effected your dd. Unless I missed it you never said you had mental heath issues with sounds. Your talking hammer and guns maybe you need to reach out for help if your talking /thinking like that. Although from the other bits you have said im not sure if its a wind up .

Nopenott0day · 13/04/2025 11:06

Neighbours a bit loud for first time on a warm evening, that ended before 9 and you think threats of violence are an appropriate response. One that includes a class 1 firearm.

The only problem here OP is you. You are what's wrong with the world. Instead of being able to have a normal rational conversation you want to use violence.

You belong in jail.

Tricho · 13/04/2025 10:57

TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 10:52

Blasting music from a car is a no no for me anywhere. If I'm walking past I often stop next to the car and stare with a "you for real?" smirk.

I daresay you're getting that smirk back en masses from users here

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TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 10:52

Blasting music from a car is a no no for me anywhere. If I'm walking past I often stop next to the car and stare with a "you for real?" smirk.

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JorgyPorgy · 13/04/2025 10:49

fatandtrying · 13/04/2025 10:11

I must fit this category as I do love to blast my fav music from the car when I'm driving alone

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I think as long as you’re not parked outside someone’s home or by a park, blaring music for all to hear then it’s ok as people would otherwise only hear in passing.
there are people who park up outside where I live, blasting music or have phone calls on hands free with their car windows down and their car acting like a speaker amplifying for all around. Then there are idiots who beep their horn to announce their arrival.
That is what I think of as chavvy behaviour!

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TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 10:33

As previously stated, when I say night shift, I mean those on shifts who may be sleeping at this time. Day to day noise is acceptable, blasting music to me is not and is very ignorant.

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Timetochillnow · 13/04/2025 10:19

TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 20:44

But why the need to blast it? What's wrong with just a sensible level? People could be on night shift etc. It's totally ignorant behaviour.

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People on night shift will be up by now! Not a strong argument- Those poor souls have to tolerate all the everyday noise during the day and no one complains about that 😁

fatandtrying · 13/04/2025 10:11

Seymour5 · 13/04/2025 08:28

i would say it relates to volume, although it’s unlikely to include anything classical. Some people seem unable to enjoy what they consider music unless it’s deafening. The idiots blasting it out of their car or as in this case, in their garden, with no thought for anyone else.

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I must fit this category as I do love to blast my fav music from the car when I'm driving alone

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TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 10:09

It may have been coincidental they turned it off at that time. I have mental health issues with sounds. The hammer and gun were a lst resort. It would take me a few nights of this to get to this stage I believe though.

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/04/2025 10:06

TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 09:57

I think it would be more them getting hurt.

When I say neighbour, I don't mean adjoining. Their garden is opposite ours. They weren't even in their garden. I believe they were in their neighbours garden further away so had speaker so they could hear from a garden away.

The music was off about 20:30 when it got a bit dark and not long after a couple of people started shouting at them.

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So in summary, your neighbour played loud music for just over an hour and a half for the first time, on a sunny weekend evening. Then when someone shouted to turn it off they did.

Yep better load that gun and get ready for next time. They sound like the worse neighbours ever 🙄

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TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 09:57

I think it would be more them getting hurt.

When I say neighbour, I don't mean adjoining. Their garden is opposite ours. They weren't even in their garden. I believe they were in their neighbours garden further away so had speaker so they could hear from a garden away.

The music was off about 20:30 when it got a bit dark and not long after a couple of people started shouting at them.

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Tricho · 13/04/2025 09:51

OP respectfully- start saving for a detached house.

Coconutter24 · 13/04/2025 09:47

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Hmm I think your stupidity is more likely to get you hurt tbh, so whilst i originally said it’s not a police matter maybe you should call them to stop you getting yourself hurt 🙈

what time did the music turn off?

Coconutter24 · 13/04/2025 09:44

JorgyPorgy · 13/04/2025 09:34

No one expects silence but it’s unreasonable to blast your music so others can’t enjoy peace in own home - nor is it reasonable to l have speakers in garden . Also why do some people assume others want to be forced to listen to their music preferences? You get this in parks and at the beach now, people with portable speakers blaring whatever they want. What if we all did that?! Then no one would be able to hear what they wanted to , just a loud mess of sound.

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It is unreasonable if it was every night but I think for a one off party it’s not the end of the world. If it’s an ongoing issue in the future then obviously that’s not ok but given it’s been one time on a nice spring evening I wouldn’t get worked up about it

JorgyPorgy · 13/04/2025 09:43

Bringmeahigherlove · 13/04/2025 08:24

I don’t understand why people feel the need to blast their music in built up areas! It drives me mad. So selfish, not everyone wants to listen to it. I wouldn’t call the police though, I’m sure they have more important matters to deal with but I would knock on them and ask them to turn it down.

And if they told you to eff off and turn it up, then what ?

BMW6 · 13/04/2025 09:41

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WTF is wrong with you? Your poor child.

JorgyPorgy · 13/04/2025 09:34

Coconutter24 · 13/04/2025 09:16

Whilst I sympathise with your DD it’s not for the world to manage. You can’t expect everyone to go about their day silently for your DD. It’s the first weekend we’ve had with nice weather people are enjoying it. You said it’s a new neighbour so maybe a house warming party and not a regular thing. Either way it’s not a police matter

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No one expects silence but it’s unreasonable to blast your music so others can’t enjoy peace in own home - nor is it reasonable to l have speakers in garden . Also why do some people assume others want to be forced to listen to their music preferences? You get this in parks and at the beach now, people with portable speakers blaring whatever they want. What if we all did that?! Then no one would be able to hear what they wanted to , just a loud mess of sound.

TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 09:20

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Coconutter24 · 13/04/2025 09:18

TalkToTheHand123 · 13/04/2025 07:57

Reasonability depends on the volume level. It was ridiculous. You couldn't have a conversation in your own house with all the doors and windows closed. You shouldn't have to go knock and ask. One should always be considerate of one's neighbours.

I don't think I would have got stick going around with a hammer though.

I don't think I would have got stick going around with a hammer though.

or you could of got your own head caved in with a hammer 🤦‍♀️ don’t be so stupid

Coconutter24 · 13/04/2025 09:16

TalkToTheHand123 · 12/04/2025 20:22

They aren't even in the garden. They are in the next one down so speaker is on even louder. Police call suggested as council will be closed. DD9 has mental health issues with loud sounds.

Whilst I sympathise with your DD it’s not for the world to manage. You can’t expect everyone to go about their day silently for your DD. It’s the first weekend we’ve had with nice weather people are enjoying it. You said it’s a new neighbour so maybe a house warming party and not a regular thing. Either way it’s not a police matter

Gogogo12345 · 13/04/2025 09:03

JorgyPorgy · 13/04/2025 08:16

Agreed except I don’t know what you mean about “got stick … hammer “.

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If she took a hammer round then she's unlikely to get any stick, ie trouble