Page 3 | To be angry of DH fiddling on my side of the bed?

ThisChic · 13/04/2025 00:03

lifeonmars100 · 12/04/2025 18:02

Sometimes when I feel a bit lonely, a quick browse on here makes me appreciate being single

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100% this. I don't really feel lonely to be honest, but I do like to browse the relationship threads.

All of the 'boyfriend/DH is messaging other women on Instagram....DH and friends in a WhatsApp group commenting on my best mate's tits....DH liking other women's photos' etc etc threads give me the ick. Much rather me single than have a man like that!!

ThisChic · 13/04/2025 00:01

Mnetcurious · 12/04/2025 23:57

Agreed - pretty sure mine doesn’t. If he does I’ve never seen or heard evidence of it in 20+ years of marriage.

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That's how it should be. I wonder how common it is in the Only Fans, Social Media generations though (millennial, Gen Z) 🙄😅

Heidi2018 · 13/04/2025 00:00

ThisChic · 13/04/2025 00:00

That's fair enough....does it not make you insecure, the thought of him thinking about other women though?

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Where did I way he wanks about other women

ThisChic · 13/04/2025 00:00

Heidi2018 · 12/04/2025 23:59

Mine does because I go through phases of not being in the mood! For him he's not getting enough sex but he respects me enough to not push me into having it when I don't want it!

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That's fair enough....does it not make you insecure, the thought of him thinking about other women though?

ThisChic · 12/04/2025 23:59

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 12/04/2025 17:45

Because that's normal behaviour? There's nothing wrong with having a wank. I find it a great reliever of stress.

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Why do men need to w@nk if they're in a relationship, getting enough sex, with a woman they're attracted to?

Heidi2018 · 12/04/2025 23:59

ThisChic · 12/04/2025 23:52

Tbh I don't understand why men in relationships or marriages who supposedly are attracted to their gf/wife need to masturbate....if they are getting enough sex...

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Mine does because I go through phases of not being in the mood! For him he's not getting enough sex but he respects me enough to not push me into having it when I don't want it!

Mnetcurious · 12/04/2025 23:57

ThisChic · 12/04/2025 23:52

Tbh I don't understand why men in relationships or marriages who supposedly are attracted to their gf/wife need to masturbate....if they are getting enough sex...

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Agreed - pretty sure mine doesn’t. If he does I’ve never seen or heard evidence of it in 20+ years of marriage.

Mnetcurious · 12/04/2025 23:55

“I think most women know what happens in the house when they are out, it’s like CSI in our heads”

Speak for yourself, definitely not the case here - I have no suspicions about what my husband does when I’m not there (usually working) nor does it ever occur to me to turn detective.

ThisChic · 12/04/2025 23:52

ExtraOnions · 12/04/2025 16:30

He wanks in your side of the bed? How do you know this ?

I have no idea when, or where (or if??), my husband masturbates. I’ve never seen any associated detritus hanging around.

Tbh I don't understand why men in relationships or marriages who supposedly are attracted to their gf/wife need to masturbate....if they are getting enough sex...

WooleyMunky · 12/04/2025 23:52

Pedallleur · 12/04/2025 16:38

Don't some people claim to have posh wanks? Tell him you know and just stop or use his side of the bed/use tissues/change the sheet/leave a sheet out and a note saying when you have finished wanking please change the sheet and put the soiled one in the washing basket. Thank you.

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Invented by Viz.
No man, ever, has actually had a 'posh wank'.

MeganM3 · 12/04/2025 23:33

Agree with you OP, it’s not right.
I don’t like my H / anyone else using my pillows. Even resting against them. I just don’t like it. My face is on there while I sleep I don’t want someone else’s head oil or sweat or dandruff or ANYTHING ELSE being on there. Yuck.

SmugglersHaunt · 12/04/2025 23:30

LTB

ForPearlNewt · 12/04/2025 23:26

From the thread title I assumed the DH was messing up the carefully made bed with his enthusiastic violin playing. 🎻

FeministUnderTheCatriarchy · 12/04/2025 23:24

springbringshope · 12/04/2025 18:41

That you read so much into the post that didn’t happens suggests everything in you is primed to be repulsed by men’s sexuality. At no point has anyone said he’s cumming on anything.

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Mhmm... I think you are the one doing the reaching with your comment lol.

ClairDeLaLune · 12/04/2025 23:17

ICanTellYouMissMe · 12/04/2025 18:13

I had a wank on the sofa today. Twice. Maybe I should have Dextered it with cling film first or something, judging by the horrified comments on here.

Are you JD Vance?

PluckyBamboo · 12/04/2025 23:09

That is so grim and disrespectful. Buy him a box of tissues and penis beaker.

Moveoverdarlin · 12/04/2025 22:59

I can’t see how this is any different to having aex with him on your side of the bed. Can’t say I get the uproar.

itsjustbiology · 12/04/2025 22:58

Before you go out hide your pillows in the spare room! Is this happening every time you leave the house? I do hope you don't have a busy schedule OP the poor man must be exhausted!

HarlanPepper · 12/04/2025 22:53

candycane222 · 12/04/2025 22:02

I think the DH crime is that he rouches the posh cushions so OP can tell he's been on her side of the bed. The - crustier evidence (a sock? A t-shirt?) goes in the laundry bin - but he fails to plump up the posh cushions properly, nay, may even lay on them with his smelly man head...

Hmm now i think about it, I wouldn't want my DH smelly man head on my pillows - so I do kind of see OP's point. Though whether there is any chance whatsoever of making her DH understand is another question....

How do you manage to share a bed with someone you find physically repulsive?

Ellebelle01 · 12/04/2025 22:53

I read that he doesn’t leave any evidence, it’s in the laundry bin. So I’m not sure I understand. Do you not have sex with him on your side of the bed either? Lol

ilovepixie · 12/04/2025 22:43

Does he not have a cock sock?

ThisIsMyYearToFindMyself · 12/04/2025 22:42

ItGhoul · 12/04/2025 22:37

Hmm now i think about it, I wouldn't want my DH smelly man head on my pillows

’Smelly man head’? Fucking hell. Are you five years old?

I swear to god, it isn’t fucking normal for a straight person to be automatically repulsed by the opposite sex.

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There seems to be more pushback on this thread than I normally see, and it’s about time too.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 12/04/2025 22:40

Are you sure he's alone in the bed @Kukaracha ?

ItGhoul · 12/04/2025 22:37

candycane222 · 12/04/2025 22:02

I think the DH crime is that he rouches the posh cushions so OP can tell he's been on her side of the bed. The - crustier evidence (a sock? A t-shirt?) goes in the laundry bin - but he fails to plump up the posh cushions properly, nay, may even lay on them with his smelly man head...

Hmm now i think about it, I wouldn't want my DH smelly man head on my pillows - so I do kind of see OP's point. Though whether there is any chance whatsoever of making her DH understand is another question....

Hmm now i think about it, I wouldn't want my DH smelly man head on my pillows

’Smelly man head’? Fucking hell. Are you five years old?

I swear to god, it isn’t fucking normal for a straight person to be automatically repulsed by the opposite sex.

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Kukaracha · 12/04/2025 22:25

@candycane222 You have so got it. I do not care if he understands, as long as he just does not do it. I do not fully understand why he would not want me to drive his precious sports car, but I do not labour the point, as I am happy to drive my own car. 😂 Same thing.

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