New partner room sharing with teenage step kids on holiday?

I think its inappropriate and I don't think she should go on the holiday. His kids don't want to sleep in the same room as him and his GF. 🤮 However, I wouldn't comment unless I was asked.

Plenty women stay in relationships longer than they should for the sake of the children.

If this is you, OP, don't go. It'll be hell and the fallout will be hell and the ex is right

This is really insensitive of these kids DF. They barely know your friend. Poor kids.

Yup. Even Ray Charles could see that he was sleeping with both women at the same time.

Surely it’s soon to be ex wife or can you divorce within nine months?

Ah the old "only together for years for the sake of the kids" line.

I agree it's inappropriate. I have a 15 yo and a 12 yo. We are (both biological parents) doing one night in a family premier inn to visit family next week because dh forgot to book 2 rooms but when we go on holidays we always get 2 rooms now and dh sharde with ds and I share with dd. No way would my kids want to share with another adult for a whole holiday.

Why do people always say it's not ex's business? You'd have to be a fucking saint not to feel upset and angry about your husband taking his mistress in holiday with your kids and actually his family just swapping you out for the OW.

This is ick. Just no. What is your friend thinking ?! And the bloke sounds like a great catch 🙄🤣

That's wild. No, she cannot reasonably share a bed with the dad while kids are in the room, nor can she share a bed with either child. Unless it's 4 bunk beds, and even then it'll be awkward AF. They need to add on a room for the teens to sleep in. Or she takes a separate holiday and lets the kids have their dad for a bit.

His girlfriend doesn’t join them on this family holiday to Disneyland after all. That’s the simple, logical, child centred decision here, surely?

They’ve had a rough year with their parents splitting up. Disneyland would be an amazing holiday for them to get some quality time with their dad, who no longer lives with them, without having to share him or their room with the woman he is shagging.

Not that complicated in my opinion 🤷🏻‍♀️

Nailed it.

The sleeping set-up is totally inappropriate and your friend should use some common sense and not join this holiday.

They’ve barely been together 9 months this is a million different types of wrong

What are the sleeping arrangements? American hotel rooms that state they sleep 4 frequently only have two queen beds. We go to the US most years and as a family of 4 with 1 DS and 1 DD it can be really difficult to find suitable hotel accommodation as American hotels never gave twin beds. My two will share a room but obviously will not share a bed. We have also had suites with two beds and a sofa bed but we are all related to each other so no awkwardness all being in the same space. I'd suggest even a suite is super uncomfortable for kids seeing dad with someone who isn't their mum. Your friend is nuts thinking this would work.

The alternatives are:

1. The girlfriend doesn't go, and let's the DC enjoy a holiday with their dad.
2. Adjoining rooms.
3. A suite with separate sleeping spaces.
4. She books another hotel room somewhere cheaper and lets the dad and DC have the Disney room.

My dc are around this age (but same sex) and we don't even share sleeping spaces anymore, and we're biological family! It's just not comfortable for anyone. We book adjoining hotel rooms or rooms with separate sleep spaces such as a 2 bed apartment.

You say your friend has been well accepted by the family so already invited along on the “big” holiday - this is what I find disappointing of the grandparents. It would’ve been a good chance for the extended family to quietly show support for what the children are going through by having just their son and grandchildren (no friend), regardless of the size or configuration of the room. Maybe your friend and her boyfriend deserve each other? I wouldn’t recognise this in any friend of mine. I feel sad for the children.

And next the friend will be on mumsnet saying her stepchildren ruined their dream Disney holiday by being rude, snappy and giving her the side eye and ignoring her.

Poor bloody kids.

She's an adult with no kids who's going to have to share a room with two teens (that's another thing, two weeks in Disney? Surely the kids are a bit old for it?) and stay in this resort that's extortionately expensive for two whole weeks..

I bet they didn't buy queue jump tickets either. So sitting in the boiling hot for ten hours a day, waiting. Maybe the very young kids will like it but even then, two bloody weeks?

And she's not paying but will need tons of spending money. But have no control over the activities.

I'd rather go to Iran and don a peep hole bikini to go to the mosque.

That's true we had a room like that last year. With two single beds a divider and a double bed.

They are likely to have long days in the parks.

And people can get changed in the bathroom. It's not that hard. It's maybe not ideal but it's not that hard to see how you make it work.

It's difficult one.
Hotels won't allow children to be in a room with out an adult.

So what's the alternative?
Especially if it's already booked?

Why isn't your friend running the other way?

I wouldn't be happy with that if I were your friend, her partner, the ex or the kids!

Assuming there is also ine bathroom, how horrendous for everyone. People need to use the loo, this alone if I was any one of these people having to share would not be ok for me, if you need a number two late at night and the whole room know what you are doing in there.
Getting dressed, teen boy and grown random woman whos shagging his dad, sharing a room.
The whole thing is just hideous.
Also, kids can be awkward, there is nowhere for anyone to go if they need space or have had an argument. No one with kids could possibly think that you can get through a 2 week holiday without some sort of melt down or argument.
I would pay for my own room I think, id I was the friend. Maybe in a different resort or country preferably

How old is 16 yr old compared to the friend ?

they’re going to be stuck together 24 /7 for two weeks, they probably won’t be together by the time they come back, his family aren’t coming across that great either, even if they don’t like his ex wife, they should be looking out for the welfare of their grandchildren

If the difference of an extra room is 4 grand (in autumn) they need to book somewhere they can afford to stay. Plenty of 3 bedroom stays or hotels for a fraction of that. Or not go for 2 weeks. Even if they were all related 2 weeks is too long for teenagers and their parents to room share.