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Friends Boyfriend Is Lazy And A Womaniser

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CheekyPombear · 12/04/2025 01:55

A close friend of mine met a man last November.
He is about 13 years her senior and she is having doubts about him.
He lives on his own in a one bed HA flat.
He doesnt drive he hasnt been in employment since 2002 he doesnt seem to have and skills or formal qualifications.
He has epilepsy but its managed by meds.
He has asked if he can live with her she owns her own home outright a nice 2 bed new build semi.
Im thinking he wants to move in with her then after so long claim he has rights to some of her capital etc.
Also he thinks he is gods gift his best friend said he always had many girlfriends and flings but none owned property or had a career like my friend.
He is 58 in October.
Is it bad to think he is a loser?.
He goes to bars nearly every night too.

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Spandaupants · 17/04/2025 01:24

CheekyPombear · 14/04/2025 18:38

The reason my friend dumped him quick was because he came round to her house last week with his daughter quell surprise.
She went in the kitchen to make drinks and overheard him tell his daughter dont worry one day this house and her money will be yours.
When she came out of the kitchen his daughter asked her if her Dad was going to be moving into his new home soon and if my friend had any kids.
My friend said no but i have a much younger brother and this will be his not yours.
She started shouting at my friend who told her to get out.

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TeaAndTattoos · 15/04/2025 01:17

CheekyPombear · 14/04/2025 18:38

The reason my friend dumped him quick was because he came round to her house last week with his daughter quell surprise.
She went in the kitchen to make drinks and overheard him tell his daughter dont worry one day this house and her money will be yours.
When she came out of the kitchen his daughter asked her if her Dad was going to be moving into his new home soon and if my friend had any kids.
My friend said no but i have a much younger brother and this will be his not yours.
She started shouting at my friend who told her to get out.

Erm are you forgetting what your posting on here because you said that he had never met his daughter so how was she suddenly in your friends house. Don’t start trying to embellish your story now because it makes people question your whole post. You don’t need to have a good memory if you tell the truth.

ItGhoul · 14/04/2025 21:44

CheekyPombear · 14/04/2025 18:38

The reason my friend dumped him quick was because he came round to her house last week with his daughter quell surprise.
She went in the kitchen to make drinks and overheard him tell his daughter dont worry one day this house and her money will be yours.
When she came out of the kitchen his daughter asked her if her Dad was going to be moving into his new home soon and if my friend had any kids.
My friend said no but i have a much younger brother and this will be his not yours.
She started shouting at my friend who told her to get out.

Yeah, this didn’t happen though did it?

meganorks · 14/04/2025 21:40

Honestly, if she can't figure out for herself that this guy is a lover, I think she is beyond help! What exactly is he bringing to the table?!

TwistedWonder · 14/04/2025 21:36

Bananalanacake · 14/04/2025 21:35

Eh, so this waster man's daughter who he hasn't seen for 18 years, came to her house and started shouting when told the house wouldn't be hers.

Hmm starting to think the shark been jumped on this tale now

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 14/04/2025 21:36

Well looks like he's back on the market again OP , don't hang about he'll be snapped up 🙀

Bananalanacake · 14/04/2025 21:35

Eh, so this waster man's daughter who he hasn't seen for 18 years, came to her house and started shouting when told the house wouldn't be hers.

Springhassprungthesunisout · 14/04/2025 21:16

Sounds like she's dodged a bullet! He's the biggest CF wannabe cocklodger on MN! And his DD sounds like a chip off the old block!

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CheekyPombear · 14/04/2025 18:38

The reason my friend dumped him quick was because he came round to her house last week with his daughter quell surprise.
She went in the kitchen to make drinks and overheard him tell his daughter dont worry one day this house and her money will be yours.
When she came out of the kitchen his daughter asked her if her Dad was going to be moving into his new home soon and if my friend had any kids.
My friend said no but i have a much younger brother and this will be his not yours.
She started shouting at my friend who told her to get out.

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VapeVamp12 · 14/04/2025 02:38

Dating someone like that short term, fine if its a bit of fun. But please convince your friend to not go any further and 100% do not allow this man to move into her home.

TeaAndTattoos · 14/04/2025 01:31

CheekyPombear · 14/04/2025 01:12

My friend phoned me on Sunday morning she dumped him by text on Saturday night.
He went round to hers Sunday afternoon with flowers and she let him in but told him its over.
He asked why she said we have nada in common.
He threw the flowers on her drive as he left.

Good on her I’m glad she saw the light and told him where to go he’s a massive cocklodger.

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CheekyPombear · 14/04/2025 01:12

My friend phoned me on Sunday morning she dumped him by text on Saturday night.
He went round to hers Sunday afternoon with flowers and she let him in but told him its over.
He asked why she said we have nada in common.
He threw the flowers on her drive as he left.

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tuvamoodyson · 12/04/2025 16:05

CheekyPombear · 12/04/2025 15:18

Of course I know he is a tosser.

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Then what’s your AIBU?

BadSkiingMum · 12/04/2025 15:46

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TwistedWonder · 12/04/2025 15:44

Also, who starts talking about moving in with someone they only met less than six months ago?

Most of the women on MN who start threads about how they’re stuck with a useless cocklodging twat they can’t get rid of.

ItGhoul · 12/04/2025 15:30

He sounds appalling. What on earth does she actually see in him?

Also, who starts talking about moving in with someone they only met less than six months ago?

ConnieSlow · 12/04/2025 15:28

He may be, but your friend is the one picking him so to me there are two losers here. A grown adult woman is responsible for her own choices.

everythingeverything1981 · 12/04/2025 15:25

It's weird the aspring cocklodger I know has a mother who has a cocklodger bloke who refuses to engage with the benefits or pension system so has zero income and 45 year old "musician" son who also mooches off her.

Woman must have patience of a saint, or be very stupid.

Rewis · 12/04/2025 15:25

Why is your friend with him? Clearly he has something going for him to be able to have this woman be into him. And has had many girlfriends.

everythingeverything1981 · 12/04/2025 15:21

Cocklodger deluxe edition

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 12/04/2025 15:20

Does your friend know the good old MN quote 'nobody falls in love faster than a man who needs somewhere to live.'? Because this sounds like a Class A exhibit.

Poppyseeds79 · 12/04/2025 15:19

CheekyPombear · 12/04/2025 15:14

Just say he did move in with her after two years she asks him to go he could go to a solicitor and say he has a interest because he has lived at her house?.

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Well it sounds like he'll be paying fuck all! So other than the interest is he'd enjoy sponging off your mate. Then no he'd still be entitled to a big fat 0% of her property.

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CheekyPombear · 12/04/2025 15:18

tuvamoodyson · 12/04/2025 15:16

So you’re genuinely asking if it’s bad to think he’s a loser? Why do you feel unsure?

Of course I know he is a tosser.

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Poppyseeds79 · 12/04/2025 15:18

CheekyPombear · 12/04/2025 14:06

He thinks he is gods gift hence many girlfriends.
Even his best friend said that.
When he was in his 20's he had three different women in a month.
God knows what they saw in him.

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Erm, well for a start that was 30+yrs ago...

Is this legit? 🤣

tuvamoodyson · 12/04/2025 15:16

So you’re genuinely asking if it’s bad to think he’s a loser? Why do you feel unsure?