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To expect my DD will try drugs?

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Roxietrees · 12/04/2025 01:35

Not really an AIBU question but didn’t know where else to put it. Was just reading another thread and it got me thinking (maybe MN isn’t the best test group for this question but we’ll see!) I feel like back in the day on crime drama type tv shows where some young person goes missing the parents would always say to the police “no our son/daughter would never touch drugs, not in a million years, they’re not like that” or whatever. But these days you don’t get those kind of lines in the same types of tv shows (not that I’ve seen anyway, I might be wrong) and I’m wondering whether that’s because the attitude around drugs has shifted and it’s become more socially acceptable than it was early late 90s/early 2000s? I did a load of drugs in my teens and early 20s (early 2000s) so did almost everyone I know, and we’re all pretty normal, well-adjusted, successful people. My DD is still very young but I fully expect her to experiment with drugs as a teenager, I feel like it’s a right of passage. I just want to educate her about the dangers and discourage her but at the end of the day she’s going to make her own mind up. I’m just wondering if other people expect that their kids will try drugs or do you feel certain they won’t? If so why?

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StMarie4me · 12/04/2025 02:39

None of my kids, or grandkids have ever used drugs.

Melbourne55 · 12/04/2025 02:37

I have a 20yo DD, maybe it’s just the (largely sensible!) crowd that she hangs out with but drugs don’t seem to be as common as they were in the 90s/early 00s. Weed is fairly typical and I’ve heard of poppers being used but nothing other than that.

I’d be surprised if DD tried anything more than weed and doubt that she would to be honest as she’s quite critical of any of her peers who do ‘hard’ drugs. She’s quite risk averse and doesn’t like feeling out of control so I can’t imagine drugs being her cup of tea.. it took until last year for her to go on a ‘proper’ night out so I think we’re safe enough🙈