Best friend husband unfriended me on Facebook

The complete wankers are the ones who post:
”if you’re reading this then congratulations, you’ve survived my cull.” Followed by loads of comments from sycophants saying “oh yay, I’m so happy I’m your friend” <cringe>. Actually that’s another reason to unfriend people.

Well that I definitely agree with! But it kind of proves my point, doesn’t it? People hitting the delete button are usually doing so out of self-importance.

Yeah this.

Have you recently posted something that's quite "marmite" and he's not in the same camp as your way of thinking?

I just deleted a school friend of 30yrs after she's started daily postings about Trump.

The complete wankers are the ones who post:

”if you’re reading this then congratulations, you’ve survived my cull.” Followed by loads of comments from sycophants saying “oh yay, I’m so happy I’m your friend” <cringe>. Actually that’s another reason to unfriend people.

Or those who post “If you’ve been through cancer/mental health difficulties/<insert heinous disease of choice> copy and paste this to your status so that people know you care. I know only my true friends will post this, so I will be unfriending those who don’t.

I unfriend those as well…

Delete FB, instagram, twitter (x!) And tiktok. You'll feel a lot better, I promise.

I wouldn't take it personally, my husband unfriended everyone last yearbon face book apart from 3 people, including me 😂as he had some sort of social media and digital cleanse thing where he decided social media was a terrible thing and only wanted to use it to keepnin contaxt with three best friends who live on the other aide of the world.
I also have friends who won't go on facebook and never have.
If he is fine with you in real life thats all you need to know. There is no law that says you have to be on facebook.

Get over yourself
if you have no contact or interest just delete
says more about the deleted person if they kick off that screams attention as in how dare they

What about my post are you struggling to understand?

KewTitles · Today 06:01

Only complete wankers delete people who they haven’t actively fallen out with. It’s so “Look at meeeee! I’m far too important to just scroll past an update I don’t like! My time is just sooooprecious!”

So you are calling @Eastertidings a complete wanker for deleting people they no longer have contact with? They gave genuine reasons to delete people. If you don’t have contact with someone or no longer interested in what they’re up to why do we have to remain Facebook friends?

You’ve still got to actively decide to do it, though. It takes even less thought and effort not to do it.

Tbh, Facebook has become nearly unusable in the last few months. I have pages there for work and promotion and it's damn near impossible to see any posts from friends because of the endless pages of ads, posts from people I've never heard of let alone friended, and general random shit. I'm over there as little as possible now and only really post when I have something to promote.

Maybe he feels the same? It's pointless if you're only seeing posts from people you know when they are a week old, and even then they are lost among 'History of Lincoln' posts (I've never even been there) and 'Horses for Sale'.

IMO there are several different types of unfrienders.

There are the ones who you never engage with, are there just in name, and who periodically cull their friend list based on the fact they never engage with these people.

Nothing wrong with that, and they’re just as likely to be in my cull as I am in theirs. And certainly I wouldn’t take offence.

Then there are the unfrienders who aren’t actually unfrienders, but who have decided to come off fb altogether but haven’t said anything.

And then there are those who actually are friends and who unfriend and you’re not sure why. And those are the ones you might think to question.

E.g. my DP’s brother was telling him recently how much they all love me, how much they really want to see me, and how we should both go and visit. And then about three weeks later I discovered he’d unfriended me on FB. I have no idea why. But in that instance it does make a statement IMO.

I have no intentions of asking why. I haven’t done anything to offend him, so it’s on him as to why. I won’t be making any effort to go and see him now or to engage with him though.

YABU for still using and caring about Facebook. Have some self respect

I'd unfriend her and forget about them both.

jeez, no need to make OP feel self conscious.

She said unfriended, not blocked. Different.

i got the the whole added on facebook and blocked without any words, i could understand if they needed a break with the friendship but i wish they would of discussed it first so i could say thank you for the chats, and all the best etc

instead it was your blocked, and its like thanks.

so unless they fell in love with me im not sure why the block as that was my other theory based on a few factors and their body language when i did see them in person.

so certainly a puzzlement

Either you and/or he use Facebook a lot but have few interests in common OR you and/or he use Facebook very little and he doesnt feel the need to communicate with you there. I imagine he has just tidied up and removed people he doesn't intrract with.

How did you even know, I have lots of Facebook friends from ages ago that I wouldn't notice if they weren't friends any more .... were you just a bit too interested in what he was doing/saying?

What thought and effort does it take? Either you decide to do a full of people you don’t interact with and the. You just go down the list or you see a post from someone and decide you aren’t that interested anymore and then you click a couple of times and they are gone. It’s not a multi step complicated or time consuming task.

but its not the best friend its the husband......I mean get a grip!

What for, though? It’s not like Facebook has a maximum number of friends and I need to create space. It’s not like there’s a charge per friend. So why actively cut people out if I haven’t fallen out with them? Just because we’re not in regular contact, does that mean I should deliberately make sure I cannot contact them (or vice versa)?

For me, half the point of Facebook is that you can keep in more casual touch with people you might not see or hear from much otherwise (school friends, old colleagues etc.). I don’t see the point of keeping it to only close friends I see regularly - I know what they’re doing anyway.

I had a friend who did this. She just decided to clear up her Facebook friends by removing those she was not really in touch with anymore.

He perhaps did something similar. You are his wife’s friend after all, not his.

I really wouldn’t give it any more thought.

I only have my actual friends and family on Facebook so literally the people I’d invite to my wedding. I occasionally get rid of a few if we are no longer close. Maybe he was changing how he uses it?