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Best friend husband unfriended me on Facebook

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Bernie54 · 12/04/2025 00:28

To be offended that my best friends husband has unfriended me on Facebook. I only noticed by chance. Best friend says don’t take it personal ? But we have been best friends since 14, we are now both 54….they now live quite remotely about 5 hours away, so I don’t see her. I just find it odd behaviour. Should I care or even be bothered ?

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Bernie54 · 12/04/2025 11:25

GloriaHeart · 12/04/2025 11:10

Next you’ll be accused of having

‘Live, Laugh, Love’ on your lounge wall even though no one on here has seen your lounge!

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🤣🤣🤣

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cardibach · 12/04/2025 11:21

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 11:20

Then why are you so desperate for me to change my opinion?

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I wasn’t. I was pointing out that calling people wankers for having a different view from yours was a bit…excessive.

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 11:20

cardibach · 12/04/2025 11:19

That’s my exact point…

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Then why are you so desperate for me to change my opinion?

cardibach · 12/04/2025 11:19

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 11:05

Well I think differently. My opinion is no more valid than yours or vice versa.

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That’s my exact point…

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 11:17

Coconutter24 · 12/04/2025 11:13

Well the original question I asked was, If you don’t have contact with someone or no longer interested in what they’re up to why do we have to remain Facebook friends? If the only reason is because your a wanker if you delete them then that is a bit of a odd reason to stay Facebook friends

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Well don’t stay Facebook friends with them then! It’s not like I’m the Prime Minister and have passed a law on this. I’m just someone with a different view to you. Why would it bother you if a stranger thought you were being an arse?

CountryQueen · 12/04/2025 11:15

Bernie54 · 12/04/2025 10:55

Nah you sound like you know more about that than me 🤣🤣

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Do I? I only know it because that’s why I deleted my mates wife and another friend. She is constantly “healing” and apparently we all need to know what a “strong woman” she is. 🥱

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 11:14

But why would you add your partner’s sister’s beautician’s granny or whoever in the first place? As for people you haven’t seen in 20 years, surely the point is that you can keep in touch after a fashion?

Coconutter24 · 12/04/2025 11:13

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 11:04

Well that’s where we disagree. I don’t know what you want me to say.

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Well the original question I asked was, If you don’t have contact with someone or no longer interested in what they’re up to why do we have to remain Facebook friends? If the only reason is because your a wanker if you delete them then that is a bit of a odd reason to stay Facebook friends

PishPish · 12/04/2025 11:12

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 10:54

But that’s why I said “unless you’ve actively fallen out with them”. I wouldn’t keep people on Facebook who I actively wanted out of my life. But casual friends I’ve not seen in a long time? Why would I delete them?

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Because you’re bored by irrelevant people in whom you no longer have much interest cluttering up your FB? Because keeping people you haven’t seen in 20 years and will almost certainly never see again as ‘friends’ seems completely pointless? Because you suddenly realise that having your ex’s sister’s friend’s beautician friended is a bit mad, given that you’ve been divorced for a decade?

GloriaHeart · 12/04/2025 11:10

Bernie54 · 12/04/2025 10:55

Nah you sound like you know more about that than me 🤣🤣

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Next you’ll be accused of having

‘Live, Laugh, Love’ on your lounge wall even though no one on here has seen your lounge!

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 11:05

XWKD · 12/04/2025 11:04

I have a friend I'd love to unfriend of FB, but he has problems and I think it's better if I don't. He's obsessed with antivax conspiracy shite and posts a couple of times a day about Covid. I used to be able to unfollow him so he wouldn't show up in my notifications.

I've also had friend requests from people who had previously unfriended me after a clear out. It doesn't mean anything.

Why can’t you unfollow him now?

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 11:05

cardibach · 12/04/2025 10:56

Maybe you wouldn’t @KewTitles , but it doesn’t mean someone who did is a self important wanker. I tend to just leave people alone unless they post stuff that annoys me and I don’t interact with them, but I have no problem with anyone who has periodic culls.

Well I think differently. My opinion is no more valid than yours or vice versa.

XWKD · 12/04/2025 11:04

I have a friend I'd love to unfriend of FB, but he has problems and I think it's better if I don't. He's obsessed with antivax conspiracy shite and posts a couple of times a day about Covid. I used to be able to unfollow him so he wouldn't show up in my notifications.

I've also had friend requests from people who had previously unfriended me after a clear out. It doesn't mean anything.

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 11:04

Coconutter24 · 12/04/2025 10:56

Some people don’t want to see what casual friends are up to, if they haven’t seen them in a long time they might not care what they’re are doing so delete them. Doesn’t mean they are wankers for doing that

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Well that’s where we disagree. I don’t know what you want me to say.

cardibach · 12/04/2025 10:56

Maybe you wouldn’t @KewTitles , but it doesn’t mean someone who did is a self important wanker. I tend to just leave people alone unless they post stuff that annoys me and I don’t interact with them, but I have no problem with anyone who has periodic culls.

Coconutter24 · 12/04/2025 10:56

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 10:54

But that’s why I said “unless you’ve actively fallen out with them”. I wouldn’t keep people on Facebook who I actively wanted out of my life. But casual friends I’ve not seen in a long time? Why would I delete them?

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Some people don’t want to see what casual friends are up to, if they haven’t seen them in a long time they might not care what they’re are doing so delete them. Doesn’t mean they are wankers for doing that

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Bernie54 · 12/04/2025 10:55

CountryQueen · 12/04/2025 10:54

You’ll have been liking shitty bot posts about self help or narcs or “dance like nobody’s watching” nonsense.

Nah you sound like you know more about that than me 🤣🤣

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KewTitles · 12/04/2025 10:54

Coconutter24 · 12/04/2025 10:52

I understand you think people are wankers what I do t understand is why you think people are wankers for wanting to delete people from their own social media. We wouldn’t continue to have a relationship with someone in real life if we didn’t want to so why should we on social media?

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But that’s why I said “unless you’ve actively fallen out with them”. I wouldn’t keep people on Facebook who I actively wanted out of my life. But casual friends I’ve not seen in a long time? Why would I delete them?

Coconutter24 · 12/04/2025 10:54

Never2many · 12/04/2025 10:33

The complete wankers are the ones who post:

”if you’re reading this then congratulations, you’ve survived my cull.” Followed by loads of comments from sycophants saying “oh yay, I’m so happy I’m your friend” <cringe>. Actually that’s another reason to unfriend people.

Or those who post “If you’ve been through cancer/mental health difficulties/<insert heinous disease of choice> copy and paste this to your status so that people know you care. I know only my true friends will post this, so I will be unfriending those who don’t.

I unfriend those as well…

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Yes those fair enough, with there friend cull message to the lucky ones who survive but I don’t think people are ‘wankers’ as they have been called for deleting people silently that they no longer want on their Facebook friends list

CountryQueen · 12/04/2025 10:54

You’ll have been liking shitty bot posts about self help or narcs or “dance like nobody’s watching” nonsense.

Coconutter24 · 12/04/2025 10:52

KewTitles · 12/04/2025 10:23

What about my post are you struggling to understand?

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I understand you think people are wankers what I do t understand is why you think people are wankers for wanting to delete people from their own social media. We wouldn’t continue to have a relationship with someone in real life if we didn’t want to so why should we on social media?

Billerto · 12/04/2025 10:47

Bernie54 · 12/04/2025 10:39

In your opinion

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I’d just give your friend a brief “as long as I’ve not offended him or anything that’s fine” and then just leave it at that because that opens the door for them to air any grievances and if they don’t say anything else about it you’ll just need to take it as there’s no issue and move on.

meganorks · 12/04/2025 10:41

I'm honestly not sure why you are bothered. If your best friend had unfriended you, sure. But her husband? Why does it matter? I doubt you have done anything to offend him, he's maybe just had a cull and cut it down to his own close friend's.

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Bernie54 · 12/04/2025 10:39

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/04/2025 10:37

It’s not self-important to delete people from FB, and if this seriously affects you mentally then you need help.

In your opinion

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OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/04/2025 10:37

It’s not self-important to delete people from FB, and if this seriously affects you mentally then you need help.