Best friend husband unfriended me on Facebook

Why give it any more headspace, @Bernie54? Shrug, move on, and get back your peace of mind.

Why not? What should I give a flying f*ck about who follows me or whether they may get tearful at not being able to see my dog photos?? Really?

It’s MY profile, My data being collated by Meta, viewed on MY device, in MY freetime and MY home. If people get upset ‘cos I am not bothered to follow them or share my holiday pics there, they are seriously unhinged.

Me too. I had people on FB I’ve not seen since before lockdown so I had a cull - what’s point of having people you don’t communicate with on there?

And I’ve seen some of those people in passing since I deleted them and other than one who was off, they were absolutely fine in real life.

If someone deletes me that I don’t see I’m not at all bothered. If they block me that’s different but deleting - really not a big deal .

If it's just "bloody facebook" then why go to all the bother of deleting folks and potentially making them feel like they upset or offended you in some way? It just isn't a nice thing to do unless of course they have upset you...

She is still active on FB and is still friends with my DH and some of my family members strangely. She hasn't seen DD for about a year but her DH has. Presents at Christmas and birthday had stopped before she unfriended me but I wasn't concerned about this.

I don’t “go on about stalkers and lurkers” so your friend isn't like me atall. And does your friend know that’s what you think of him and say about him behind his back? I don’t mean “pouring over every post” FGS - but no interaction in 5 years, including birth of children? And no posts in years? There’s no point one being connected with that person on FB IMO.

To me social media is a two way street not a one way one. If you think that’s weird that’s up to you. We’re all different thank goodness.

Lol me neither… but he’s sat beside me sipping beer and showing me photos of his afternoon visiting a uni with our DD. He sent me pics at the time and is actually [gasp] talking to me about it. No social media required!!

I wouldn’t worry too much OP. People can be strange with social media, as long as he’s polite in real life it doesn’t matter.
My dh unfollowed a few people because he found seeing their fake online persona was making it difficult to be a good friend. Like the friends who complain about their dh and then post how much they love them 5 minutes later. It’s not worth mentioning to them because they can post what they want and they aren’t going to post negative stuff, so he stopped seeing the posts.

Many people just trim back their friend list if they're not in touch much - perhaps he thinks you being in touch with his wife is enough. I wouldn't worry too much, it's probably nothing deep.

I ask as one my my criteria to cull people is the silent ones who never interact with me - like a PP said I find it a bit creepy like someone is looking at me through one way glass - sees what I post but gives nothing away and can’t even hit like every once in a while.

I find this very weird. I have a friend like you who keeps going about the “lurkers” and “stalkers” on his FB list. Seriously? Some people just don’t post very often! I very much doubt they’re poring over your every post.

Totally disagree. If I have anything to say to a partner I’ll talk to them in real life.

It makes me laugh and cringe when couples comment on each others FB when they’re probably in the same room. Just talk like adults ffs

I never had my husband as a friend on FB - I’d find it weird if I did

Lol, I thought I would get that reaction. We do speak iRL.

It’s a bit odd and intrusive to ask someone why they unfriendly you especially as you don’t seem to be good friends with him.

Its his right to choose who he is connected to on Facebook

Now THAT is weird in my opinion!

It’s up to the individual who they surround themselves with with, though, not pontificating strangers on anonymous fora. IRL I have lots of friends with differing opinions… but they only proffer them in organic conversation where the subject arises naturally. On SM you get people’s opinions imposed upon you when you are simply browsing for cat and dog memes. There is a difference. And I, like many, am entitled to set my boundaries where they suit me. Perhaps OP’s friend’s husband feels the same way. He is perfectly at liberty to stop following anyone he wishes to without any need to explain, justify or do the equivalent of a flounce.

I'm not Facebook friends with my own partner.

It might explain why he has unfriended you, if you aren’t really close, @Bernie54.

To be honest, I suspect he’s unfriending people he doesn’t often interact with, and you are one of those - nothing for you to be upset by, or worry about, so I hope you can get a bit of peace of mind about it.

I agree. I regularly delete people I don’t have much contact or communication with. If we haven’t seen each other for a few years, I really don’t think we need to see what’s going on in each others lives.

Doesn't mean I have a problem with them and I’ll happy be polite if our paths do cross.

I’ve been deleted by acquaintances and still chatter to them if we’ve bumped into each other. It’s not a big deal

But what I am is straightforward and open.

But not straightforward and open enough to ask him why he unfriended you? 😳

@KewTitles

At the time you add them, you do want (or if you don't actively want, are at least happy to have them) on your friends list. My point was, though, that sometimes the people that are added are not actual friends/not people that you actually have any kind of relationship with.

And as time goes by, with no communication, no contact, no relationship to speak of - it can feel a bit pointless to keep them there sometimes. There's no active falling out, because there's no relationship in the first place.

I suppose I don’t understand why you’d add people in the first place if you didn’t want them on your list.

Is it possible he and his wife are annoyed that you don’t make the effort to see her anymore even though you’re only 5 hours away?

He’s listening to her moan about the situation but she doesn’t want to confront you, so he’s unfriended you being fed up of the situation?

I unfriend because I only really post pics of my DC (sad, yes). I had friends of friends from uni etc. When you’re young, there’s a good chance you might be on a night out with a friend, they might bring a friend, you have a funny night and become friends on SM. You might be at weddings, parties, make work friends, friends of with your siblings, relatives of your OH, partners of your friends, etc. Basically when I was young, my social circle was massive.

Now I’d think, realistically I’ll never see this person again, or im not close enough to text them, or make plans with them and I don’t really want them seeing photos of my kids. Not for any nefarious reason, I just like it to be close friends and family
now.

Even if you’re someone who wouldn’t delete anyone, surely you can see not everyone will think the same way as you? I can’t imagine anyone would care if I deleted them as my content is so dull/rarely post anything. But seems like some people who aren’t really ongoing friends in real life get upset when people don’t want them on SM any longer. Or they’re upset at the reduction in follower numbers.