Best friend husband unfriended me on Facebook

@Bernie54 could it be that it's she is your best friend, he's not?

It's not about how many friends she has

Rosabloo it’s true for you 😂

Too much overthinking on being unfriended on a social media app.

@Bernie54 A friend/old work colleague of mine and also my husband defriended me. We haven't see each other for many years but have sporadically kept in touch. I was miffed more than annoyed that he kept my husband! It was a first for me but as we don't see them it doesn't matter. I find the fact that your friend was cagy a bit strange though.

Young people don't even use FB (as a rule)!

I'm not on FB but I noticed you said you planned to go see "them" this summer rather than "her," so this might possibly apply. (If so, he may have accepted your friend invitation years ago to be polite or whatever and now is getting around to culling his FB list). This, coupled with you being upset that he unfriended you on FB, made me think of this:

If it applies, I'll just say that people have different ideas of boundaries. For ex. I don't like it when I make a friend and they assume they are friends with my husband, too. They are not and to me, it's an annoying, uninvited overreach.

Sometimes they do have another agenda of wanting male attention from him to one extent or another and other times, they don't but it's still irritating and will make me decide to not further pursue the friendship. It's happened the other way too and my husband feels the same way I do. In other words, my friend would be coming to see "me," not "us." His friend would be his friend, not "our" friend.

Now that my kids are grown, it's come up there too, once or twice, where a friend of mine or my husband's tries to make an independent bond with one of our kids. It just seems pushy and annoying to us, and our kids don't really want to hang out with people their parents' ages either.

No idea if it applies or not but just a thought about if you're inadvertently crossing the boundary that your friend actually offered you there.

That must be so worrying for you if you have suspicions. Keep reassuring her that you’re best friends and you’d do anything for her, lots of memes for that to keep it light if he’s monitoring her messages, so she knows you’re absolutely there for her/to counteract what he may be saying to her

You don't get to choose whether somebody follows you but you can choose who not to follow. It would never occur to me to be remotely bothered who is or isn't my fb friend, we're not 12 any more.

Wow hope not OP. Let us know after you’ve seen him!! I wanna know what fumbling excuse he tries to produce.

My school mate’s long term partner blocked me on Twitter, said it was cos I’d blocked him first, which was nonsense. Turns out he was cheating on her with someone in a different continent & had racked up massive debts. I think he was scared I’d see a glimpse of his secret, shady life & would tell her.

Is it possible they are considering separating? I know where I’ve been friends with husband and wife, and one of them has gone a bit quiet on social media, it has often been because they are splitting up and sort of dividing out their mutual friends. Would explain her cagey-ness. Maybe she doesn’t really want to tell anyone yet.

It’s your friends husband? He probably thought he was spring cleaning his friends list, at first we all clicked on Facebook friends but now most are reducing if not leaving, to be honest I have most people on permanent snooze so I never see anyone’s posts

Yeah this. I can't even be bothered to go through my Facebook friends list and 'clear out'.....

Do you post things with strong opinions or maybe even over post of things like a pet or a child of yours?

My sister used to mention all the time "oh I think xyz has deleted me on FB" and she'd stew on it. She posted v v strong political opinions and when people interacted she'd argue / rant over things. A lot of people don't want to see certain stuff. I only know a couple of the people who had deleted did it over that when I'd seen them elsewhere and they'd mention how riled up she'd get on FB and they didn't like it.

She's been banned from FB now though so I don't have to keep snoozing her for 30 days at a time.

Now we can't get through a family event without politics and shouting (from her) so it isn't specific to socials, but thats a whole other thread!

Lots of people who get caught cheating are made to delete all members of the opposite sex from their social media afterwards, could this be the case maybe?

So your actual friend is still connected, it’s just her husband who’s knocked you off his FB?
He’s just not interested in your particular prattle. Don’t worry about it.

I unfriended someone recently who’s got involved in local politics. Her FB is all about schemes, campaigns and petitions. That’s fine, but I don’t need to read it! I still email or call her when required.

How does he not realise how offensive that is?!

Husband, best friend, Facebook - are you all 12?

I've recently unfriended loads of people. I'm not that into Facebook anymore so unfriended people I don't talk to all the time, especially the people who post everything about their lives. There was a few people I went to school with who posted things like ' bob enjoyed his football today' or 'im tired' or them people who check in at hospital. 😂 It's so annoying. Then there the people who says something fishing for likes. I just really like seeing post from close friends about their families or that.