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To take recreational drugs in your 50s

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:34

Just that really. Bunch of married fathers going out and taking recreational drugs (concealed up one of them’s rectum) - one hid it from his wife, one has a wife that does it too, the other I don’t know.

What do you think?

AIBU to feel a bit eurgh about it and a bit like they never grew up?

YABU - it’s fine. Each to their own

YANBU - it is a bit yuk.

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Wishyouwerehere50 · 11/04/2025 21:18

OudAndRose · 11/04/2025 21:16

I was on the fence until you said one of them had it up his bum. Ew.

Chocolate sprinkles for added flavour?

OudAndRose · 11/04/2025 21:17

edwinbear · 11/04/2025 21:06

Leah Betts put me off, I was 2 years older than her and never took drugs because of that photo. Her poor family were subsequently hounded out of their home by the local drug dealers, who found their trade was being impacted by their high profile campaign - as if they hadn’t suffered enough. The criminality around it is a hard boundary for me.

www.heraldscotland.com/news/14033270.parents-ecstasy-victim-leah-betts-find-scottish-haven-20-years-death/

Me too! I avoided all but weed for life because of her. Which to be fair, was exactly the point of the campaign. I bet it was true for a lot of people and hope her poor family know that it had some positive impact.

Woodburnerisout · 11/04/2025 21:17

AmazingBouncingFerret · 11/04/2025 20:17

Up his arse? To get into a gig? He’s got to be winding you up.

Surely anyone knows you just take your pill before you go in , no smuggling required

Trumpsgoneloco · 11/04/2025 21:16

@edwinbear I had just got into (underage) raving then & that really shocked me and I didn't touch anything as a result.

OudAndRose · 11/04/2025 21:16

I was on the fence until you said one of them had it up his bum. Ew.

Wishyouwerehere50 · 11/04/2025 21:16

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 20:58

80% are with me so far. Glad it’s not just me.

I'd guess 80% of the population regularly post pictures of their young children on the internet multiple times a week.

I have a really big problem with that. Who is wrong in this scenario?

Is it your ex involved in the example scenario?

SummerDaysOnTheWay · 11/04/2025 21:15

Espresso25 · 11/04/2025 19:53

Why are they sticking it up their arse? Are their wives strip searching them when they leave.

🤣🤣🤣

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 11/04/2025 21:15

edwinbear · 11/04/2025 21:06

Leah Betts put me off, I was 2 years older than her and never took drugs because of that photo. Her poor family were subsequently hounded out of their home by the local drug dealers, who found their trade was being impacted by their high profile campaign - as if they hadn’t suffered enough. The criminality around it is a hard boundary for me.

www.heraldscotland.com/news/14033270.parents-ecstasy-victim-leah-betts-find-scottish-haven-20-years-death/

She drank too much water in a short space of time. It wasn't the drugs that killed her per se it was all the water.

safetychange · 11/04/2025 21:15

Fupoffyagrasshole · 11/04/2025 19:51

But why is taking mdma worse than going binge drinking.

It's not but it's not socially acceptable for Tabatha's mummy to have a line in the pub garden with her ethically sourced roast dinner at the weekend. Getting fucked up on Prosecco appears to be okay though. Middle class hypocrisy at its best.

Hoolihan · 11/04/2025 21:12

edwinbear · 11/04/2025 21:06

Leah Betts put me off, I was 2 years older than her and never took drugs because of that photo. Her poor family were subsequently hounded out of their home by the local drug dealers, who found their trade was being impacted by their high profile campaign - as if they hadn’t suffered enough. The criminality around it is a hard boundary for me.

www.heraldscotland.com/news/14033270.parents-ecstasy-victim-leah-betts-find-scottish-haven-20-years-death/

Oh come off it.

Fhhl · 11/04/2025 21:11

DissDissOrDiss · 11/04/2025 19:50

I had a BALL in my teens, twenties and thirties. An absolute ball! Enjoyed every party, rave and festival. Every Friday night, post work housemate & boyfriend catch up with beers and a spliff. And the Sunday afternoons stoned and watching a movie or a natural history doc 👀. Amazing memories.

Would I do drugs now? Not a chance - the FEAR would kill me if the drug induced heart attack didn’t. Would I judge others? Depends on their circumstances I guess.

How would you feel if your DC took it?

Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 11/04/2025 21:10

Reminds me of when my mother spent a few days at the Greenham Common Peace camp c1982. She told me how they would roll a huge ciggie & pass it around. I asked her if she partook - she said no because she didn't smoke, but thought it rather cool that they were sharing a huge ciggie. Then I told her it was probably a joint. She was shocked & so relieved that she didn't participate. 😂

findingnibbles · 11/04/2025 21:09

WhatDaHell · 11/04/2025 21:08

The amount of overdose stories I see about drugs (even weed) being laced with fentanyl is unbelievable. Even if I wanted to, I wouldn't chance it now.

Jesus, really? That’s scary.

I barely drink let alone take drugs, but scary when so many young people do.

wastingtimeonhere · 11/04/2025 21:09

I've never in my life done drugs or even smoked. I'm the youngest in the road, it's pensioners in the bungalows, (DH is a pensioner) the smell of weed is all you can smell on a nice evening.

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 11/04/2025 21:08

Bit of an extreme place to hide it but I've known people do it especially when there have been sniffer dogs (festivals and large arena club nights).

I hate the searches in clubs these days, it feels really inappropriate and I hate how they feel round my underwire and lift it up. If I was going to hide drugs it wouldn't be in my bra.

As for drugs, the come down are shit as you get older and it takes so much longer to recover.

WhatDaHell · 11/04/2025 21:08

The amount of overdose stories I see about drugs (even weed) being laced with fentanyl is unbelievable. Even if I wanted to, I wouldn't chance it now.

edwinbear · 11/04/2025 21:06

Leah Betts put me off, I was 2 years older than her and never took drugs because of that photo. Her poor family were subsequently hounded out of their home by the local drug dealers, who found their trade was being impacted by their high profile campaign - as if they hadn’t suffered enough. The criminality around it is a hard boundary for me.

www.heraldscotland.com/news/14033270.parents-ecstasy-victim-leah-betts-find-scottish-haven-20-years-death/

MummyJ36 · 11/04/2025 21:06

“concealed up one of them’s rectum”

To take recreational drugs in your 50s
Happyspendingthedayinthegarden · 11/04/2025 21:05

mumofoneAlonebutokay · 11/04/2025 19:41

Tbh I wasn't arsed but when you said one of them 'concealed it up his bum', i swiftly changed my mind 😭

I think its fine to have recreational fun tbh but I'd prefer a man who was in a private members club or something, rather than whatever this is

PML at the comment about not being arsed when they up the bum 😂

Only thing I've done is the odd spliff when at uni in 1980's.

My late DH used to talk about a visit from 'Uncle Charlie' (eg: cocaine) when on tour with bands & I understand that he also had experience of LSD. But I was never bothered.

I prefer a glass or 3 of wine on a weekend evening.

findingnibbles · 11/04/2025 21:04

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/04/2025 20:54

Huh? So it doesn’t matter as long as it’s not people in the UK affected? Surely that’s not what you have to say?
Stop twisting my comments.
The UK has strict anti children labour laws unlike the countries that produce chocolate and clothing.
Are you suggesting it is okay to fund county lines?

I haven’t twisted anything, your comment was quite straightforward – I assume that’s why you’ve copied and pasted rather than using the quote function.

What have the respective labour laws got to do with anything? Either you support child labour or you don’t.

And your question is ridiculous – it has no basis, since I haven’t suggested that in any way, shape or form.

MrsRuthFisher · 11/04/2025 21:04

Hoolihan · 11/04/2025 20:59

You don't get sniffer dogs at gigs ffs 😂 Especially those likely to appeal to a load of 50 somethings.

Sorry, I have to disagree with you there! The last three big events I've been to have had sniffer dogs! 90s Fest and Reminisce always have them. Didn't happen in my day 😉

JHound · 11/04/2025 21:04

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:53

To get past security.

That seems a bit extreme!

Rosie8880 · 11/04/2025 21:03

to Do any kind of significant drug - pills / mdma - I’d need to clear my diary for two weeks to recover now! Just not worth the wasted time. A tiny tiny bit is fine I think, no after effects at all’s

Trumpsgoneloco · 11/04/2025 21:02

This feels incredibly controlling I must say.

How is it controlling? It feels very disingenuous to me

We are all doing things that have a really dire impact to varying degrees on those less fortunate.

There is no supply chain in the world that doesn't have some form of exploitation be it low wages, lax health & safety etc no matter how much a multinational tries to monitor it. This is not the same as the drug trade and associated violence, crime and deaths.

godmum56 · 11/04/2025 21:01

Hohofortherobbers · 11/04/2025 19:51

I wouldn't take something that had been up my own arse, let alone my mates Confused

That was my first thought. I am a child of the 60's 70's I had opportunities but never fancied it and thought the people who did looked pretty stupid. Of course its up to people what they do and its understandable to be stupid as a teenager but youd hope for better sense in adults. Damn right I'd judge.