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To take recreational drugs in your 50s

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:34

Just that really. Bunch of married fathers going out and taking recreational drugs (concealed up one of them’s rectum) - one hid it from his wife, one has a wife that does it too, the other I don’t know.

What do you think?

AIBU to feel a bit eurgh about it and a bit like they never grew up?

YABU - it’s fine. Each to their own

YANBU - it is a bit yuk.

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:53

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/04/2025 19:52

The lack of awareness around the consequences of their fix, on run down communities, young foot soldiers killing each other, makes me judgemental.

Yeah. And these are people that would consider themselves socially conscious.

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:52

Fupoffyagrasshole · 11/04/2025 19:51

But why is taking mdma worse than going binge drinking.

To be honest, I’d feel the same about that. Just feels a bit immature to me.

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EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/04/2025 19:52

The lack of awareness around the consequences of their fix, on run down communities, young foot soldiers killing each other, makes me judgemental.

MissAndrey · 11/04/2025 19:51

Coke I'd judge. Horrible stuff and people are absolute self obsessed bores when taking it. Something like weed or shrooms? Probably give them a pass. They can be very enlightening.

Mandy? Eh, it too can be quite spiritual but also harder on the body at that age so not terribly responsible.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 11/04/2025 19:51

But why is taking mdma worse than going binge drinking.

Hohofortherobbers · 11/04/2025 19:51

I wouldn't take something that had been up my own arse, let alone my mates Confused

dannyufcfan · 11/04/2025 19:51

Not for me, but I would never judge other adults for doing it.

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:51

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/04/2025 19:49

It's very dangerous when you are older. Sadly, a lot of people are taking recreational drugs in their 50's.

Cocaine and ketamine sales are through the roof.

I wouldn't do it.

Really? How do you know? Apart from my STBXH uni mates I don’t know any that do.

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Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 11/04/2025 19:50

I did drugs in my 20s (ecstasy and coke). We all knew someone who took too much coke and had a hard time getting off it.

DissDissOrDiss · 11/04/2025 19:50

I had a BALL in my teens, twenties and thirties. An absolute ball! Enjoyed every party, rave and festival. Every Friday night, post work housemate & boyfriend catch up with beers and a spliff. And the Sunday afternoons stoned and watching a movie or a natural history doc 👀. Amazing memories.

Would I do drugs now? Not a chance - the FEAR would kill me if the drug induced heart attack didn’t. Would I judge others? Depends on their circumstances I guess.

Kreisler · 11/04/2025 19:49

Bit overkill isn't it.

Which incidentally would be what I'd be worried about at 50+ yo anyway, especially if it's cocaine.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/04/2025 19:49

It's very dangerous when you are older. Sadly, a lot of people are taking recreational drugs in their 50's.

Cocaine and ketamine sales are through the roof.

I wouldn't do it.

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:49

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It’s not their health I am thinking about to be honest. That’s their business. I just find it a bit immature. And hypocritical.

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:48

Kreisler · 11/04/2025 19:48

Up his rectum? Where is this hedonistic arcadia? Wormwood scrubs?

Just to sneak it past security 🤮

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Kreisler · 11/04/2025 19:48

Up his rectum? Where is this hedonistic arcadia? Wormwood scrubs?

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:46

They are the types to buy fairtrade tea too yet drugs cause so much damage in terms of gangs and forced labour. Not to mention the addiction for many.

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Fhhl · 11/04/2025 19:45

I'd be too scared I'd die

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:45

I especially judge the one who hid it from his wife.

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:44

It just seems a bit unevolved. And like they haven’t quite grown up yet. It does make me lose respect for them.

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FOJN · 11/04/2025 19:43

It's not OK at any age but if I recall my younger years correctly I thought I was invincible and that the consequence of reckless behaviour didn't apply to me so I'll forgive the under 25's their poor judgement.

Recreational drugs at 50+ is just sad.

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:43

I think it was MDMA. I can’t bear the fakeness. All lovey dovey and then just awful
on a come down. They are pretty vacuous people though. Very caught up in their own wonderfulness.

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mumofoneAlonebutokay · 11/04/2025 19:41

Tbh I wasn't arsed but when you said one of them 'concealed it up his bum', i swiftly changed my mind 😭

I think its fine to have recreational fun tbh but I'd prefer a man who was in a private members club or something, rather than whatever this is

nomorezoflora · 11/04/2025 19:41

Depends what it is. Coke and amphetamines? Fuck no, heart attack drugs and make you into a wanker for the duration. Weed? Meh, ok, whatever. Psychedelics? Why not, as long as there's someone experienced to guide and sort dosage and location. MDMA? Sure, same again. Don't overdo the dancing.

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:41

That’s interesting.

My STBXH thinks it’s ok and I suspect will follow suit now we are separating.

Another thing to add to the ‘ick list’

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