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To take recreational drugs in your 50s

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Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:34

Just that really. Bunch of married fathers going out and taking recreational drugs (concealed up one of them’s rectum) - one hid it from his wife, one has a wife that does it too, the other I don’t know.

What do you think?

AIBU to feel a bit eurgh about it and a bit like they never grew up?

YABU - it’s fine. Each to their own

YANBU - it is a bit yuk.

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Lipstickheathershimmer · 11/04/2025 20:05

you'd be surprised the amount of men/women with high flying jobs do recreational drugs. They hold down very important jobs and snort at weekends. Iv saw it with my own eyes

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 20:05

PosyRosie · 11/04/2025 20:03

Drugs at any age are pathetic. Take a risk with your own health, fine. But all the way along the supply chain people will have suffered and been exploited for the drugs that you take, just all to line the pockets of gang bosses and someone to have a good night. Every single person who takes drugs is part of that.

Good point. And one in particular is very socially conscious and it surprises me the hypocrisy.

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gamerchick · 11/04/2025 20:05

Risky. Heart attacks happen.

Abenny · 11/04/2025 20:05

A few of DH’s friends have got into coke in their late 40s/50s. It’s grim. We recently had a party and they came and behaved terribly and were just so out of sync with everyone else.

Also (bit shallow) I can’t help but think it’s a bit undignified at 50. You can get away with idiocy better at 18.

Plus you’d hope a 50yo would have some understanding of the horrible criminal world that underlies the whole thing.

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 20:04

Hoolihan · 11/04/2025 20:01

Who on earth puts drugs up their bum to get into a gig?? 🤣 I don't believe that tbh.

In terms of taking drugs I do and so do most of my friends (late 40s/early 50s). I haven't got a problem with it, although I am much more aware of and uncomfortable about the drugs trade/county lines etc so I generally stick to homegrown mushrooms now. Occasional MDMA. Haven't done coke in decades.

Not fussed if people think it's immature or whatever. Each to their own!

I found it hard to believe too!! I think because it could damage careers if caught they were being super cautious.

Do you have kids? How do you manage the comedown?

I think part of it for me is that I grew up with an alcoholic father who smoked weed. You could never predict his behaviour and he was scary and physically abusive at times. I find the lack of authenticity of people on drugs hard to be around.

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PosyRosie · 11/04/2025 20:03

Drugs at any age are pathetic. Take a risk with your own health, fine. But all the way along the supply chain people will have suffered and been exploited for the drugs that you take, just all to line the pockets of gang bosses and someone to have a good night. Every single person who takes drugs is part of that.

FOJN · 11/04/2025 20:03

FateReset · 11/04/2025 20:02

MDMA has been used for all types of therapy, especially couples therapy.
It strips away the ego and helps people communicate honestly and openly, so if used constructively I don't see the issue?

That's therapeutic rather than recreational use which is what the thread is about.

SleepQuest33 · 11/04/2025 20:02

Disgusting!

I hate people who take drugs, making it sound like it’s cool and not hurting anyone.

they have no idea the havoc they are causing indirectly due to their actions. Gangs, drug cartels, child lines, they all exist because of idiots using drugs causing demand for them. I hope they get what they deserve.

FateReset · 11/04/2025 20:02

MDMA has been used for all types of therapy, especially couples therapy.
It strips away the ego and helps people communicate honestly and openly, so if used constructively I don't see the issue?

feelinghopeless2025 · 11/04/2025 20:01

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 20:00

Do you have a spouse and do they join you/know? Do you have kids? How do you manage the come down?

Have a partner who also indulges. Don’t have kids. The come down is no worse than a bad hangover for me ie maybe a day in bed and a greasy takeaway, a couple of times a year.

Hoolihan · 11/04/2025 20:01

Who on earth puts drugs up their bum to get into a gig?? 🤣 I don't believe that tbh.

In terms of taking drugs I do and so do most of my friends (late 40s/early 50s). I haven't got a problem with it, although I am much more aware of and uncomfortable about the drugs trade/county lines etc so I generally stick to homegrown mushrooms now. Occasional MDMA. Haven't done coke in decades.

Not fussed if people think it's immature or whatever. Each to their own!

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 20:00

feelinghopeless2025 · 11/04/2025 19:59

I’ll get slated but I’m in my 40s and take recreational drugs from time to time (2-3 times a year max).

I wouldn’t take anything that had been up anyone’s rectum though.

Do you have a spouse and do they join you/know? Do you have kids? How do you manage the come down?

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feelinghopeless2025 · 11/04/2025 19:59

I’ll get slated but I’m in my 40s and take recreational drugs from time to time (2-3 times a year max).

I wouldn’t take anything that had been up anyone’s rectum though.

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:59

Chocbuttonsandredwine · 11/04/2025 19:58

Hope random drug testing isn’t part of their employment contract 🤷🏽‍♀️

no. One is a civil servant.

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Chocbuttonsandredwine · 11/04/2025 19:58

Hope random drug testing isn’t part of their employment contract 🤷🏽‍♀️

FOJN · 11/04/2025 19:57

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Fentanyl was not a street drug in 1995 when Leah Betts died after taking ecstacy (MDMA) on her 18th birthday.

I worked in ICU at the time and we kept drugs for the treatment of ecstacy induced hyper-thermia which could be fatal even with treatment.

It might be safer than some other drugs but it is not risk free.

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:56

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/04/2025 19:56

Yeah. And these are people that would consider themselves socially conscious.
It's horrific that professional mc people are the biggest investors in the drugs trade.
How the lines have been blurred.

Depressing isn’t it.

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PeloMom · 11/04/2025 19:56

As long as they’re not driving or hurting others in any shape or form while high I don’t care what others do.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 11/04/2025 19:56

Yeah. And these are people that would consider themselves socially conscious.
It's horrific that professional mc people are the biggest investors in the drugs trade.
How the lines have been blurred.

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:55

Espresso25 · 11/04/2025 19:55

Security where?

Doors at a gig.

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Espresso25 · 11/04/2025 19:55

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:53

To get past security.

Security where?

Lipstickheathershimmer · 11/04/2025 19:54

I’m 52 and I do admit I took recreational drugs in my 20s. I’m not embarrassed as I had a great time. I didn’t really drink.
But as soon as my kids came along I never even thought about taking them. Just utter selfish.

Arghgerroffyabastard · 11/04/2025 19:54

Full disclosure is I smoked a fair amount of dope when younger, and gave it up at the same time I went teetotal, and for the same reason - I didn’t like who I was when on something, and I came to believe that narcosis for fun is selfish and really fake fun. You don’t actually enjoy yourself doing anything; your brain is just artificially fed chemical messages that make you believe you’re having fun.

And that’s my point here: anybody here who says they judge somebody for any drug that isn’t alcohol when they themselves enjoy a tipple is a great big fat hypocrite. There are a number of mildly toxic drugs out there that make you act like a bellend and will fuck you up in the long term. One of the more bellendy, addictive and damaging ones is booze.

Yes, you can have a glass of wine with dinner and then stop. Most middle aged dope amokers I know have a spliff to take the edge off and that’s it. It’s not the substance you take, it’s how much you let it affect your life.

Isthisokdoyouthink · 11/04/2025 19:53

Espresso25 · 11/04/2025 19:53

Why are they sticking it up their arse? Are their wives strip searching them when they leave.

To get past security.

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Espresso25 · 11/04/2025 19:53

Why are they sticking it up their arse? Are their wives strip searching them when they leave.