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To ask if your kids with larger age gaps get on?

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blooshboon · 11/04/2025 14:44

Currently have a DD who is 6 in a few months, we’re in steps of TTC for baby no2.

One of the things that worries me is they’ll not have a close relationship, due to the larger age gap. I understand this might be because of my own experience ( oldest of 5, youngest sibling is 8 ) there was 11 years between me and the second eldest.

So thought I’d pop on here and ask if your kids are close?
is there any resentment from older child? This worries me as we’re very very close, and I don’t want her to feel left behind as silly as that sounds.

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Definitelynotme2022 · 11/04/2025 14:50

I have large age gaps.... I have 3 x ds aged 35, 33 and 13, and an 18 year old dd.

They all get on really well, especially my ds's. I think my dd is a bit fed up with having 3 brothers watching out for her!

But any upset or problems, and they're all really tight.

NeringaCS · 11/04/2025 14:48

I’m not really sure what the point of this thread is.

Of course some siblings with large age gaps get on. And equally, many siblings with small age gaps don’t get on at all.

Anecdotal answers here aren’t going to help you. You have no way of knowing what pattern your kids will fall into - there’s no guarantee of them liking each other whatever the age gap.

A more useful question would surely be to ask parents with large age gaps what steps they took to encourage a close relationship between their kids.

wishuponacloud97 · 11/04/2025 14:48

Yeah my siblings are 10 and 15 years younger than me and we are v close. But my DH there is a 2 year gap and they hate one another. It's about personality no an age gap

Mamofboys5972 · 11/04/2025 14:47

My mam had me, then my brother 2 years later, then my sister 8 years later! Me and my sister are best friends, I've always taken care of her and we see each other every day. I think it depends on the personality and temperament of the kids.

2chocolateoranges · 11/04/2025 14:46

I have just over 4 years between my brother and I and we don't get on, never have.

My dh has 10years between him and his brother and they get on great.

It just depends on the people themselves

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