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To feed DP these beans?

35 replies

Newfun · 11/04/2025 13:09

He's one of those ridiculous people who thinks dates on food are the law.

I'm not slapdash with fresh food, I would't use out of date meat or fish, but I also hate waste and generally live by best before is a guide and if it looks and smells OK it's OK to eat.

He doesn't live here but I offered him beans on toast as a quick meal between outings. The tin I found was dated 2021. Obviously my stock rotation has failed, it's not something I eat often.

He was horrified at the idea so he had something else. I've since bought new beans, but I'm not throwing the old ones out, tinned food literally lasts forever.

They'll get used eventually, either by me or an adult DC, but would it be very unreasonable to just give them to him next time without letting him know they're the old ones?

Obviously if they don't look right once the tin is open, I won't use them, but they will....

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Tickettothemoon · 11/04/2025 13:19

If you are against waste and are not bothered about the date I would just eat them yourself when you fancy them. I don’t think it’s fair that he’s mentioned he wouldn’t be happy eating them for you to trick him to prove a point..

Newfun · 11/04/2025 13:17

faerietales · 11/04/2025 13:15

What point? That you didn’t listen to him and just went ahead and gave them to him regardless?

Weird.

That they're fine to eat.

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faerietales · 11/04/2025 13:15

Newfun · 11/04/2025 13:13

No, I wouldn't tell him. I might tell him if I ate them and lived, to make the point

What point? That you didn’t listen to him and just went ahead and gave them to him regardless?

Weird.

Newfun · 11/04/2025 13:15

randomchap · 11/04/2025 13:11

It's a tin of beans. Unless you're on the breadline just bin it.

Are you trying to make a point to your husband? To be able to say I told you so when he eats it and is fine?

It'snot about mcost, but waste. They definitely won't be wasted, why would you throw away perfectly good food? Wartime tinned food is still edible 😆

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Jackiepumpkinhead · 11/04/2025 13:14

I thought you were going to say they were a couple of months out of date, not 4 years! Bin them. Weird behaviour.

Newfun · 11/04/2025 13:14

ThinWomansBrain · 11/04/2025 13:12

don;t understand why you'd eat them or feed them to your children, but not your partner,

Because he's said he's not happy to eat them

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Newfun · 11/04/2025 13:13

randomchap · 11/04/2025 13:11

It's a tin of beans. Unless you're on the breadline just bin it.

Are you trying to make a point to your husband? To be able to say I told you so when he eats it and is fine?

No, I wouldn't tell him. I might tell him if I ate them and lived, to make the point

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ThinWomansBrain · 11/04/2025 13:12

don;t understand why you'd eat them or feed them to your children, but not your partner,

randomchap · 11/04/2025 13:11

It's a tin of beans. Unless you're on the breadline just bin it.

Are you trying to make a point to your husband? To be able to say I told you so when he eats it and is fine?

faerietales · 11/04/2025 13:11

How would you feel if he fed you something you weren’t comfortable eating?

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