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Anyone read about the mum getting arrested for taking her dcs ipads?

92 replies

Trumpsgoneloco · 11/04/2025 09:41

I'm so confused by this story, parents are constantly told to be more proactive around tech - I've often confiscated screens myself & that police are too stretched to deal with stolen cars etc.

www.lbc.co.uk/news/uk/surrey-police-uk-mother-arrested-childs-ipad-vanessa-brown/

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Londonwaiting · 12/04/2025 17:54

Lookuptotheskies · 11/04/2025 09:49

So the kid's dad reported the iPads as stolen knowing mum had them?! Jesus. 🙄🤦

Edited

Yes, this is the real story. Sounds like he was weaponising the police due to a disagreement with his Ex over screen time for kids.

Exdonkeylover · 12/04/2025 17:50

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 11/04/2025 21:18

Surrey Police have responded to the story on their Facebook page and there is way more to it than her confiscating the iPads.

Yes, they've said they were already at her house, when they got the call. Using find my iPad, found them in the house, but she denied all knowledge of them, then refused to cooperate with the police, therefore was arrested.

If she'd explained everything at the start, I'm.sure it could have been resolved straight away. Guessing (as Plod statement doesn't say) that they went to the school to enquire with children what had happened.

pinkingshears · 12/04/2025 12:20

Bigfatsunandclouds · 11/04/2025 09:54

No, they were the property of her children if they were given as gifts. The mother or father can confiscate items of their children. It sounds like a vindictive ex continuing control.

It doesn't say who denied their whereabouts, it sounded from the article like the grandmother denied the whereabouts.

This is a ridiculous overreach by police.

Agreed. The iPads belonged to the kids (gifted by Dad).
Mum thought they needed removing (temporarily?).
Dad with a grudge reported them as 'stolen' and put the Police onto her.
Ridiculous waste of public resources.

However, I knew a family where the 15 y/o Dd's smartphone was temporarily 'taken away' by parents for bad behaviour and social workers informed the parents that it was to be returned as they were damaging her social networks.

fluffyblanky · 12/04/2025 09:17

Unfortunately I have no respect for the police after how they dealt with me in an RTA (not my fault) and a recent break in to my property they didn’t attend or do anything at all.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 12/04/2025 09:14

DancingNotDrowning · 12/04/2025 09:10

I don't think that police statement improves the situation.

Nope. However, it does show that it was a bit more complicated than “mum arrested for confiscating her children’s Ipads.”.

DancingNotDrowning · 12/04/2025 09:10

I don't think that police statement improves the situation.

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 23:26

Do you talk like that to everyone whose opinions you don't agree with?
Are you an aggrieved misogynist man and/or police officer yourself?

Only ones who talk absolute utter bollocks and make up what they don't know

And no I'm neither

Icequeen01 · 11/04/2025 23:06

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 11/04/2025 22:19

it seems likely that the ex was a cop himself. which explains why his colleagues were so quick to rush to investigate this, and arrest this woman.
(most people complain that the police don't even try to locate stolen property when it's reported to them)

Oh do stop talking bollocks.

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 11/04/2025 22:42

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 22:24

Oh fuck off. That's a ridiculous leap

Did you see the part where they actually called an ambulance for someone. It wasn't initially reported as a theft. It was a welfare call

Edited

Charming.
Do you talk like that to everyone whose opinions you don't agree with?
Are you an aggrieved misogynist man and/or police officer yourself?

It's not a ridiculous leap. It's based on a comment I saw beneath one of the newspaper articles about this incident.

It would potentially explain why the officers in this case decided to act in the way they did (cos the complainant was their mate) and treat this as 'theft' when it wasn't, and might also explain why the woman wasn't so keen to 'cooperate' (or just didn't understand what they were going on about) when they turned up on her mum's doorstep and accused her of being in possession of stolen goods.

We have no idea why an ambulance was called, or who it was called for, and whether or not this was also done on the basis of false allegations made by some controlling bloke...

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 22:24

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 11/04/2025 22:19

it seems likely that the ex was a cop himself. which explains why his colleagues were so quick to rush to investigate this, and arrest this woman.
(most people complain that the police don't even try to locate stolen property when it's reported to them)

Oh fuck off. That's a ridiculous leap

Did you see the part where they actually called an ambulance for someone. It wasn't initially reported as a theft. It was a welfare call

Tomatotater · 11/04/2025 22:23

The immediate attendance at a property and the attendance at the school sounds like a child protection concern, so the first incident where there was a report of a concern for safety would clearly be right for police to go round, especially if the concern was about a child. The iPad situation sounds like he was using his kids ipads to track his ex wife or track where the kids were. I'm not sure why the woman didn't just say she had them and she had confiscated them.

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 11/04/2025 22:19

it seems likely that the ex was a cop himself. which explains why his colleagues were so quick to rush to investigate this, and arrest this woman.
(most people complain that the police don't even try to locate stolen property when it's reported to them)

BlumminFreezin · 11/04/2025 22:02

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 21:38

So the police were called initially for a welfare check. The 4 police officers were actually only there long enough for the second crew to let the first crew leave at the end of the shift because they were still awaiting an ambulance. She also denied any knowledge of the ipads despite them being her children's

So much more to the story.

She outright lied to the police when they attended.

Fuck about and find out 🤷‍♀️

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 21:59

What on earth was going on that would create a safety concern at (ultimately) three different locations

Trying to locate the person the concern was about? The person they were concerned enough about to call an ambulance for.

thebrollachan · 11/04/2025 21:56

Well, that's as clear as mud. They attended a school, and a house, because of a safety concern. A man told them devices had been stolen, even though he knew they hadn't. Why? What on earth was going on that would create a safety concern at (ultimately) three different locations? I know it's none of our business, but really the police shouldn't have bothered to tell us anything if they're going to be this gnomic.

CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 21:38

So the police were called initially for a welfare check. The 4 police officers were actually only there long enough for the second crew to let the first crew leave at the end of the shift because they were still awaiting an ambulance. She also denied any knowledge of the ipads despite them being her children's

Anyone read about the mum getting arrested for taking her dcs ipads?
CallMeFlo · 11/04/2025 21:31

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 11/04/2025 21:18

Surrey Police have responded to the story on their Facebook page and there is way more to it than her confiscating the iPads.

But noone will be interested in that. Why let the facts get in the way of a good story.

caringcarer · 11/04/2025 21:27

Trumpsgoneloco · 11/04/2025 09:53

Bottom of the article says this

"“Following these enquiries, officers discovered that the iPads belonged to the woman’s children and that she was entitled to confiscate items from her own children.”

So they didn't belong to the ex?

I read that too. They belonged to the DC not the Dad. The police wasted 4 police cars and officers and locked her up in custody for hours. If a house burglary occurs it takes about a week for 1 police officer to turn up.

XxSideshowAuntSallyx · 11/04/2025 21:18

Surrey Police have responded to the story on their Facebook page and there is way more to it than her confiscating the iPads.

Mylovemine · 11/04/2025 20:55

LittleHangleton · 11/04/2025 10:01

I know of a (hard working, well mannered) teenage boy who had his (aggressive, unpleasant) Dad arrested for taking and then smashing up his xbox.

The boy could prove to police that he bought that xbox himself, using his own money.

He accepted that when Dad shouted him for dinner he should have responded. But felt that some warning so he could finish his FIFA game would have helped. Nonetheless the boy asserted that Dad had no right to smash up an xobox the boy bought using his own money.

It was an awful situation. The family completely broke down after this incident. Boy ended up in care.

When I was underage my mum took a hammer to my iPad (but she bought it) and the police did nothing they just asked me what I did to make her do that. It is abusive to smash things and I don’t know how she got away with so much. I’m glad he got away and got a place in care but I didn’t get that chance

Burntt · 11/04/2025 20:51

reminds me if some training I did once where the facilitator said she knew of a family who had a full drawn out childrens services investigation because someone had reported a child’s comment that mummy took her tablet away. They had their iPad confiscated for poor behaviour but it had been recorded as medication withheld as punishment. She told the story to highlight how important it is when recording safeguarding concerns you use the EXACT words a child used.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 11/04/2025 16:46

I knew it would be based on a complaint from an ex before I even read the article.

DancingNotDrowning · 11/04/2025 16:33

So, maybe I am wrong about it being the ex-stepdad rather than the actual dad. Still, any man who wastes police time like this is showing the world exactly what kind of person he is

quite

Timefortulips · 11/04/2025 16:15

MattCauthon · 11/04/2025 15:12

Yeah, I didn't even bother to do more searching. I was 95% certain that it was some man tryiing to further contorl and abuse his ex. The 5% was only because I do know that there ARE situations in which one parent can make it really difficult for other parent to maintain contact with their children when not together and there was a small chance that was what was happening here but really seemed unlikely as it seems like when that DOES happen it's usually hte man refusing to let his children call their mum while they're with him. If it's the woman, from what I can see, it's because he wants her to talk to him about what the children are doign with real time updates and it's totally OTT

Just to update, the Daily Mail article about the iPad incident contains this hint:

"Ms Brown has been involved in fraught disputes with two different men in recent years after relationships broke down, it's understood, including the father of her children."

So, maybe I am wrong about it being the ex-stepdad rather than the actual dad. Still, any man who wastes police time like this is showing the world exactly what kind of person he is.

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