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To think people eat one heck of a lot!

283 replies

AppleWhiskers · 10/04/2025 21:23

See it all over, online, on here, in real life.
People have to have three pretty substantial meals per day or they think they'll starve or not get enough nutrients.
A good amount of people, men especially, think a cold meal or salad based meal is not a real meal, or anywhere near enough to pass as one.
If it isn't huge, or hot, people often think it isn't value for money.

It isn't uncommon to hear 'rabbit food' or such when people choose cold or salad based meals.

Myself, I love both, and eat a warm meal most evenings, so don't have much of a horse in the race, but I do think it's a thing.
Not sure how other cultures go about it, would be interesting to find out.

Is it a UK specific thing, to always need a large hot meal several times per day?
A typical example is:
Porridge and berries of full breakfast english style etc for breakfast.
Baked potato with tuna, or salad for lunch, or soup with whatever and copious amounts of pulses.
Then cottage pie or something equally large for dinner.
Then, often, a later meal, give or take.
And a lot of us are still hungry after this, or snack in between, so WTF is going on!?

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 10/04/2025 22:26

Nothing worse than any porridge hot or cold lol.

MurdoMunro · 10/04/2025 22:26

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:24

Not sure on the scent. DMIL grew them so it’s sort of a tribute to her. The ones she grew were always reliable though and still reappear each spring even though she’s been gone a while.

Ah that’s lovely.

PandoraSox · 10/04/2025 22:26

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:24

Not sure on the scent. DMIL grew them so it’s sort of a tribute to her. The ones she grew were always reliable though and still reappear each spring even though she’s been gone a while.

That is lovely.

StrangerThings1 · 10/04/2025 22:26

AppleWhiskers · 10/04/2025 21:23

See it all over, online, on here, in real life.
People have to have three pretty substantial meals per day or they think they'll starve or not get enough nutrients.
A good amount of people, men especially, think a cold meal or salad based meal is not a real meal, or anywhere near enough to pass as one.
If it isn't huge, or hot, people often think it isn't value for money.

It isn't uncommon to hear 'rabbit food' or such when people choose cold or salad based meals.

Myself, I love both, and eat a warm meal most evenings, so don't have much of a horse in the race, but I do think it's a thing.
Not sure how other cultures go about it, would be interesting to find out.

Is it a UK specific thing, to always need a large hot meal several times per day?
A typical example is:
Porridge and berries of full breakfast english style etc for breakfast.
Baked potato with tuna, or salad for lunch, or soup with whatever and copious amounts of pulses.
Then cottage pie or something equally large for dinner.
Then, often, a later meal, give or take.
And a lot of us are still hungry after this, or snack in between, so WTF is going on!?

I never eat 3 large /substantial meals a day, and I know many who don’t either,

BunnyLake · 10/04/2025 22:26

Maitri108 · 10/04/2025 21:30

I hate the word meal.

I was just about to type that OP is saying the word meal too many times. 😁 I don’t like it either.

Strange thread.

WateryBottle · 10/04/2025 22:26

DancingFerret · 10/04/2025 22:22

Agreed. (I thought it was just me.😙)

Me too, for 41 years I thought I was alone in my hatred of that word - until now!

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:25

Bepo77 · 10/04/2025 22:22

I like a cold full English porridge three times a day personally

Do you have many guests? Grin

PandoraSox · 10/04/2025 22:25

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:19

I’ve branched out this year and have sown some perennial Sweet Peas. Took a while to germinate but they seem to be doing well now.

Now this is interesting. I didn't know such a thing existed.

MurdoMunro · 10/04/2025 22:25

wishiwasupahill · 10/04/2025 22:21

What is all this about peas? What have I missed?

No idea. Someone started up thread and I just rolled in like the sheep that I am. I really love sweet peas, joyous things. And too many people were saying ‘meal’ which is one of those words that puts me right off my dinner.

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:24

MurdoMunro · 10/04/2025 22:21

I’ve been tempted by those. Do they smell as good as the annuals?

Not sure on the scent. DMIL grew them so it’s sort of a tribute to her. The ones she grew were always reliable though and still reappear each spring even though she’s been gone a while.

vodkaredbullgirl · 10/04/2025 22:24

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:22

That’s where mine are sitting now, along with my sunflowers.

Tomato plants are there too although I fear I’ve bought them too early, they’ve grown vigorously over the last week and they are beginning to remind me of a famous John Wyndham novel…

My tomato plants are doing great in my window sill, My beans, carrots and parsnips are in a small green house, outside, they are sheltered so are doing ok.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 10/04/2025 22:24

Bs0u416d · 10/04/2025 21:56

I planted my sweet peas out too early and they're dead. They're dead 😭.

"Dead," you say? 🧐

PandoraSox · 10/04/2025 22:23

Shirkingly · 10/04/2025 22:15

As a non-Brit, British people are notorious for their sandwich lunches, which are considered poor food.

On my list of the best things I have ever eaten was a brie and butter baguette in Lille. So simple and delicious.That is basically a sandwich, isn't it?

I have some sweet pea seeds that I am planning to sow outside. I like living dangerously.

DancingFerret · 10/04/2025 22:22

Maitri108 · 10/04/2025 21:30

I hate the word meal.

Agreed. (I thought it was just me.😙)

Bepo77 · 10/04/2025 22:22

I like a cold full English porridge three times a day personally

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:22

vodkaredbullgirl · 10/04/2025 22:18

I will do them on my window sill 1st.

That’s where mine are sitting now, along with my sunflowers.

Tomato plants are there too although I fear I’ve bought them too early, they’ve grown vigorously over the last week and they are beginning to remind me of a famous John Wyndham novel…

wishiwasupahill · 10/04/2025 22:21

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 21:37

That’s a really good idea. I’ve not planted any yet but DF lines to eat them fresh from the plant. Do you think I’ve left it too late?

What is all this about peas? What have I missed?

TheHateIsNotGood · 10/04/2025 22:21

I actually agree with you OP, a lot of people DO eat shit-tons of stuff - and the traditional 3 meals a day concept from the days when people actually needed the calories to get through their working day are long gone.

Unless you put out the calories you don't need to stuff them down your neck 3 times a day. I do both physically exerting and sedentary work and need no more than 2 'meals' and a snack per day to keep going.

And so some days I can stuff my face with chocolate cake to make up for the calories I've missed, as well as enjoying a scrumtious salad. And I'm not 'special' with some form of metabolism that works really great , just a normal human being that gets aches and pains just lie every other 'normal range' person out there. I'm 62 so I'm not a newcomer to the 'diet'/weight concept.

MurdoMunro · 10/04/2025 22:21

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:19

I’ve branched out this year and have sown some perennial Sweet Peas. Took a while to germinate but they seem to be doing well now.

I’ve been tempted by those. Do they smell as good as the annuals?

Switcher · 10/04/2025 22:20

Today I ate a protein shake, carbonara and some cheese and crackers. No idea what you are on about.

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:19

MurdoMunro · 10/04/2025 22:17

I eat hot rabbit food. I get no judgment from either side.

Planted my sweet peas a bit early but they’re coming up now. Not tempted to nibble them tho even with my rabbit themed culinaries. Too cold.

I’ve branched out this year and have sown some perennial Sweet Peas. Took a while to germinate but they seem to be doing well now.

WinterBones · 10/04/2025 22:18

you know why brits like hot food? Because its generally fucking cold.

My 206 cal porridge, cup a soup with a slice of toast, and cooked evening meal are not 'a heck of a lot' by any stretch of the imagination.. are they hot? yes, because ITS COLD OUT.

I tend to eat cold food when its hot, because its too hot to bloody cook.

wishiwasupahill · 10/04/2025 22:18

Maitri108 · 10/04/2025 21:30

I hate the word meal.

Same here.

I was cringing every time it was mentioned it that opening post.

vodkaredbullgirl · 10/04/2025 22:18

Toptotoe · 10/04/2025 22:14

My husband and I had this discussion earlier. He thinks it’s still too soon. I say not. I may have to check out what Monty has to say about it.

I will do them on my window sill 1st.

Isthiswhatmenthink · 10/04/2025 22:17

gotmyknickersinatwist · 10/04/2025 21:48

Same. Makes me think of dog meal, or meal worms, or mealy-mouthed, though I do like that expression.

Or barium meal.

I hate it too. Ugh. “Come and have a meal.” No thanks.