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To think people eat one heck of a lot!

283 replies

AppleWhiskers · 10/04/2025 21:23

See it all over, online, on here, in real life.
People have to have three pretty substantial meals per day or they think they'll starve or not get enough nutrients.
A good amount of people, men especially, think a cold meal or salad based meal is not a real meal, or anywhere near enough to pass as one.
If it isn't huge, or hot, people often think it isn't value for money.

It isn't uncommon to hear 'rabbit food' or such when people choose cold or salad based meals.

Myself, I love both, and eat a warm meal most evenings, so don't have much of a horse in the race, but I do think it's a thing.
Not sure how other cultures go about it, would be interesting to find out.

Is it a UK specific thing, to always need a large hot meal several times per day?
A typical example is:
Porridge and berries of full breakfast english style etc for breakfast.
Baked potato with tuna, or salad for lunch, or soup with whatever and copious amounts of pulses.
Then cottage pie or something equally large for dinner.
Then, often, a later meal, give or take.
And a lot of us are still hungry after this, or snack in between, so WTF is going on!?

OP posts:
lifemakeover · 10/04/2025 22:33
  1. Love sweet peas, glorious
  2. Don't mind the word meal (sorry)
  3. Do not care for copious amounts of pulses, with or without hot soup

That is all.

Gabitule · 10/04/2025 22:33

I do think the majority of people eat too much. We think that we are eating what we need, but we actually need a lot less than we think. There are lots of studies which show that eating less or intermitent fasting extends life. Wild animals spend their lives in a state of hunger, whereas humans often eat because it’s ‘lunchtime’ or ‘dinner time’. How often do people feel really hungry before having a meal?

A few years ago I read a book called ‘Don’t sleep, there are snakes’ about a missionary who went to live with a tribe in the Amazon. He commented about how little they ate. He brought couple of indigenous people with him to America and he mentioned how surprised they were whenever they were presented with food even though they had already eaten that day.

Last year I had to take some medication for 2-3 months for a health issue. The side effect was lack of appetite. Although I barely ate during that period, I was alert, didn’t feel too tired or hungry, didn’t have tummy pains and I didn’t lose much weight. On the other side, this year I feel constantly hungry (must be peri-menopausal). Which version of my ‘body’ do I listen to when deciding how much to feed it, the one from last year who was doing very well on 30% of the food I eat now, or the current version who asks for food all the time?

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:33

PandoraSox · 10/04/2025 22:30

Two meals?

I restrict myself to two peas a day. Plus an extra one on Sundays.

Sunday is a day of penance dear child. You should ask for forgiveness.

vodkaredbullgirl · 10/04/2025 22:33

Bet the OP didn't think their thread would turn into a gardening thread 😂

CallmeJim · 10/04/2025 22:33

One of my sons earlier today put 2 entire blocks of halloumi in the air fryer for a snack. Not sure it’s at all relevant but I’ve got nobody else to tell so I thought I’d drop it here.

PandoraSox · 10/04/2025 22:33

fgswhywouldIdothat · 10/04/2025 22:32

Definitely not too late! Hope the mice don't eat them!

Do slugs like them? I have loads of the buggers and I have to be careful what I grow.

Americanlaw · 10/04/2025 22:32

Toilet goblin!
genius.

Emanresuunknown · 10/04/2025 22:32

AppleWhiskers · 10/04/2025 21:48

Not concerned about anyone's eating patterns.
Just notice a thing when I see it.
It's not my problem, but maybe it's why we are getting too thin as a culture !

Big hot meals are a thing, several times a day, or people claim to be starving and have to go on a weird exclusionary diet.

I know I'm not the only one who thinks this, only have to see other threads.
Wanna pretend this is odd? Have at it!

But big hot meals really aren't a thing.
Far far far more people eat cereal and cold milk for breakfast than eat porridge - as evidenced by the entire aisle of cereal boxes versus the single shelf of porridge oats you'll find at most supermarkets.
And I'd bet the most common lunches will be sandwiches (cold), or a salad (cold), perhaps soup at a push in cooler months. Soup is often lighter and far less calories than sandwiches despite it being (the horror!!) warm.
I'd say most people I know only eat 1 warm/hot meal a day, in the evening?

Besides which, it matters not if the food is warm or cold. Plenty of cold food is nonetheless high in calories!

fgswhywouldIdothat · 10/04/2025 22:32

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:29

Is it too late for sugar snaps or am I ok to sow them this weekend?

Definitely not too late! Hope the mice don't eat them!

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:31

sweeneytoddsrazor · 10/04/2025 22:28

So today I have discovered 2 new insults that I shall relish using

Dust filled pig and
Toilet goblin

I have also decided I best get out and buy some peas ready to plant at the weekend.

Somehow I feel that DH should be renamed the Toilet Goblin but I don’t think that’s the most striking of his habits…

TheHateIsNotGood · 10/04/2025 22:30

I wouldn't be eating Sweet Peas but they're lovely plants to grow as they look super nice and can smell better than any scented candle. And they're tempermental in their early stages of growth and can be late in their output - and we've had a couple of crap years for growing them.

Climbing French Beans are my go to for edibles - look nice, climb up anything, grow like a motherfucker and taste brill with no strings like Runners.

fgswhywouldIdothat · 10/04/2025 22:30

OnTheSick · 10/04/2025 22:11

Hilarious I found this on this thread but....Do you actually think we're safe to plant them out? Mine are going good on the kitchen windowsill but I'm nervous to get them out!

As long as the ground isn't frozen, go for it.

KaySarah · 10/04/2025 22:30

AppleWhiskers · 10/04/2025 21:41

Spelling errors, do what you want with that Grin You will anyway.

Three attempts to fix your spelling but not your grammar..

Americanlaw · 10/04/2025 22:30

Can I add the word ‘beverage’
As in my childhood friend would say,’meal and hot beverage’ eeww.
still makes me think of the hot bovril from the ‘beverage dispenser’ spilt on the concrete swimming pool floor, the smell. Yikes.

PandoraSox · 10/04/2025 22:30

Gettingbysomehow · 10/04/2025 22:27

This is why people are so fat now. Constant eating and snacking. This is how I got to 15 stone. I've lost all the weight now and keep it off by never snacking and eating two modest meals a day.

Two meals?

I restrict myself to two peas a day. Plus an extra one on Sundays.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 10/04/2025 22:29

@WinterBones

Two hundred and six calories? Are you sure?
Not 205? 207?
Sounds a bit suspect to me...🧐

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:29

SiobhanSharpe · 10/04/2025 22:26

I don't think the perennial sweet peas are nearly as good as annual ones, they don't have the same fragrance, the only colour is pink and the flowers themselves seem coarser5 compared with the older varieties.
Home grown sugar snap peas are superb and you don't have to worry about the nasty little larvae inside when you shell them, as you do with garden peas.

Is it too late for sugar snaps or am I ok to sow them this weekend?

Bs0u416d · 10/04/2025 22:29

Mumtobabyhavoc · 10/04/2025 22:24

"Dead," you say? 🧐

Well, very sad looking and I'm not sure they'll spring back. They were going great guns when I planted them out.

MummyJ36 · 10/04/2025 22:29

Well…you sound fun at parties OP.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 10/04/2025 22:28

So today I have discovered 2 new insults that I shall relish using

Dust filled pig and
Toilet goblin

I have also decided I best get out and buy some peas ready to plant at the weekend.

Gettingbysomehow · 10/04/2025 22:27

This is why people are so fat now. Constant eating and snacking. This is how I got to 15 stone. I've lost all the weight now and keep it off by never snacking and eating two modest meals a day.

Renamed · 10/04/2025 22:27

Bepo77 · 10/04/2025 22:22

I like a cold full English porridge three times a day personally

That’s why you’re too thin as a culture.

Yoicks! Tally Ho! Gadzooks!

Mansionscoldandgrey · 10/04/2025 22:27

feelinhopeful · 10/04/2025 21:45

mine are looking ready to plant out but worried about the snails eating them! I seem to have an infestation of them!

Eat the snails with plenty of garlic butter 🐌 🐌

SiobhanSharpe · 10/04/2025 22:26

I don't think the perennial sweet peas are nearly as good as annual ones, they don't have the same fragrance, the only colour is pink and the flowers themselves seem coarser5 compared with the older varieties.
Home grown sugar snap peas are superb and you don't have to worry about the nasty little larvae inside when you shell them, as you do with garden peas.

BunnyRuddington · 10/04/2025 22:26

MurdoMunro · 10/04/2025 22:25

No idea. Someone started up thread and I just rolled in like the sheep that I am. I really love sweet peas, joyous things. And too many people were saying ‘meal’ which is one of those words that puts me right off my dinner.

Truly joyous. Can’t wait to see big fat bumble bees crawling all over them!