How would moving in with a non beef eater work for you?

I'm surprised at all the people talking like eating beef is a rarity, I mean mince and stewing beef are major staples of the British diet.

My partner is vegetarian and so are our kids but I am not. I can keep meat in the fridge and eat it whenever I like. I tend not to because it doesn't make sense for me to be having a separate meal to the rest of the family but when we go out I choose what I want to eat which invariably includes meat. My partner has no issue with this.

I think you're overthinking it and really can't see your dilema. It's not like a dangerous allergy so of course you can keep beef in the fridge or eat it when you're out.

OP i would find this tedious as it is so random and changeable.

Don't rush into moving in.
You may not be compatible.

It's literally as simple as having a conversation to see how he really feels about it. If it bothers him? Don't keep it in the house. If it doesn't bother him? Enjoy!

YABU to move in with someone that you don't seem to be able to communicate with.

I think in all honesty, that if this is an issue right now you need to re think. You don't respect his beliefs and ideas and you don't want to put limitations on your life because of them. That's fine, that is your choice and when I say don't respect I don't mean that you are a bad person but you don't share the same values and see inconsistencies in the choices he makes.

He is happy for you to eat beef. Can’t see the problem, frankly.

It's not the dog's religious belief or cultural practice, is it?

Do you have experience of living with a vegan? Or are you just shit-stirring?

I'm vegan and have never dictated my DH's dietary preferences.

My husband does not eat pork our relationship has worked fine.
I cook pork at home me and the children eat it.

Also, it really isn't uncommon for people to internalize the societal norms of where they live, re. which meats are acceptable to eat and which are not. Horse meat being an obvious one that many British people are squeamish about.

Agree. There is quite a bit of unnecessary questioning related to his food and his religion that makes no sense given he isn’t stopping her from eating what she wants.

It’s almost like she is trying to catch him out in some way as if people not liking and/or eating certain foods is out of the ordinary and amongst couples.

My DH and I have completely different diets and eating habits. It doesn’t stop me from picking up a steak for him when I won’t eat it or him picking up something I eat and he doesn’t.

I've been vegetarian for a few years but ate meat for decades, but not beef.

We never had it home, growing up, and so I became a bit squeamish about it (although did try burgers on a couple of occasions). I definitely wouldn't be able to eat anything rare.

Am completely unbothered by other people having it in my presence, or it being kept in the fridge. Sounds like your bf is the same and that the issue exists entirely in your head.

That's not the most difficult thing to accommodate is it? How often do you eat beef?

Try living with a vegan....

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest tbh

Beef is ruddy expensive, we eat very little of it in the home. Like your partner I make chilli and lasagne using poultry, yes the texture is different but actually nicer - just have to adjust seasonings

My sisters family are Muslim - No Pork or pork products. I cant do a shared BBQ if they are coming, have to have two on the go so no cross contamination but it's really not a bother. For my wedding for example I chose a mostly vegetarian menu and had chicken and fish for flesh eaters separate - not mixed dishes so everyone was catered for ( yeah I was catering for vegans and vegetarian as well as muslims )

If they are staying over and its a cooked brekkie all round and I cba batch cooking, its no bother swapping the meats out - beef sausages instead of pork, turkey rashers instead of bacon for example - Im sure you can work this out

I would switch to venison!
I switched to venison last year as it was cheaper and more environmentally friendly than beef. I use venison mince to make bolognase, chilli and burgers and now find it much more flavoursome than beef.

I think you will find this is more of an issue. How will you explain to a five year old that mummy can eat a burger but they can't eat a burger? Will he try to belittle your choice to eat beef in front of them? I haven't eaten beef in decades but I don't stop the rest of the family eating it. I don't cook beef and will use other mince instead but it has always been up to the children what they eat.

Is he quite controlling? Will he make comments if you are eating beef/ keeping it in the fridge? I don't think that either of you are wrong but it does seem like for both of you it is quite a big deal.

I would eat you are not asking him not too, same as my husband can eat what he like it doesn't affect me

I would eat you are not asking him not too, same as my husband can eat what he like it doesn't affect me

It's hardly a sacrifice, there are plenty of other meats. I can't stand beef personally and never eat it.

I don't think this relationship is going to work out, not because he doesn't eat beef, but because you are exceedingly judgemental about his choices. A choice doesn't need to be based on religion to be valid.

He's trying to eat less pork because he feels it's the right thing, he hasn't said he no longer eats pork and until he does then he he's not being inconsistent to eat it sometimes.

... and from what you have written, he hasn't said you need to stop eating beef so there's no need for you to 'sacrifice' anything.

I think he deserves someone less judgemental of the decisions he makes for himself, what his family do or don't do what his religion says or doesn't say a completely irrelevant this is a choice he is making for himself and if you can't respect that I think you need to walk away and leave him free to find someone who will.

Well, you sound like a bit of an idiot. God forbid you have to consider the dietary preferences of someone you purport to love.

LTB (Love That Beef).

Your comfortable enough to move in together, so why not talk to him about it.

Is venison ok for Sikhs? Because I think it’s nicer than beef.

I was a vegetarian when Dh and I met. I didn’t allow any meat in my house (we were long distance, so he would stay with me for like a month or two at a time during uni holidays). When we actually moved in together officially and got married, I cooked no meat or fish. It didn’t mean he couldn’t eat it, he’d just have to cook it himself and 6 days out of 7 he couldn’t really be asked, so we were pretty much vegetarian at home.

I wouldn’t overthink this. You won’t exactly be eating every meal together anyway, just because you live together. I think if you are creating a life together, you need to work out what your ‘family culture’ will be. It may be no beef at home, but you and future children eat it outside the house. It could be that you eat normally and he just doesn’t eat beef. It could be you all forego beef (realistically all of us should cut down on our red meat consumption).

One thing I would hugely recommend is pre-marital sessions to help you decide these key issues. I come from a different religion and nationality to Dh and our wedding officiant required us to do a number of counselling sessions with her to hash all this out before we got married. It was really invaluable and meant there were no surprises! We were very much on the same page, but it was nice to actually know that before we said I do.