My baby has been bitten hard at nursery

You wouldn't believe how quickly a biter can act. I came across a lot of them in my special school classes. I could be standing next to them, sitting next to them, holding their hand even, and in a split second they'd act. It's quicker than anything like a hit or a kick. The only option is to completely isolate them from all other children, all day and you just can't do that in a nursery.

Oh it’s horrible when they’re bitten but I was so relieved mine was bitten rather than the biter! That probably makes me a bad Mum but there we are. Youngest DC is 8 now and friends with the little boy who bit her at the child minder. The other Mum was distraught her son bit my child but it happens even when well supervised.

No, you shouldn't take her out. Biting happens with babies and toddlers. I doubt there is any nursery that hasn't had an incident of biting.

My two never bit anyone or each other.

I wouldn't unless they were a LOT older.

This could happen at any toddler group OP. Children are quick and I've seen lots of kids hurt another even when they're being very well supervised.

Wouldn’t usually but this was awful awful. He held my son down on the ground while he bit him. Bit multiple children regularly, my son 3 times (I didn’t mind so much about the finger bites or whatever) I stand by calling him a little shit.

Mine was bitten on the face recently, so hard it bled!

Nursery were very apologetic and have taken steps to monitor the biter more closely. My DD still talks about ‘biting boy’ and staying away from him but hasn’t been bothered other than that.

Embarrasingly my other child was the biter. I think that was worse!

I think that’s shocking at 10 months tbh. They should have been watching more closely.

YABU to refer to a preschool child as a "little shit"

One of my DC was a biter and it was very difficult to predict (and therefore prevent), they were like a little snake - calm and placid one second then a sudden lunge and bite. Everyone just had to do their best to try intercede before then but it was a process of hyper-supervision, trial and error until we all worked out their triggers which made it easier to anticipate when a bite could potentially happen, and a few did slip through the net.

They grow out of it as their language skills improve and they get better at handling big feelings without resorting to physicality.

Gosh these things happen, one day your child may be the biter.
sometimes they are so fast and it’s unavoidable. To pull your child out is a massive over reaction.
Ofcourse check in with them and ask that they increase supervision while the child is in this phase ( which a decent nursery will be about to already).
@Allseeingallknowing why would they need to take photos?!

Is she in a baby room where they are all under a year?

With a toddler, no I wouldn’t take them out. With a ten month old.. absolutely. That shouldn’t have happened as there should be adequate supervision, you have a vulnerable young baby and the risks are much higher.

My daughter bit her best friend the other week, she's 14 months but managed to draw blood. She hasn't done it since and was apparently quite upset when she saw he was upset. I was horrified, embarrassed but also terrified the other mom would have a reaction like yours. I get that no one wants their kids hurt but unfortunately kids bite sometimes and if it's a one off I wouldn't be making a big deal out of it.

My son got bitten on the face. Deep purple teeth marks on his cheek.

it was very upsetting for him and for me. It took almost a year for the marks to fully fade.

nursery said they were sorry but not much they could do as Steven (yes I found out the little shits name) couldn’t really be prevented from biting other kids and they would try to stop it happening again. Lucky son finished at that nursery not long after that

They haven’t lied ! Fingers/ hand is same thing! you are getting hung up on semantics

my daughter bit another kid and left a mark , she is a nice normal non bitey 15 year old

your child may well bite another child at some point or Wack them on the head , snatch , push or any number of normal , every day baby behaviours

massive over reaction on your part , plus you will loose your deposit if you pull her out suddenly.

Mine was bitten by her friend when I and other mum were both watching. It happened a couple of times at soft play and other child was disciplined etc.

it was annoying because that then became my child’s weapon of choice on us when tantrumming in the toddler years. Never another child or adult; just us! She grew out of it.

My ds was bitten at nursery. They were very honest and said they didn’t see it happen and DS didn’t make a fuss so they didn’t know he was hurt.

Poor keyworker felt awful.

I just said if ds wasn’t upset they weren’t to know - kids bite.

But I was also reassured ds was getting amazing care by how much the keyworker was upset it had happened.

We still don’t know how or when or who as DS was fine if marked and bruised - he’s 20 now!

It happens

Perhaps one day your child will be the biter. It's unpredictable and nobody's fault.

Poor little mite. I'd ask about the circumstances how they are going to prevent it in future, but as an isolated incident you've got to let it go unless you are going to stop them mixing at all.

My mum still holds a bit of a grudge against the boy who bite me (on my face!) when I was 1 and he was 2.5. My mum and a few other mum friends were at Biter's house, apparently it caused pandemonium! 😆🤦‍♀️

I used to mind 2 little girls, one of whom was a biter and it was a nightmare, she was so fast it was unbelievable. One day I was sitting firmly between them while I read them a story, even though I was on high alert the biter managed to get a quick bite in. It was t most stressful time of my life and I ended up giving up childminding because of it. I sympathise op it's very upsetting but it's very very difficult to prevent ime.

It's common at nursery/preschool -unfortunately small children do occasionally smack, pinch and bite. My two came home a few times with scratches and once a bite mark. Same with my nieces and nephews. Its absolutely horrible obviously; nobody wants to see their child hurt.

OP- did you take photos?

To preface this, I'm aware I'm not the best mother... But I've never been bothered to hear my child has been bitten, it's par for the course with little ones and I've mostly just been relieved that my child was bitten and not the biter on that occasion. If it was happening regularly I'd have a problem, but the odd bite is just what happens unfortunately.

Where I used to work a 3yo child came back from holiday with a huge bite mark on her FACE. You could see a whole circle of teeth marks in her cheek. Her little cousin did it and it left a mark for quite a while. Every time I looked at her I thanked my lucky stars it didn't happen at our nursery, because her mum was a bit high maintenance.