My baby has been bitten hard at nursery

I’d move. My youngest had an issue where a child kept biting her at preschool the child also had Sen she ended up being bitten every bloody day by the little Hannibal. We pulled her out as there was always an excuse because Sen.

My child isn’t someone else’s chew toy.

So is it an older child, not a baby??? That is very concerning.

Toddler on toddler bite happens.

But an older child with SEN should not be around a 10 month old baby, that's a recipe for disaster.

Oh, right.
The nursery will have recorded it, it’s the law. No need for parents to “prove” anything!

No I wouldn’t take them out. Unfortunately these things do happen at nurseries. Am I right in saying large purple bruise means that it hasn’t broken the skin? That’s good, it should heal quickly with no marks. I would ask the nursery how they propose avoiding it happening in future but realistically staff will not be able to avoid all incidents with very young children and it unfortunately is part of accepting that things like this will happen from time to time when in a childcare setting with more children than there are staff.

my first child was bitten a few times and I was so angry, making all kinds of unreasonable demands to the nursery that this must never happen to my PFB again. I’m sure the staff were loving it 2.5 years later when my second born DS was the biter!! Tbh he’s only done it a few times and has stopped it now he is two. It seemed to be when he was 1ish and teething it happened but at that age it’s very difficult to stop unless you catch it in act.

Honestly there are biters at every nursery. I wouldn’t move her for this

You will get no where with this. That child will take priority here. I would just look for somewhere else.

One of mine was bitten and the other one was the biter. It’s far worse when your child is the biter. The parents will most likely be very upset - I was. Mine only did it the once and he was 2 so old enough to be told by cross mummy never to do it again. I’m sure he was watched very closely for a while at nursery, and you need to be reassured that the biter of your Dc will be watched.

Proof?

That you knew about!

How old is this child? Doesn’t the nursery have separate spaces for different ages? Our nursery had a baby room up to 18 months, and I doubt any child in there would have been able to have a diagnosis at that age (I could be wrong).

When DD2 had just turned 1 she bit DD1 (4 at the time) when I was sitting on the floor playing with them both. I was right there. She’d never done it before, and never did it again, and never bit at nursery. But you can’t always stop it just by watching closely.

Both my DDs were bitten once at nursery. It didn’t occur to me to take them out.

And I think you’re being a bit dramatic to say they lied by calling it a bite to her finger when it was her hand.

Poor little baby, that is awful, as terrible as it sounds, I'd give it more time and hope it doesn't happen again.

I would be angry if it happened again.

Have a chat with the nursery and ask them how they intend to keep your daughter safe and better supervise the biter. Take pictures of the bite and insist that the incident is recorded in writing in their accident book or log. If you put your concerns in writing it has to be documented in their files for an Ofsted inspectio. At least then you know it is documented should any further incidents occur

So, if the biter has identified SEN already then you aren’t looking another “baby” you are looking at an older child. I think it is appalling that this has happened to a baby - can your child even walk?!

This isn’t a bit of a skirmish between toddlers, fighting over a toy and the kind of things toddlers do. I do have a few DC and they have been hit, once bitten, when in the preschool rooms at nursery - the huge difference is that they were preschool rooms... This is a vulnerable baby who should be closely supervised, and they let an older known biter close enough to get to her! I’ve never known a nursery that didn’t have a separate baby room.

Someone said this could happen at any toddler group - I have been to many toddler groups in my time and I have never seen a young baby injured by another child. They should have taken photos and taken this much more seriously than they have done.

I'd never send her again for the lying alone.

But then, I am very anti-nursery so that would be my advice anyway.

Yes I would take DC out of the nursery.
Not because another child with SEN bit them, but because the nursery lied to you about the bite. After one week the trust is already broken. I’d be finding somewhere else.

This is why mine with with a very experienced childminder when they were this age with 1/1 or 1/2 care. Nurseries are a bear pit.

How old is the other child, what's the age range in the room?

That is really quite normal. It is challenging for staff to stop it and doesn’t at all mean they aren’t being vigilant. I’d show you’re upset and ask you understand as a one off but what procedures they have in place to make sure it doesn’t happen again. It may well happen again, but shouldn’t happen repeatedly.

Mine did as a toddler before his language and impulse control developed. He even bit his best friend then cried because he had hurt him...

He's a fairly normal child now!

OP - are nursery are taking steps to monitor and closely supervise the biter? This could happen in any setting you choose

My youngest was a bitter, I covered my arm on English mustard one day, literally like moisturiser. He didn't do it again!

Good for you...?

10 months is very early for that to happen and if find it concerning a 10 month old was around (I assume) toddlers who could bite them. Without knowing if it’s a family daycare or a nursery setup it’s hard to know the cause/likeliness of it recurring. My one year old got bitten a few times, by age 2 she was the biter. When she was bitten I felt bad but was relieved she wasn’t doing it to others. That changed fast, and then she was the biter and I felt mortified. That nursery was feral. When we moved her age 3 it stopped overnight. Some of them do it more than others. They fortunately outgrow it. We read hands are not for hitting and teeth are not for biting more times than I can think.

Unfortunately it happens OP, babies and toddlers bite, it is unfortunate but it is what it is. It literally takes seconds for it to happen and for a mark to be left so even if the staff saw it happen by the time they would’ve been able to react it would’ve already happened. My sons have both been bitten a few times at nursery, I never considered removing them because of normal toddler behaviour. Although neither of my boys have bit anyone at nursery, my
eldest went through a phase of biting me and DH and my youngest went through a phase of biting his older brother….both of them outgrew the phase within a few weeks luckily.