Colleagues spoke about me on Teams call thinking I wasn’t there - do I say anything

Agree! Really surprised at some of the responses on here. You don't leave a meeting with people you've met for the first time to answer the door, especially when you've already bumbled about and made a poor impression.

100% report this ,it is not in any way acceptable behaviour and you do not deserve to be treated in this way , irs childish and unprofessional

Who is looking for admiration? There are lots of other people on this thread who also think there was unprofessional behaviour all round. You are the bizarre one and your standards are clearly low.

Honestly you do you, but don’t think anyone is admiring your professionalism for such bizarre behaviour.

Yes they were not at all professional but neither were you answering the door during a meeting for 3 people.

It's called professionalism. In this context you leave the door.

How do you know they were talking about you ?

If you don’t WFH or in an office, why bother with such strong opinions about what is, or isn’t, acceptable in those settings?

Annoyed? No. Surprised that many defend the OP’s lack
of professionalism. I do not WFH or in an office-based job and would not relish either.

Don’t bother.people do talk about others.it’s just by chance that you heard.Move on like an adult.

I just don’t get how ignoring a knock at the door makes you ‘a responsible adult’, or how sitting there ignoring it makes you more professional than someone who says ‘please give me a moment’ and deals with it and the returns to the call. Honestly I think it makes you seem a bit odd.

Good lord, are you from the 50s? Bragging about your husband's job and income. So sad.

I think you’re conflating a bunch of posts and responded to this one based on some accumulated grievance with the way others work.

It depends on the workplace of course; if your workplace values you for your constant presence at your desk alone, then you have a point. Fortunately that hasn’t been my experience in most jobs as an adult, where my contribution has been more widely evaluated than whether my bum is on my seat at all times. If that’s the culture of your workplace, no wonder you’re annoyed.

*holes, I don't think it's worth reporting but I would mess with them ...find an opportunity to try and drop the same phrases that they did into conversations, like oh gee xyz really is making this hard work, sigh, it's lucky that xyz is pretty because.....look them dead in the eye and watch it slowly dawn on them that I heard what they said... Then get straight back to business and never mention it again... 😊

Yes, this. I never quite get the ‘report, report, report’ mentality

Quote. Not sure whether I’d rather be pulled up for a bitchy comment or incompetence

She said that I should be glad to still be getting compliments given the stress of motherhood and to enjoy it whilst it lasts as she longs for the days when men found her attractive!

Where do you work? This feels like something out of The Office! I’d actually consider going to HR about all of them, your manager included.

Not great at all and I’d call them out on it, but at least they think you’re good looking!

I wouldnt report it as they will deny it and support each other to defend each other. Then its them vs you. Instead I would email both of them seperately saying your husband got the door, so you stayed at the computer and heard what they said about you (i wouldnt state what it was as they may have said other things you missed - keep them guessing). I would say you are extremely dissapointed by their unprofessional sexist behaviour and that you are considering reporting them to HR. Let them sweat it out and come grovelling to you. I would do an emailed record to yourself of what happened for your own records in case it happens again.

This is awful. Definitely report it. How stupid and heartless of them.

I remember being at a contractors office and the person I was meeting with asked me to follow him and he'd ask one of the admin team to run a report for us. We walked behind her desk and she was eating a croissant or something, and he said "oh Jane sorry to interrupt your breakfast, VapeVamp from XYZ company needs......." she interjected at this point still facing away from us "ha, she needs to stop eating".

I'm a size 14, not huge but not skinny.

I was so mortified. We went back to his office and tried to carry on talking but I was trying to not burst into tears. I don't particularly care what people think of me but myself and the admin person had gotten on well in the past and it really hurt me. It was awful.

The guy called me the next day to profusely apologise, I think he was really embarrassed.

No need for them to be so nasty though. Bang out of order.

Pull the fuckers on every word and watch them squirm. Horrible bitches. Nasty and no fucking need for that shit! Hope you are ok xxx

I think emailing both men, letting them know that you overhead and are appalled, and ccing in your useless manager is the only way forward. Do not apologise, and definitely do not just let this go and accept what these revolting men said as a compliment, as some very odd people have suggested. This isn't the 70s and their comments were completely unacceptable and unprofessional.

They will no doubt do this with an external client and be disciplined soon. I have heard of this happening and both people were dismissed for gross misconduct without references. A disappointing response from the OP’s manager.

Precisely. Can't believe people jump to "report it" when it's tittle tattle most people would raise above and improve their performance on the next call.

Could be why productivity in the UK never increases, all the feeble minded busy reporting each other!