Colleagues spoke about me on Teams call thinking I wasn’t there - do I say anything

In my workplace it's relatively common for people to pop off calls for various reasons but in the OPs case I don't think she should have. There was only 5 minutes to go - in a meeting were she hadn't been particularly useful. These 5 minutes would have been important to either salvage the meeting or work out next steps. And her DH was home and able to get the door. I also think coming back into the meeting without announcing her return/ switching on her camera was pretty strange.

Honestly you do you, but don’t think anyone is admiring your professionalism for such bizarre behaviour.

I returned your ignorant sneer with an insult. I don't really see what the issue is.

This is AIBU, opinions abound. If that's a difficult concept, try 'Chat'.

I'll try and rephrase

It doesn't appear to be an issue in OPs workplace, so how does that ruin WFH for everyone?

There’s equally as many people acknowledging that this is just part of WFH. And at least some of the people calling this unprofessional don’t WFH at all.

Hopefully you feel a bit better for trying to insult me though.😘

You’re a helpful neighbour who is available - if they weren’t so lucky to have you, they would have to answer the door.

WFH itself isn’t an issue it how you behave when u work from home
wondering off 1/2 way through a meeting is rude the others have to wait
you wouldn’t behave like that in person

Not at all, have any uninformed opinion you want but don’t be surprised if people disregard it.

Not at all, have any uninformed opinion you want but don’t be surprised if people disregard it.

Again, if it's OK in ops company how is she ruining WFH for everyone?

I don't think it's wrong to discuss capabilities. There's an expected standard and it affects everyone when someone isn't doing their part. They'd be perfectly within their rights to report the problems they were experiencing with OP.

I had something similar happen on a Video call recently. I just let them know that they shouldn't be discussing my capabilities — they were no where near as offensive though. I would report it. This is totally inappropriate.

I would def email and let them know you heard and comments not needed and you will be thinking of taking this further

and see what their replies are

hopefully an apology

tho you did say you weren’t on the ball work wise

but the sexist comment about appearance would piss me off

No simmering resentment here thanks. I am in the you shouldn’t have answered the door in that meeting camp…and I work from home and most definitely dip away from some meetings to answer the door. But I categorically would not have done in this instance.

Because it is not professional. While people may be allowed to answer the door, it is not OK to answer it during a meeting with 3 people. If you were at work, most people would not pop out of a meeting room on a personal errand.

Well you typically take a lunch break. If you use part of that time hanging out the washing what’s the issue.
if not on a call it takes 2 mins to open the door, not much time out of your day. Probably the time you save by not queuing for the coffee machine or to go the toilet

If its ok in ops company to nip away and answer the door then how is op ruining WFH for everyone else?

No you are one of the people who is ruining WFH for everyone else. My neighbours do not answer the door when they WFH. I know because their Amazon driver is instructed ( with my permission ) to knock on my door. They always collect after work and are generally great neighbours. They don’t hang washing out in the middle of the day either.

It is utterly wild that this thread has turned into a raging debate on “is it OK to answer the door during a Teams meeting?” and not a unanimous “it’s not OK to discuss your colleague’s looks or worth in relation to why men may or may not find her attractive”.

I answer the door in some meetings, not in others, probably wouldn’t have done in OP’s circumstances. I don’t comment on my colleagues’ appearances or discuss why or whether men are attracted to them. It’s pretty simple.

Another one for this

I wouldnt be reporting it and flagging up a performance in a meeting so shit my colleagues noticed. They will rip you to bits for leaving work to take a personal delivery and fumbling your work!

So we are only to have opinions on things which directly relate to our own circumstances?

I do alot of team calls, even if someone muted and turns off there camera you know there's a possibility they can still hear you. They did this on purpose they don't care if you heard or not there bullies and need reporting.

This is a difficult dilemma, and I sympathise with you, as something similar has happened to me before, which is why for all its benefits I think working at home and Teams Meetings can be a nightmare as some people slip into an unprofessional manner. But equally, they may have said the exact same thing behind your back about you after leaving a meeting room (if it had been a face to face meeting). I would personally use it to my advantage as now you know what they said/think you can show them up with your brilliance at your next meeting. Can you book the next meeting invite for a day/time that suits YOU, like maybe an afternoon one if you aren't getting much sleep. What they said was personal, unprofessional and would contravene the staff dignity/behaviour policy of most organisations. But you need to put yourself first: will it be MORE stressful to go through a grievance policy while working on the joint project? They sound like a pair of idiots. I would be tempted not to let them have the satisfaction of knowing their comments upset you, as their opinions are worth nothing: unjustified, ignorant and they aren't even your bosses. I expect they are being touchy about the project having a cross-departmental aspect and insecurely resorting to play-ground behaviour.

May be too late to the party here but Id bank the compliment (cool) and try to redirect the upset feelings about the insult ( which proves them to be not so smart) into determination - prep/ script the hell out of the next few calls - no greater motivation than spite - the second guy may have been just cornered and squirming - its the guy who started the comment I would watch