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Things you remember from your childhood that would not be ok today!

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Starlight1984 · 10/04/2025 14:18

Light-hearted and inspired by the comments on the baby in the pub thread (and TikTok!)😀

But what are things you remember from your childhood that people would be absolutely outraged at today?!

I remember being babysat by our neighbours child when I was 4/5 and she was about 12/13. God knows what she would have done if anything went wrong as there were no mobile phones to get hold of our parents?! 🤔

Also remember going to the pub in the summer but kids weren't allowed inside so we sat in the beer garden with a coca cola and bag of crisps whilst the adults were inside 😂

OP posts:
ColdWaterDipper · 11/04/2025 20:11

Being the youngest (well one of 2 youngest) so being allowed to sleep in a makeshift bed with a duvet and pillows in the boot of the Volvo on the way home from the theatre.

Being hit with a slipper or cane at school for any major misdemeanours (1980s).

Cycling down through France to our villa (near Biarritz) with no fancy bikes, gear, or helmets, just my father and uncle carrying a haversack each (note haversack not rucksack or backpack!) with a tent and supplies. We would just cycle til our legs almost fell off each day and then camp at the aires, children and adults in together, and eventually turn up at the villa to meet the mummies (who had sensibly driven the inevitable fleet of Volvo estates down there). There seemed to be no planning, just a general consensus of who wanted to cycle and who was too young (poor cousin Hugo was always too small in my memory and had to go like a baby with the mothers, but I’m sure he did come along with the jumble of cousins at some point 😂). Those trips were very fun, but I can’t imagine many children being allowed to do that now, and if they did they’d have all the specialist gear.

Also, we were allowed to drive my fathers small boat around by ourselves on holiday - the only rule being that someone in the boat had to be in double figures, which often meant my 10 year old brother was the ‘responsible person’ in the boat!

Being allowed to ride my pony out on the road alone from the age of 8, and I went off for miles by myself, riding through villages and remote bridleways. This was deemed perfectly reasonable as long as I had my chinstrap on my hat done up! Heads were obviously only allowed to be unprotected on bicycles but not on ponies 😂

ConnieHeart · 11/04/2025 20:10

CharlesPetrescu · 11/04/2025 18:16

Sweets for children which looked like cigarettes. Anyone else remember those?

Oh definitely. And the plastic "cigarettes" that you blew into to produce 'smoke'. Used to wander the streets with my cousins blowing into them age around 12 thinking we were really cool. My mum saw me from our house once & went mad when I got home. She asked to smell my breath!

Rhaenys · 11/04/2025 19:42

There was this one time my mum had to work but couldn’t get any childcare, so I had to go to work with her and sit in the car all day. 😂

Poppymeldrum · 11/04/2025 19:36

MD86 · 11/04/2025 19:31

I was thinking about the McCanns and how much stick they got for doing much less than these posts. People saying that nothing happened. But it could have - just luckier

Yes they shouldn't have left the kids,but they where just outside

I've popped outside (no further than my garden) to bring in washing or to put the bins out while the kids have been in bed

They made a massive mistake-and paid the price

My parents went much further and it's by the sheer grace of god,this woman didn't try to snatch one of us

In fact they where bloody useless parents and I'm amazed none of us siblings ended up dead-heath and safety just didn't enter their heads

That fact really is the grace of god-we came close many times

AppleDumplingWithCustard · 11/04/2025 19:35

Playing on bomb sites in London. In the 60s there were still lots of bomb damaged buildings around before any redevelopment took place. They made marvellous play spaces with half standing walls, many to first floor level and underground cellars. We had huge fun and there was no regard for health and safety.

MD86 · 11/04/2025 19:31

Poppymeldrum · 11/04/2025 08:14

My parents would drag us on holiday every year (same place,same hotel,same rooms just a different year)

Every single night,they would piss off to the pub a few miles away,leaving us in the room,get pissed out of their skulls and stagger home

One night a woman wandered into the hotel,found their room unlocked,got into their bed and was smoking away inches from my brothers face

My parents came back,found her and kicked her out before going to bed themselves

Guess who was the most judgemental of the mccanns for leaving their kids and having a meal yards from their room years later?

Nowadays,they'd find themselves the subject of ss,but not in the mid 80's,it was just a funny story to tell their mates-they where more pissed off over the fact she was smoking than the fact she could have ran off with one of us

If we ran out of seats in the car,one or two would sit in the boot and another in the footwell

The seat belt laws came in the day we where coming home from holiday and the car we where travelling in didn't have seat belts

We where told to sit and be still in the back

A mate of my mother's would come round,smoke a pack of 20 and then go home again

No thought to us kids

Ditto my chain smoking grandmother and aunt-the air would be thick with smoke but nobody opened a window

(In fact,if we said we couldn't breathe,we'd get a smack for whinging)

My brother had really bad asthma and nobody bothered-they just carried on chugging on their fags

Smacking wasn't an issue-my mother broke a cricket bat over my back and her friend grabbed my recorder and belted her ds so hard,it shattered

Nobody bothered about it-perfectly normal

In fact we'd go to school covered in bruises and nobody asked where we got them from

I was thinking about the McCanns and how much stick they got for doing much less than these posts. People saying that nothing happened. But it could have - just luckier

clarehhh · 11/04/2025 19:21

Going swimming at 9 with a friend even though I couldn't swim!

Pelsall116 · 11/04/2025 19:20

Knitting class at school, I was about 8 and we were all knitting gollys

NaneePolly · 11/04/2025 19:16

We were on holiday at Butlins in Ayre about 1965, I was about 8years old. In the theatre on an evening they used to announce “ baby crying in chalet xxx” and the parent would get up and leave the theatre to go to the baby.

Jabberwok · 11/04/2025 19:12

A couple just from primary school. Brand new state of the art school (1973). Two concrete sewage drains set in the tarmac of the infants play ground...called the tunnels...just the right night for an average 5 year old to run into and cut their head, so protected by a heavy rubber strip, held on by steel bolts.

I teacher used to walk around the class with a wooden dowel about 18 inches long and an inch wide. He would sing Ian dury's hit me with your rhythm stick as he smashed it down on your knuckles if he thought you were misbehaving.

NewsdeskJC · 11/04/2025 19:07

Oh and the Liberal smacking that all parents did.
Both my mum and dad smacked us frequently, as did all my friends parents.
I smacked one of my children once and felt terrible.
They have grown up to be responsible citizens.

JungAtHeart · 11/04/2025 19:05

Riding around with my friends in the back of my DDs Mini pickup. Collecting rent from lodgers on behalf of my DD from his boarding houses 😂 I was nine! Being lifted up and down in the bucket of a JCB on a building site …yep DD again. My DM worked evenings and she only ever knew what we got up to when she processed the films from his camera.

alcoholnightmare · 11/04/2025 19:03

Being smacked whilst trying to run up the stairs.. I didn’t cry so got smacked harder.

being left alone whilst my mum and step dad went to pub.

letting myself and my younger sister in the house as a very young child - small enough to climb through the cat flap.

MD86 · 11/04/2025 19:02

EineReiseDurchDieZeit · 10/04/2025 16:06

How Swallows And Amazons! There was an AIBU thread once from the perspective of the parents in S & A and lots of people didn’t get the reference and took it seriously, it was quite funny! I can’t remember the name of the thread.

Love the quote from the book
' better drowned than duffers - of not duffers, won't drown'

NewsdeskJC · 11/04/2025 19:02

The bunking off thing I find hilarious in retrospect.
I hated PE with a special loathing. My best mate (still mates 40 years later) literally never went. She said (and was right) that if you never went, no-one missed you. She spent large chunks of time in the nearby countryside reading Smash Hits.
On her report for PE she got the one word classic "satisfactory". As some one who actually went I got "barely satisfactory"
If ever there was a life lesson learnt early it was that one.

ImWearingPantaloons · 11/04/2025 18:56

Lots of my friends mums had estate cars. The boot was the best place to travel, especially if you had the dog in there with you

Dietlady58 · 11/04/2025 18:41

I remember, along with a classmate, being told to look after Form K (ie 4/5 year olds) during lunch hour whilst the nun/teacher had a break.
The inevitable happened. The class ran riot, completely ignoring us, and a little boy fell over and had to be taken to hospital . The other girl and I were 11 years old at the time and this was a private school!

fussychica · 11/04/2025 18:29

Well I'm 68 so I don't think there's much that happened in my youth that would be acceptable/ recognisable today. From being force feed school dinners, sleeping on the back seat of cars all the way to Cornwall, obviously without seat belts, walking to school on my own at primary school along a main London bus route, left alone in the house all evening or during the day in school holidays. Out all day with my cousin in London going to the Natural History Museum etc on our own at about 10. All seemed perfectly normal at the time.

HelpMeGetThrough · 11/04/2025 18:27

Watching Alf Garnett on TV.

not a bloody chance that would be on these days!!!

Hellofreshh · 11/04/2025 18:27

Walking to the shops (primary school age). Sat in the Internet cafe in the "char rooms" I can't even remember what we used to talk about 😂.

MD86 · 11/04/2025 18:26

My husband was dinner money
monitor in year6 primary school. He and another kid had to take the dinner money down to the high street bank every Monday - this would have been 1966

Gundogday · 11/04/2025 18:22

Aged 14-15, went on a youth trip. The whole group Ended up in the instructors caravan drinking Blue Nun.

CharlesPetrescu · 11/04/2025 18:16

Sweets for children which looked like cigarettes. Anyone else remember those?

Vivianebrookskoviak · 11/04/2025 18:01

Being made to strip down to your underwear and get changed and back again how many times until the teacher told you to stop if you forgot your PE kit....and stand in the doorway of the classroom each time which was just off the main hall, regardless of who was in there. Horrendous to think this was a rule and this was only around the late 80s early 90s.

kirinm · 11/04/2025 13:59

PassingStranger · 11/04/2025 13:47

Did anyones parents let them have a little steer of the car while going along?

Yep mine did. And I was also allowed to change the gears although was a bit older then.

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