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Holiday with someone I don’t know

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Overthebow · 10/04/2025 11:28

We’re booked to go on holiday with SIL and BIL, self catering holiday cottage. They’ve now said SIL brother may also come. We have a 4 year old dd and a baby, I’ve never met SIL brother and neither has my DC, aibu to say I don’t want him coming? And how would I even say that? I don’t feel comfortable with him staying in the house with my young dd when we don’t know him. I know he’s SIL brother but I don’t think that changes anything for me.

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Radiatorvalves · 10/04/2025 11:35

If the house is big enough I’d be ok with this. Might be an idea to meet before? And also set out expectations… will you eat together, go out together all the time (bad idea) or agree to do your own thing and get together for certain activities or meals?

Stevialive · 10/04/2025 11:35

Overthebow · 10/04/2025 11:33

Actually no, I do get on with them and like them, they’re great people, I just haven’t met her brother before. I have ASD so do find it difficult to figure out if something like this is normal and ok or not, or what’s fair to my DC as I know at her age I would have hated it.

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You get on great with people who are this inconsiderate and don’t even ask you?
bloody hell

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Overthebow · 10/04/2025 11:33

Stevialive · 10/04/2025 11:31

Am I correct in thinking you don’t generally get on well with your SIL and BIL? And your DH is something of a limp lettuce?

Actually no, I do get on with them and like them, they’re great people, I just haven’t met her brother before. I have ASD so do find it difficult to figure out if something like this is normal and ok or not, or what’s fair to my DC as I know at her age I would have hated it.

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FiveShelties · 10/04/2025 11:31

Why don't you feel comfortable with this?

Stevialive · 10/04/2025 11:31

Am I correct in thinking you don’t generally get on well with your SIL and BIL? And your DH is something of a limp lettuce?

TokyoSushi · 10/04/2025 11:29

What do you think is going to happen?