AIBU to resent my unemployed sister and her “difficult life”?

Buy a tiny violin, get it out & play it when she starts.

Yes exactly this. This is what I've seen too. It's not an age thing I don't think. It seems to happen too quickly.
I also think the human brain almost LOOKS for stress. Have you seen the stuff little kids get stressed about? "No, I wanted the BLUE cup" and then major meltdown? Or elderly people who get really panicked when they have an appointment for something really mundane before 9.30am that they might just oversleep (even though they're always up at 6??)

Well not really as if I were working, the. I would’ve shared the load with my dh. When I stayed at home, he didn’t have to do a thing apart from load the dishwasher and reading at bedtime. To me, that was a fair division of Labour. But if we were both working , we would’ve shared.

I guess the easiest thing to liken it to is your ivf. One friend of mind had her DB say to her “ how is it so stressful? Don’t you just go and have the treatment and just lie there?” But worries are worries.

Bloody hell. IVF is not like having spa treatments.

And “employed” usually means in paid work doesn’t it?

Only if they are available to work. Many are not and have to wish or need to look for work.
If someone asked a SAHP what they did, I would think most would say "homemaker". If they said unemployed, people would think they were available and looking for work.

I might add that if you are working full time and also doing a 100% of the cleaning, childcare, cooking, admin etc you are in fact doing TWO full time jobs, not one.

Many people get paid (very well) to complete these roles in the home. Such as housekeepers, cleaners, nannies and PAs. Unpaid is not the same as unemployed!

What a stupid thing to say.

Because mothers that care for children, clean the house, cook, shop and do all the admin are not doing anything with their time are they 🙄
Such mindless nonsense.

This happened with my dad literally within a few months of stopping work though - and he was only in his late 50s. He went from managing a large corporate division to finding it really quite hectic if he had an eye test and did the food shop in the same day. Obviously he was getting older, but not that quick!

They are unemployed.

"This. I've noticed that with a lot of people I know, after they retire, they'll tell me how busy / stressed they are because they have a dinner party to attend, a hairdressers appointment and a coffee date with friends ALL IN THE SAME WEEK!
Meanwhile I'm working full time and looking after young kids "

Yes, but they're OLD unless they retired very early.
We have less energy as we get older - that's why we retire!

That's the definition of a jobseeker, surely? I've been unemployed without seeking paid work immediate, such as between temping jobs. If you sing on for benefits you have to be looking for work, but not otherwise.
I still wouldn't consider a housewife to be unemployed though as she is 'employed' with tasks, just not with an employment contract.

My sister is in your sisters shoes and she never complains about anything - she has the good grace to know how lucky she is. But she’s a positive sort of person anyway who has never indulged in self pity.

your sister sounds spoilt.

Most of those working people live in much smaller houses that are infinitely easier to run and look after.

A different kind of busyness to your life but organising and preparing for multiple holidays, organising cleaners and gardeners and window cleaners does take up time too.

Oh, be still my beating heart, let's have a whip round to send her to a spa after organising holidays, cleaners, gardeners etc.! The stress of it all, most of which people who work do as well.

@Shwish @jewelcase I tend to agree. It's why so many older people find the most mundane things difficult. It's like that part of your brain switches off. I'd liken it a bit to a time when you've just had a long lie in and are feeling totally relaxed. Getting dressed and out the door can take ages and feel stressful wheras on a busy work morning you just do it.

So are the retired unemployed too? Severely disabled?
And children?

unemployed generally means someone who is seeking employment but is not currently working. Not just everyone who is not employed. 7 year olds are not unemployed. Neither are the severely intellectually disabled or SAHP who are SAH out of choice.

Or let's call it what it really is, bone idle! I love how MN finds some excuse for everything at the same time ignoring the obvious!

This. I've noticed that with a lot of people I know, after they retire, they'll tell me how busy / stressed they are because they have a dinner party to attend, a hairdressers appointment and a coffee date with friends ALL IN THE SAME WEEK!
Meanwhile I'm working full time and looking after young kids which includes ferrying them around all weekend so I literally get no downtime. I'll sit down to watch TV for an hour or so about 9.30 each night because that's when the chores and done and the kids are in bed.
But I expect one day I'll probably be the same.
I think when you dont have much going on you get used to that and then anything becomes stressful to you. It's just hard to imagine when you've literally got 20x as much going on yourself.

It just shows that money doesn’t buy happiness.

It helps - up to a certain level of income.
After that, you’re left yo deal with your own demons (whether it’s jealousy, loneliness, feeling unworthy etc etc… we all have some)

Gosh, so sad reading through those comments.
Again women cutting other women over what employed/unemployed/SAHP means..

I don't think I'd bother. Some people just like whining and don't realise that being happy is something you can practice.

Call her unemployed or ‘job free by choice’ if that offends people less? 🤣

Lovely words of wisdom @Andthispointstowhatexactly77