One day old baby in pub

There’s a huge difference between holding off taking a newborn to the pub for a few weeks and being chained to the sink forever more.

Speaking as one who had babies in the sixties, first one at 18, I can’t think of anything worse than going for lunch in a pub with a newborn. I wanted to get home, have peace and quiet and time with them, while having a rest. A noisy environment and having to converse with everyone who wanted to look at the new addition would be the last thing I wanted. We just wanted to keep baby to ourselves, plenty of time to share them later! No way would I have trudged round a supermarket. Those first few hours after leaving hospitals were too precious to be shared with strangers.

Maybe. But a pub is no place for a 1 day old. I don’t care if that makes me boring.

I stayed home 10 days which was the general advice back in the 80’s. I can’t imagine wanting to go to the pub, I just wanted to protect my fragile new human

Why wouldn’t it be? Small pub, popular venue, nice weather, lunchtime deals? The pub on our office road would be heaving with office workers on their lunch break as they did good lunch deals.

I wouldn’t risk my baby’s health for a nice meal in a pub, I would just order one to my house or have somebody make one for me.

This is ridiculous. There is a serious risk of haemorrhaging after childbirth. That is why people are advised to stay at home. Babies are susceptible to all kinds of illnesses being around lots of people.
I had my first when I was young and I stayed in for 3 weeks bonding as it’s such a precious time.

She can do what she wants. But a one day old baby does not have a functioning immune system. If it had caught an infection (flu, etc) from anyone it could have died and there’s very little doctors would have been able to do about it.

Obviously a 17 year old is immature and way too young to have a baby (and very unlikely to be well educated on matters to do with caring for a baby), so her behaviour does not surprise me.

Horrifying! Babies need to be at home in a safe, snug, loving environment not being paraded in a pub! Pubs contain all the wrong energy for a baby, a truly toxic mix.

Personally I look back on those initial days with my first born as a wonderful haze of love, getting to know each other in our own little bubble. Nursing her, singing to her, bathing her - being in awe of her. I remember the smells and the feelings of having this new little human and had no desire to "show her off", although I was happy for close family to visit.

I do not class myself as 'pfb' material and of course when you have subsequent babies practicalities take over and my DD2 was taken out on in her first week of life.

But those early days with my first daughter, just me, DH and her - I treasure those memories.

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look huns, if you wanna be needlessly cooped up indoors for weeks on end after having a baby - you do you.
meanwhile other women are going exercise their common sense and balance having a baby with having a life.

p.s have either of you actually ever been in a pub? I think not given the alcohol soaked, debauched, cold, unsafe, germ ridden hovels that you seem to envision them to be!

So family member gave birth to first baby yesterday afternoon, she's a very young mum only 17 , normal delivery but episiotomy, baby good weight healthy. Was discharged home today and a couple of hours later was at the local pub not drinking alcohol just showing baby off and eating a meal , but am I right in thinking a day old baby baby is really too young to be in a pub or anywhere really , also worried she should be resting as obviously will be sore. Other family members have said I'm being old fashioned am I.

It still depends on the baby and situation- that article fixates a lot on kissing and the herpes virus as well as chicken pox. Newborn babies are only at risk of these if they have no maternal antibodies. Since I’ve had chicken pox and cold sores in the past neither of those were a concern to me with my newborn.

im just uncertain of the narrative that even mild colds and viruses are ‘extremely dangerous’ to newborns as has been peddled by a few on this thread. If this was the case why is there no widespread guidance on how to deal with bringing babies into a home already inhabited by toddlers and small children who are the germiest biohazards known to man. If it was that dangerous you’d be advised to send them packing for a couple of months.

I also remember in the COVID pandemic newborns were not considered clinically vulnerable despite all immunocompromised groups being so.

Agreed. And if you can't put your family's NEEDS (i.e. cleaned doorstep) ahead of your own SELFISH behaviours (i.e. doing other things), then we should call Social Services!

OK I guess? You do you and leave off judging others?

In general babies need quiet environments, soft voice, time and space to bond with mum. If the pub is crowded, people shouting, loud music and baby is passed around for people to see that can overwhelm them and make them restless. Also if there lots of people, the risk of catching something is higher and babies do not have the immune system to fight anything nor allowed Calpol until they are 2 months old to fight fever. Unless it’s a quiet place with not too many people there, it might be okay. I appreciate everyone’s opinion is different so it is up to carers to decide 😊xx

I think it’s time we added expert opinions from doctors and professors.

www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/new-parents-and-newborns-are-visitors-ok

OK I guess? You do you and leave off judging others?

I wouldn’t risk my baby’s health for a nice meal in a pub, I would just order one to my house or have somebody make one for me.

I’ve had a number of haemorrhages, and I can say quite categorically I’d much prefer to have a medic spread my legs and insert their fist to attempt to stop the bleeding in the privacy of my own home rather than on a pub carpet.