One day old baby in pub

"older mums" lol some of the older mums I know are shooting up heroin whilst pregnant and going out leaving their babies alone.
So because one individual mentioned in the ops post is young you think you can make some kind of point about older mums?
The op herself has said she had her first child at 16 and so did I and wouldn't of been in the pub after one day. Almost like everyone is different no matter their age 🤔

Comprehension fail! I was clearly referring to those who return home and put the drawbridge up for a month or so to be in a bubble with their little family. Al so those who never let their child out of their arms then wonder why the child has 'attachment' issues when going to pre-school etc., a situation that worsens as the child gets older and the parents more clingy. I quite honestly think that parenting styles today contribute to the explosion of problems later in life.

I was out and about running errands with my DD a few days after she was born. I was too antsy to stay home all day.

she’s now 30 and is doing well, barely been sick possibly cause I exposed her to people and environments early and often

my friend was so upset that her dd went with her new born to the local pub and it is not a naice pub
i dont think they talk anymore

I was pushed under the pub benches at a few days old in my carry cot. My parents aren’t alcoholic at all but had something booked. Not harmed me in any way, I’m sure new mum and baby will be fine 😊

Maybe so. It’s still incorrect to say that a 17 year old would be underage if they were drinking alcohol in a pub. It’s perfectly legal with a meal.

Not if she is eating a meal (think OP said she was - I lose track after such a long thread)

Many pubs still don't allow it

Who said the pub was busy? Our local ones arent midweek lunchtime

Not whilst having a meal she wouldn’t.

She would be underage to drink in the pub anyway

Do you think she was bonking the baby's head against the table?

@BoldAmberDuck

speak for yourself! Plenty of mums “older” or otherwise could think of nothing worse than being stuck indoors for days on end after giving birth.

Some people like to get showered and dressed into some decent clothes, maybe pop a bit of makeup on and get out and about! Especially in weather like this - fab beer garden weather 🥂 🌞 And guess what? It doesn’t make them less good a mother than you!

If Parents take their newborns on walks and to relatives houses for a few weeks and not the pub, they’re destined to have issues..?

Exactly a haemorrhage is a haemorrhage no matter where it happens and I'm sure the mum has been warned of this .

I think it's a great way of avoiding PPD. Getting out, seeing friends. It would definitely keep my mind off feeling sore and tired. As long as she remembered to feed the baby, I don't have a problem with it.

The halos of those who hibernated for weeks must cause terrible headaches. On MN it's not popular to say one had a fairly straight forward birth but many do. The young mother was doing a pretty normal thing, having a bit of life herself to no detriment of her precious baby. If more parents dumped the 'bubbles' and 'little families' ideas and were not helicoptering for the child's first 30 years there may be fewer children with all kinds of 'issues' because they could cope better with what life presented to them.

Not everyone finds giving birth traumatic or something thst needs hiding away to recover from. It never occurred to me to stay inside because I felt fine and wanted to be doing normal things and enjoying all of it. My babies were just protected in my arms or in a sling in a pub, park or cafe as they were in my own lounge.

“Older mums”? Count me out then-I was 37 and 41 when I took mine out safely cuddled in a sling at a day old. Because I felt up to it and wanted to. If it made you happy to stay in all day that’s absolutely fine. It made me happy to be out for a couple of hours. I don’t judge you-you don’t judge me.

I think you're very unreasonable for starting a thread on a public forum about another woman, presumably without her knowledge, because of your assumption about whether or not she has soreness in her vagina/perineum. It is literally none of your business to speculate.
Be happy for the gift of new life, and leave it.
(Edited for typo)

Older mums are more likely to have spent longer in hospital after birth, as the societal trend has gone downwards over the last few decades. Even for those who were out next day in the 70s or similar, it would be wise to reflect that societal trends in postnatal care norms play a part.

I say this as a millennial who's still been enjoying an all expenses NHS stay on Day 1 every time I've given birth!

Ridiculous

Maybe it’s ok just to mind your own business

There’s some very sarcastic people on here! No need. I think the majority of us older mums will have wanted just to recover from the trauma of giving birth, hide away in our ‘nest’ and bond with our babies. It’s such a treasured time and a pub would have no part to play in this. Their little heads are so fragile, 24 hours old! Even animals hide away and protect their young. It’s just a maternal instinct but I guess I’ll get slated for saying that

Sounds great she is celebrating new life!!!